How to attract like-minded people to inspire you

How to attract like-minded people to inspire you

D o you ever feel alone on the spiritual journey?
… Like the people around you just don’t get it?

A lot of us do, and we have an awesome show today about how to attract like minded friends who are on the same ‘wave-length’ as you.

It’s not easy when you start to change, and suddenly the people around you don’t ‘like’ you anymore.

Or when you try and fit into a version of yourself you used to be when it really doesn’t feel authentic anymore.

Check out today’s episode where we answer Dani’s awesome question on “How to attract like minded friends by being yourself.”

As Michael shared in the show, like minded friends can only find you (and know you exist) when you’re being yourself – your full beautiful self. So don’t hide, be yourself and have love in your heart for each and every soul (‘awake’ or ‘asleep’). Now we’d love to hear from you.

HAVE YOU EVER FELT ALONE ON YOUR SPIRITUAL JOURNEY?
WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO ATTRACT LIKE MINDED FRIENDS THAT YOU RESONATE WITH?

Tell us about it in the comments below.

Remember, don’t be shy because you might have the exact insight that someone else needs to have a breakthrough. We all love learning your wisdom.

… Because hey, we’re soul family here after all.

Thank you for watching, reading and sharing.

We love you, you’re awesome.

Michael and Arielle

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“Busy” used to be a fair description of the typical schedule. More and more, though, “busy” simply doesn’t cut it.

“Busy” has been replaced with “too busy”, “far too busy”, or “absolutely buried.” It’s true that being productive often means being busy…but it’s only true up to a point.

As you likely know from personal experience, you can become so busy that you reach a tipping point…a point where your life tips over and falls apart because you can no longer withstand the weight of your commitments.

Once you’ve reached that point, it becomes fairly obvious that you’ve over-committed yourself.

The trick, though, is to recognize the signs of “too busy” before you reach that tipping point. A little self-assessment and some proactive schedule-thinning can prevent you from having that meltdown.

To help you in that self-assessment, here are 7 signs that you’re way too busy:

1. You Can’t Remember the Last Time You Took a Day Off

Occasional periods of rest are not unproductive, they are essential to productivity. Extended periods of non-stop activity result in fatigue, and fatigue results in lower-quality output. As Sydney J. Harris once said,

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”

2. Those Closest to You Have Stopped Asking for Your Time

Why? They simply know that you have no time to give them. Your loved ones will be persistent for a long time, but once you reach the point where they’ve stopped asking, you’ve reached a dangerous level of busy.

3. Activities like Eating Are Always Done in Tandem with Other Tasks

If you constantly find yourself using meal times, car rides, etc. as times to catch up on emails, phone calls, or calendar readjustments, it’s time to lighten the load.

It’s one thing to use your time efficiently. It’s a whole different ballgame, though, when you have so little time that you can’t even focus on feeding yourself.

4. You’re Consistently More Tired When You Get up in the Morning Than You Are When You Go to Bed

One of the surest signs of an overloaded schedule is morning fatigue. This is a good indication that you’ve not rested well during the night, which is a good sign that you’ve got way too much on your mind.

If you’ve got so much to do that you can’t even shut your mind down when you’re laying in bed, you’re too busy.

5. The Most Exercise You Get Is Sprinting from One Commitment to the Next

It’s proven that exercise promotes healthy lives. If you don’t care about that, that’s one thing. If you’d like to exercise, though, but you just don’t have time for it, you’re too busy.

If the closest thing you get to exercise is running from your office to your car because you’re late for your ninth appointment of the day, it’s time to slow down.

6. You Dread Getting up in the Morning

If your days are so crammed full that you literally dread even starting them, you’re too busy. A new day should hold at least a small level of refreshment and excitement. Scale back until you find that place again.

7. “Survival Mode” Is Your Only Mode

If you can’t remember what it feels like to be ahead of schedule, or at least “caught up”, you’re too busy.

So, How To Get out of Busyness?

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LAWRENCE — A path-breaking new study on how we seek similarity in relationships, co-authored by researchers at Wellesley College and the University of Kansas, upends the idea that “opposites attract,” instead suggesting we’re drawn to people who are like-minded. The study could lead to a fundamental change in understanding relationship formation—and it sounds a warning for the idea that couples can change each other over time.

The investigation’s findings are presented in “Similarity in Relationships as Niche Construction: Choice, Stability, and Influence Within Dyads in a Free Choice Environment” in the current issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, the field’s most respected journal. Angela Bahns, assistant professor of psychology at Wellesley College, and Chris Crandall, KU professor of psychology, are the paper’s lead authors.

In what might be considered a paradigm shift, the study’s most surprising discovery is that people in relationships do not change each other over time. Instead, Bahns and Crandall’s evidence places new emphasis on the earliest moments of a relationship — revealing that future friends or partners are already similar at the outset of their social connection, a major new finding, say the authors.

“Picture two strangers striking up a conversation on a plane, or a couple on a blind date,” Bahns said. “From the very first moments of awkward banter, how similar the two people are is immediately and powerfully playing a role in future interactions. Will they connect? Or walk away? Those early recognitions of similarity are really consequential in that decision.”

Whether a relationship develops could depend on the level of similarity the two individuals share from the beginning of their meeting.

“You try to create a social world where you’re comfortable, where you succeed, where you have people you can trust and with whom you can cooperate to meet your goals,” Crandall said. “To create this, similarity is very useful, and people are attracted to it most of the time.”

Bahns added, “Though the idea that partners influence each other is central in relationships research, we have identified a large domain in which friends show very little change — personality, attitudes and values, and a selection of socially relevant behaviors. To be clear, we do not mean to suggest that social influence doesn’t happen in relationships; however, there’s little room for influence to occur when partners are similar at the outset of relationships.”

The data also suggests our drive to select like-minded others may be far stronger than previously assumed.

“We’re arguing that selecting similar others as relationship partners is extremely common — so common and so widespread on so many dimensions that it could be described as a psychological default,” Bahns said.

Bahns and Crandall stress the research shows people are not seeking shared similarity on one or two particular topics.

“People are more similar than chance on almost everything we measure, and they are especially similar on the things that matter most to them personally,” Bahns said.

The study has major implications for how we grasp the foundations of relationships and approach relationships when the partners are different. Its findings were derived from real-world relationships. Data came from a field-research method dubbed “free-range dyad harvesting,” in which pairs of people interacting in public (romantic couples, friends, acquaintances) were asked questions about attitudes, values, prejudices, personality traits or behaviors that are important to them. The data were compared to see how similar or different the pairs were and to test whether pairs who had known each other longer and whose relationships were closer and more intimate were more similar than newly formed pairs. They were not.

Additionally, the researchers surveyed pairs who had just met (in a college classroom setting), then surveyed the same pairs later. This allowed the benefit of longitudinal data, painting a picture of the same pairs over time.

“In a smaller study that led up to this one, we looked at students at KU, a big state university, and several smaller colleges in western and central Kansas,” Crandall said. “At KU, people found people who were more similar to themselves than at small colleges, where there just aren’t as many choices in friends. At small colleges friends were less similar — but just as close and satisfied, and spent the same amount of time together. We know that people pick similar people at first, but if you go out of your way you can find excellent friends, and meaningful relationships, with people who are different.”

Such dissimilar friends didn’t necessarily blend their points-of-view over time, the study showed.

“Anything that disrupts the harmony of the relationship — such as areas of disagreement, especially on attitudes, values or preferences that are important — is likely to persist,” Bahns said.

She added this could be a “cautionary message” for those who think they can change their friends or romantic partners: “Change is difficult and unlikely. It’s easier to select people who are compatible with your needs and goals from the beginning.”

The researchers said the quest for similarity in friends could result in a lack of exposure to other ideas, values and perspectives.

“Getting along with people who aren’t like you is really useful,” Crandall said. “Friends are for comfort, taking it easy, relaxing, not being challenged — and those are good things. But you can’t have only that need. You also need new ideas, people to correct you when you’re loony. If you hang out only with people who are loony like you, you can be out of touch with the big, beautiful diverse world.”

Bahns noted the drive toward similarity presents the drawback of “limited exposure to different ideas and beliefs” along with rewards like “stability of identity, value systems and ideology.”

“[This is] the largest field study on friendship formation that I know of,” said Professor Wendy Berry Mendes, the Sarlo/Ekman Chair in the Study of Human Emotion at the University of California-San Francisco. “The authors provide convincing data that friendships are driven more by pre-existing similarity between friends rather than friends becoming more similar over time due to influencing each other. [This research offers] one of the most definitive accounts showing that not only do ‘birds of a feather flock together’ but goes one step further to show that ‘birds of a feather find each other before flocking.’”

The University of Kansas is a major comprehensive research and teaching university. The university’s mission is to lift students and society by educating leaders, building healthy communities and making discoveries that change the world. The KU News Service is the central public relations office for the Lawrence campus.

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Personality marketing is like a magnet. When you do it right, your tribe, “your kind of people” will naturally feel gravitated towards you. Conversely, you’ll also often polarize people away from you. But at the end of the day, your audience size will grow much faster and with much more momentum.

How can you use your personality to attract like minded people?

==> Fine Tune Your In Person Radar

When you meet someone in person and get the feeling that this person is like you, pay attention to that feeling. Some people call this rapport, some people call it “clicking” with another person.

The more strongly you express your personality, the more likely you are to click with people. What you’re really looking for is a sense of kinship that feels strong, without reason. Chances are these are “your people.”

==> Actively Contact People Online, Personally

Get in the habit of reaching out and connecting with other people on a regular basis. Send people personal emails that are laced with personality.

For example, let’s say you run a blog. You notice in your blog comments that someone else is commenting on your blog regularly. You think there might be a win / win way you two could work together.

Send them an email. Make it personal. If your personality is funny and casual, make your email funny and casual. Let your personality shine through. It’s very hard to ignore a personality filled email.

Twitter is a great platform for strong personalities. If you can fit your personality into 140 characters, you can really go a long way. Twitter is really all about sending out tweets that people want to follow. And people love following characters who’re fun to read.

If you have a strong personality, use Twitter. Try to get your personality to come across in your actual tweets, not just in the content linked to on your website.

Your personality will open doors. Always say yes when those doors open.

For example, if you have an extravagant personality, you might get invited to show up for a morning radio show. Say yes. You never know what might come of it.

If you have a professor like personality, you might be invited to speak on stage. Again, say yes. Doing so will put your personality in front of even more people, which will open even more doors.

Strong personalities begets opportunity, which begets more opportunities. Let your personality open doors for you by saying yes.

If you really let your personality shine and follow up consistently, you’ll pretty soon be surrounded by like minded people who you love working with. That’s when your business or your career will really take off.

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Investing in your community is a lifeline for your organization. When you have a strong and loyal community behind you who sees your vision, understands what you are building and supports it, you can be assured that what you’re dedicating your life to has the opportunity to grow and soar beyond your wildest dreams.

But the first step is cultivating a community. Here are 4 key, yet powerful ways, to navigate you through your building stages.

Give personalized responses to customers’ feedback, whether through email, Facebook messages, or Tweets. Treat all questions with the same degree of importance and respect, even if the answer can be found on the front page of your website. If you show your appreciation for your customers, they’re much more likely to do the same for you and spread the word about how awesome you are.

These tips are here to support you as you build your dream. Feel free to share your ideas or questions below to keep the conversation going!

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How to attract like-minded people to inspire you

Interested in having more like-minded people in your life? Who wouldn’t, right?

Finding these people can be extremely easy, if you go about it smartly.

You are a unique person with unique interests. But you might not have people in your life to share these interests with. Where are these people hiding?

If the internet has proved anything, it’s that you’re not alone. These days, you can find thousands of people around the world with interests similar to yours.

Even if your interest is in manly mustaches. (Or dating people with manly mustaches.)

Interacting with these people online is great, but it doesn’t compare to actually meeting with them in the real world.

Unfortunately, it isn’t as easy to find these people in the flesh. But there’s one convenient technique that allows these people to find you, instead of you having to search for them.

Online vs. Offline

In the online world people can interact anonymously. They don’t have to reveal where they live, or disclose their true names, if they don’t feel like it.

This leads to an environment where people are more comfortable with expressing who they truly are.

When online, people are willing to share all kinds of things about themselves and their unique interests. This is one of the beauties of the internet, and the main reason why it’s so easy to find likeminded people there.

But when we unplug from this virtual reality, the game changes in an instant.

All of the sudden people become more reserved about revealing their true interests and passions. Maybe they’re afraid of what others might think of them.

In the real world most people want to fit in, more than anything else.

This leads to a phenomenon of everyone trying to be ‘normal’. This can be witnessed on many different levels, such as: people trying to dress like each other, or people only being willing to express popular opinions, etc.

When everyone is pretending to be normal it’s hard to find people who share your particular interests. Although, you can be sure they’re out there, all around you.

Have Them Come To You

So, what we have on our hands is a mass of people pretending to be average. Yet, no one is truly ‘average’ deep inside!

How on earth will you find your people in this environment?

Go and ask random people on the street if they share your interests and you probably won’t have great results. This approach is very inefficient.

Instead of hunting down likeminded people, you can actually have them find you.

Doing this can be very simple, and the solution is this: display your unique interests where others can see them.

From now on, think of yourself as a kind of living billboard with the power to attract likeminded people.

Your outside appearance tells people a lot about you. Why not use it to your advantage. Create an appearance that signals your people that you are one of them.

This can be done in numerous ways, some being more subtle than others.

Take this to a level that feels comfortable for you. There’s no need to go overboard.

If you’re into a specific band, you could put on a fan t-shirt when you go out. This is a great conversation starter for the people around you who share your passion for this band.

They are probably dying to meet likeminded people as well.

Make it easy for them to discover you.

What’s Stopping Us?

People are scared to display their interests openly because they think others might consider them weird. I’ve felt this fear, and I’m guessing you’ve felt it as well.

I’ve had some great practice with confronting this fear by wearing my Vibram Fivefingers around town.

Sure, some might think I’m weird but it’s a price I’m willing to pay. I wear them because they are good for my posture. And they also display my passion for healthy living.

Wearing these shoes clearly reveals an aspect and interests of mine to the outside world. This will help likeminded people find me as I go about my day.

If you pretend to be like everyone else you’ll miss out on countless of opportunities to meet people sharing your passions and interests.

Stop trying to please everyone; it’s a pointless task anyways.

Conclusion

It’s incredible fun to hang out with people who share your interests. And it’s just way more enjoyable to do offline.

The reason why most people don’t get to do this is because they’re afraid to reveal their true self to those around them. They pretend to be average, just like most of the people out there.

You can break this pattern by displaying your interests bravely. Likeminded people will find you, and they’ll be happy that you had the courage to expose your true interests.

This might be a bit scary at first but you can start small and build your way up.

How to attract like-minded people to inspire you

The current job market swings heavily in favor of candidates. Top-tier professionals know how in-demand they are, and if you don’t market yourself properly as an employer, you might lose your dream employee to a competitor.

The secret to attracting high-quality applicants is differentiating yourself from other industry players, and showing top talent how joining your company can help them reach their career goals. We asked members of Forbes Human Resources Council how to make your employer brand stand out. Their best answers are below.

HR professionals talk tips.

1. Offer Clarity, Conviction And Career Opportunities

Attracting top talent is done by communicating what we all want in a new job — clarity about what our mission is, to work with others who share the conviction that what the company is doing matters and to know that new experiences and career options abound. Find ways to authentically express these things through video, robust career pages and personal communications from senior leaders. – Stacey Browning, Paycor

2. Be Flexible And Unique

We are shifting into an era where the “traditional” office environment and compensation models are no longer as appealing as they used to be. Show candidates that you value work-life balance and individuality. Whether is the option to work some days from home or allowing employees to move about an open office environment, give them some flexibility. – Tiffany Servatius, Scott’s Marketplace

3. Use Your Employees As Brand Ambassadors

Your business leaders and teammates can significantly impact your ability to attract top talent by creating talent ambassador LinkedIn profiles, reaching out to high potential candidates, taking time to conduct reviews on platforms such as Glassdoor and Indeed and helping generate content that is rich in the organization’s culture. – Philip Dana, Bridgepoint Education

4. Know Your Employer Value Proposition

An organization looking to stand out from competitors when seeking to attract top talent must be able to articulate and share how the employee value proposition is lived every day, along with the vision and mission of the organization. Just as an organization has a brand for the external market, there needs to be an employee brand that can effectively communicate the employee experience. – Sherry Martin, Denver Public Schools

5. Know Your Target Audience Really Well

Recruiting is selling. Identify your our target audience and understand your organization’s selling points. What do we have to offer, and who would benefit from what we can offer? With these details, you can place your company brand in the center of your target audience. Advertise your organization’s culture, and echo your talent’s needs, skills and attitudes as it relates to your brand. – Tasha Bell, Talbert House

6. Understand The Full Candidate Experience And Life Cycle

Your organization’s reputation permeates candidate decisions. The candidate experience is a continuum that begins prior to the candidate contemplating a role with your organization (brand awareness) and extends well beyond the time they may leave. Learn from brand and marketing colleagues to better position yourself in the market to have the greatest impact. – John Sigmon, johnsigmon.com

7. Put Your People First

When you truly care for your employees, they’ll care for one another, your customers and the community. Go beyond amazing benefits. Foster a workplace that thrives on trust and respect for all individuals — and protect that culture every day. Word will get out. Your people will talk, and they’ll refer like-minded, talented people who believe in your culture and your mission. – Vivian Maza, ultimatesoftware.com

8. Identify And Articulate Your Purpose

Companies with purpose attract and retain better talent. Finding out your “why” translates into your unique value proposition to candidates (and employees). This is not a marketing statement, a mission (where you are going) or vision (where you would like to be). Purpose defines why you do what you do, which motivates candidates to join the charge and apply. – Stacie Mallen, CampusLogic

9. Use Social Media To Your Advantage

With social media, organizations now have an opportunity to be visible to many. Candidates are doing their research prior to accepting interviews. They want to know what your current employees are saying about you. Brand your page with more employee-related events. Take control of your company’s image and become a people-focused employer and you will automatically attract top talent. – Charece Newell, MSILR, sHRBP, Sunspire Health

10. Invest In Education

We’ve found high-performing people see learning opportunities as an integral component that contributes to their workplace engagement. Smart employers must develop engaging new experiences for their top talent. Tailoring learning initiatives to career exploration and growth can make employees feel personally valued, increasing their loyalty if other firms come calling. – Lisa Sterling, Ceridian

11. Validate Your Talent Acquisition Strategy

Before recruiting, organizations should validate that their talent acquisition strategy is designed to attract the right talent. A great way to do that is to get input from current high performers about what attracted them to the organization and their role. Also, ensure that your hiring process is not a barrier to making timely hiring decisions; otherwise, applicants will lose interest. – Bridgette Wilder, Wilder HR Management & EEO Consulting

12. Be Authentic

Don’t put on a show to snag a candidate. It’s critical the candidate knows exactly what he or she is walking into and can make a smart decision about the future. The only way to know if it is a fit is for both parties to have open eyes and clarity. – Sara Whitman, Peppercomm

How to attract like-minded people to inspire youHave you ever hung out with people who just complain, gossip and talk behind others’ backs?

How did you feel after hanging out with them?

If you contributed in the gossiping and complaining, you definitely need to change your mindset and start hanging around those who do the opposite of what your current social circle is doing.

I have hung out with these type of negative people for most of my life because I went to middle school with these people which led to me hanging out with them in high school and in University.

Imagine how I had felt hanging around with negative people for more than seven years?

Imagine how hanging out with these people for many years have shaped my beliefs and my mindset?

Do you think that I became a more positive person ?

Most of the time I did not contribute in their complaining and just let them gossip and talk behind our other friends’ back, but this had a negative effect on me subconsciously.

I never felt good hanging out with these type of people, I just felt down and I started to view the world with a scarcity mindset. This had the most impact on me during my University years.

When I started to get better marks on them on exams, they started to kick me out of their social circle subtly and started to talk behind my back. These type of negative people love others who are below them both in terms of success and financially.

Before, they had viewed me as lower than them because I used to say that I got bad grades even though I did better than them. When I started to realize how much I was getting affected by their negativity, I started to tell them my REAL grades whenever they asked me.

Slowly by slowly, they stopped talking to me and started talking about me. I am thankful that they stopped talking to me because I did not need that negativity in my life.

If you realize you are hanging around these type of negative people, cut them out of your life or reduce contact with them. I did not do this for the longest time and I just felt AWFUL afterwards.

I know that some people say that you can let other people’s negativity rub off on you, you just have to ignore it. I tried this, but I felt subconsciously that it had rubbed off on me personally. I don’t know, it may not affect others but it definitely affected ME.

Some traits to identify negative people

– Hates on other peoples’ success

Complains about everything

– Gossips and talks behind their friends’ back

– Jealous of other peoples’ success

– Constantly brag about themselves and try to one-up everyone

Ask yourself this, “What are the benefits of hanging around these types of negative people?”

The type of friends that I had constantly hated on successful people ranging from music artists to entrepreneurs. This showed to me that they did not know what it took for those people to BECOME successful in their lives.

If you were successful right now, would you still hate on other people who are trying to become successful?

I would not because I would have known the struggle and HARD WORK to become successful and so I would be cheering for everyone else.

Here’s a small exercise to do:

1. When you are hanging out with other people who are negative, write down or think about how you felt after talking to them

2. When you are hanging out with positive people who discuss ideas, inspire each other etc. Write down or think about how you felt after talking to them.

3. Now compare both feelings from hanging out with negative and positive people

4. Now choose which path you want to follow. If you want to continue hanging around negative people, go for it, no one’s stopping you.

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I want to find people with the same issues on personal growth in my town. My friends are not in this and I feel very alone. How can I find people, how can I address them, how can I maybe found a circle? – Nicole

Hi Nicole! I gather your question relates to finding like-minded friends. How can one (a) find like-minded people and (b) befriend them?

There are many ways of finding like-minded friends. When I first started in my journey 3 years ago, it’s fair to say that none of the people I knew shared similar interests in personal development (at least not in the same intensity or capacity as I had). I also didn’t know anyone who was in the domain of blogging, coaching or speaking.

Today, however, I feel I’m surrounded by a lot of people with similar values and interests. I feel that I’m able to connect deeply with those around me, and talk about topics close to my heart. All of you reading Personal Excellence now would be an example of that. 😀

It didn’t just happen magically, of course. It was a conscious effort on my part to make this happen.

The first thing I did was to think about the kind of people I wanted to meet. One, I wanted to meet more people who are driven about their growth – regardless of what they do. Two, since I was venturing into (a) blogging (b) coaching as a profession, I wanted to meet people who were in the fields too, for knowledge sharing and business development purposes.

After I identified who I wanted to meet, I brainstormed where I could *find* such people. After all, there are 7 billion people in the world – There have to be people who fit the profile of who I want to meet! The question was *how* to meet these people, and not whether these people exist – because they obviously do.

On an empirical level, I realized that to meet growth-oriented people, all I had to do was to pursue my goals and dreams relentlessly – and I would naturally attract/meet people who share similar visions in my path.

Specific to blogging, I looked out to the personal development blogosphere and contacted quite a few personal development bloggers to network with them. Quite a few of them responded, and from there I followed up duly and built on our relationships. It created the opening to contact each other if we ever needed any perspective or support. Specific to coaching, I joined a coaching skills workshop to learn more about coaching, while using it as an opportunity to meet fellow life coaches in the field. That I did, and while it ultimately was more of a nice-to-have action (vs. serving a pivotal role in my path), it helped me to make more like-minded minds, expand my network, and broaden my mindset.

There are many ways to start meeting like-minded people. First off, be clear on the kind of people you want to meet. If you’re interested to be a writer, perhaps you want to meet other writers. If you want to lose weight, perhaps you want to meet people who are conscious about their diets and exercise. Being clear of your criteria helps you to be laser focused in your efforts.

Next, think about where such people will hang out. Meet-up groups (such as Meetup.com) is a great way to get started. For example, I didn’t have any vegetarian friends at all when I adopted a vegetarian diet in 2008. It was through going to a vegetarian meet-up (via Meetup.com) that I made my first vegetarian friends — and I ended up being very good friends with some of them thereafter. Communities and recreational clubs are also another avenue to meet like-minded people. For example, people who go to salsa classes would have some inherent interest in salsa/dancing.

(This article shares seven different places you can meet more (like-minded) people: Cooped Up Indoors? Get a Life with These 7 Tips.)

It might feel intimidating at first, but you’ll find that once you take the first bold steps forward, things will start to fall into place one by one, and doors will open thereafter. After all, where the intention goes, the energy energy flows. If you set the intention to meet like-minded friends and you follow up with concrete action, it’s simply a matter of time before you meet said people who share similar values as you. Just keep at it and you will see results in time.

More useful reading:

  • 10 Useful Tips To Make New Friends — Tips to foster new friendships
  • How To Have More Best Friends in Your Life — Handy guide after you find a circle of like-minded friends