“There is no way to happiness; happiness is the way.”
It was 5 AM in the morning when the same group of “crazies” gathered in the garden near my house. Unafraid, they’d always participate in their “cult” in the wee hours of the day. “Not today”, I thought. I was up early to investigate what the hell they were up to. Most of them seemed above age 50, but there were younger ones as well.
The leader of the crazies waited until everyone was in, and then began the ceremony. He erupted into a sudden laughter, “Ha ha ha, hoo hoo hoo”… and slowly, his gang joined him.
In a few minutes, each of the crazies was laughing their heads off. The cult was now at its culmination, with some members rolling on the grass, laughing.
I watched in all seriousness, trying not to join them from my bedroom window. Something about their laughter; it was contagious. I shook my head to concentrate. What were they up to?
After 35 mins, they stopped, said goodbyes, and quickly dispersed. Only to come back the next morning.
No body could have said it better than Thich Nhat Hanh — happiness is not a destination. It’s your journey, and you can experience it right now. That, if you wanted to.
Before you expect reading with a one-size-fit-all solution for happiness from me, let me tell you that I don’t think it exists. You’re bound to have low moments. But you’re after a quick fix! Now!
Before you’re ready to curse me under your breath and shut your browser window, listen. Just as there cannot be light without the dark, happiness loses it’s meaning without challenges. By happiness, I mean that dose of excitement and high that you get every once in a while.
At its core, happiness is nothing but the release of serotonin in your body. We’re all seeking the serotonin like a drug. It’s become the latest fad.
And why not? Life’s supposed to be enjoyed, flaws and all. The odds may not be always in your favor, but you want to be so.
Now that we’re on the same page, let’s dig some ways of how to be happy today, and everyday.
1. It all Starts with a Thought
You choose how happy you are with the thoughts you think. Always wondering whether your next promotion is around the corner? Constantly worrying about how to beat your colleague’s next luxury car buy? You’re triggering more anxiety than happiness.
Thoughts lead to feelings, and most people act based on their feelings. Thoughts indirectly lead to your behavior. Your behavior, or actions, determine pretty much the rest of your life.
To intervene this chain, focus on your thoughts first.
Consider there is a field of potential all around you. Some New Age authors will call it the Universe. So, let’s say this Universe is a massive field that works with the currency of thoughts.
Thoughts in, results out. Happy thoughts, happy results. Sad thoughts, sad results.
It’s simple: Positive thoughts will make you happier, and negative thoughts will move you away from being happy.
“I can never make 6 figures!” is a negative thought you’re exchanging for a negative result from the Universe.
“I am so glad my partner understands me!” is a positive thought that leads to a spike in your happiness.
You can always replace a negative thought:
“I can never make 6 figures, but if I keep doing what I am doing and keep trying, I will get there someday.”
This thought ends with a positive note. A simple reframe using “but” leads you one step closer to happiness.
2. The Happiness Delivery Guy Isn’t Coming
We all come to this world alone, and leave alone. En route, we meet some incredibly loving people who put up with our crap (God bless them). No matter how much your mum loves you, and tries to “make” you happy, she cannot.
People who love us are on their own journey. They have their own trials and tribulations. What’s the point in relying on someone else to make you happy?
Think about the last time you had the classic case of “If only he changed, I’d be so happy”.
Well, let me be the one to break the bad news — you won’t. Not if he changes, not if two planets got together upside down like in that movie Upside Down, not if you were delivered year-long supply of Cheetos for free.
If you believe your happiness is dependent on some event in future and there’s this happiness delivery guy to bring you a bag-full of it, wake up. There is no happiness delivery guy!
You have potential to feel happy right now. Because to feel happy, you don’t have to be happy.
3. Smile, and the World Smiles with You
Tricking your brain into happiness is easy. Want to feel happy right now? Stand up, look in the mirror and smile. Just do it; you’ll release the happy drug serotonin in a jiffy. There, it’s proved then that you control your inner state at any given time.
Try making faces in the mirror, or jumping up and down with your kids, and you’ll automatically push your happy buttons.
The question is, do you want to? The problem is we don’t want to feel happy in the moment. We want all our problems to be taken away. We want to life the easy life. That’s like eating a bag of cookies every day and expecting to sport a lean look.
Why else would you not stand up and make faces in the mirror every time you’re low?
To take control over your happiness and think more positive thoughts does not mean you wear rose-tinted glasses. It means you take the responsibility for your own happiness. Because honestly, right now no one else is volunteering to do so for you.
The reason you bring yourself out of the low state is to be more empowered to act instead of just pinning your hopes on the future that you can’t control.
By the way, if you’re wondering, no, you don’t have to earn happiness. You’re entitled to it just because you are alive.
And if nothing helps, try the cult above? 😉
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It may surprise you to know that many people are unhappy with life. Most people find that they don’t know their place, and that they don’t feel that they’re living a life of purpose and fulfillment.
No one can necessarily teach you how to be happy. Happiness is something that’s inside you. It’s a mindset, an emotion, and a goal. It’s something that has to be brought out passionately, so that you can not only find some type of happiness now, but also be happy for the rest of your life.
Why People Come to Coaching
Life coaching is a tool for keeping yourself motivated towards your goals and achieving greatness. But one of the main reasons that people come to life coaching is because they want to learn how to live a happy life. They want to figure out how to be happy and what they can do to address their unhappiness.
There are so many people today that are living with unhappiness. 9.1% of all people are living with some degree of depression, and millions more are living with general life dissatisfaction – an unhappiness with life that is affecting the way they are able to cope with the day’s stresses.
People are looking for how to be happy. They’re looking for:
- How to get happiness from their relationships.
- How to get happiness from their family.
- How to get happiness from their health.
- How to get happiness from their purpose, direction, work, and more.
They want to know how to go to bed each night and say “I lived a great day today,” and wake up each morning saying “Today is going to be greater than yesterday.”
Achieving the Happiness Mindset
What people are looking for is what they can do to create a mindset that is focused on being happy. This is a project that cannot be taken lightly. Being happy is something that anyone can achieve, but only if they know how to generate that happiness from within. For example:
- Spending Time with Happy People – Happiness is a contagious feeling. The happier people are around you, the happier you’ll feel with life’s events. This may mean making some hard choices about who you spend your time with, as those that are constantly negative about life are often going to bring down your overall happiness level. But if you can find the right people, you can find real happiness.
- Going After Your Values – Everyone has core values in life, but most people live according to the way they believe they’re supposed to live. Happiness comes from knowing that you’re living a life according to your own core values – a life that is focused on what really matters to you, and one where you can live passionately and with purpose.
- Achieving – Happiness is also about recognizing your successes. Those that are really happy feel their achievements every day in everything that they do. They create goals, and they see each day as a success as they move closer to those goals, appreciating everything that they do to make themselves better according to their core values.
This represents just the beginning of starting to be happy for the rest of your life. Over time, you start to harness this happiness and it becomes something strong within you.
Life coaches work with those that are unhappy with life and help them discover what it takes to achieve greater life satisfaction. Many people are unhappy, but with a life coach at your side, being happy is truly obtainable.
Some days suck. This is true no matter who you are, where you work, how much money you make, or how many good relationships you have in your life. Sometimes, there’s nothing you can do to control or manage your state of affairs to recover the day, and you’re left riding out the bad day until it’s over. You can’t change the past, and there’s usually not a lot you can do to change your present circumstances, but don’t let that fool you into thinking that you can’t change how tomorrow will play out.
If you’re having a bad day, or if you just want tomorrow to be even better, there are seven things you can do right now to make it happen:
1. Reflect. Stop what you’re doing and take 15 to 20 minutes to reflect on your day. Turn off or get rid of any distractions that might interfere with your ability to think clearly and deliberately, and isolate yourself if necessary. Don’t judge your actions harshly or let yourself slip into negative thoughts like “today was the worst.” Instead, think back on everything that went wrong–as well as everything that went right. Appreciate what went right, and try to analyze what went wrong. What can you do differently tomorrow? What should you do the same? Again, your goal here isn’t to reward or punish yourself–it’s to direct yourself to better actions tomorrow.
2. Meditate. While you’re isolated and distraction-free, set aside some time to meditate–it’s simpler than you might think. Your goal here is to free your mind of any wandering thoughts, distractions, and general clutter that can stress you out and reinforce your negative feelings. Any time a new thought enters your mind, visualize yourself letting it go and return to a state of mindfulness. It might take some practice, but the physical and mental benefits are numerous. You’ll feel better, you’ll think more clearly, and you’ll be less stressed–all of which should carry over at least partially into tomorrow.
3. Exercise and eat healthy. Hopefully you still have at least one meal and some spare time left over in your day. Choose healthy, nutritionally-rich foods for the remainder of your meals–including whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats. Fruits and vegetables are always good choices. This will give you more energy and a better mood to start your day with, giving you a huge head start. Exercise too, even in the evening, can help you relieve stress and give you more energy. It will also help you sleep better, which means you’ll wake up tomorrow morning feeling more refreshed and more fully rested.
4. Prioritize. Sacrifice some time tonight to dedicate to work items. You don’t have to actually work on anything–instead, your job will be to prioritize things for tomorrow. Make a short list of everything you have to do, everything you hope to do, and everything that might be nice to do; these will serve as your three main priority categories. Then, decide what you’re going to start on first, and how you’re going to arrange your day for the remainder of your tasks. Be sure to leave some time for unexpected new assignments and responsibilities.
5. Establish break and silent times. Your mind needs periods of rest to decompress and relieve itself of stress. Otherwise, you’ll work yourself to the brink and end up feeling terrible–even if you squeeze in an extra hour of work time. Right now, schedule at least two breaks for yourself, and make them a high priority. Don’t let yourself work through them or sacrifice them for any reason. Those will serve as your decompression time, giving you something to look forward to and giving you a chance to keep yourself in a healthy frame of mind all day. “Silent time,” with no active forms of communication running in the background, is also valuable.
6. Set your alarm. Plan to wake up early tomorrow, and set your alarm accordingly. Starting your day even 15 minutes earlier than you normally would will give you more time to get ready, less trouble with traffic during your commute, and a greater sense of control over your life. If you can get up an hour early or more and dedicate some time to meditating, exercising, or making a healthy breakfast, do it–but set a reasonable goal for yourself. Trying to get up early and failing can be a stressful and frustrating way to start the day, leaving you feeling rushed and defeating the purpose of the exercise.
7. Commit to having a better day. This is far more important than it seems. How you feel about and react to the world depends largely on your frame of mind when experiencing things. If you’re feeling impatient, angry, and like you’re having the worst day ever, a traffic jam is going to seem incredibly frustrating. If you set out thinking that the day is beautiful and that nothing can keep you down, a traffic jam might seem like a good opportunity to listen to that new album you’ve been meaning to hear. Make a commitment to yourself, right now, that tomorrow will be a better day, and invest in that belief. You’ll be amazed what an impact it has on your outlook.
Don’t procrastinate these items, or you’ll either forget them or lose the opportunity to accomplish them. With the right attitude, a solid plan, and the right tools at your disposal, even a chaotic day can become manageable. Don’t let one bad day ruin the rest of your week–take action now to make sure tomorrow becomes a better day.
Who doesn’t want to be happy??
Everyone wants to be happy.
But not every one of us is achieving it.
It’s not that we are deliberately blocking happiness from getting into our life but some of our habits and choices are restraining us from being happy.
“Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.”
Life can be beautiful or ugly; how you want it, the choice is yours. Many of us tend to make things way more complicated than they really are. If only we could embrace our life and live it in a simple way, we could be happier than we are now.
There are many things to do and many ways to be happy but there are also things not to do to be happy. Here, I am sharing few not-to-do things, things to let go of if you want to be happy.
It really kills your happiness. I have a habit of overthinking. Bad. I tend to overthink even when I don’t want to. But I am trying to cut it out. Overthinking doesn’t help. Take a breath and just try to calm down. I know it’s not easy but least you could do is try. Let go of it.
2. Pleasing everyone
If you are trying to please everyone, you will end up being unpleased with yourself. If you are thinking that you are going to please everyone and be happy, it is never going to work. You just CANNOT please everyone. Focus on making yourself happy and you will be happy.
When you start comparing yourself with others, you will either get jealous or feel inferior. That will ultimately make you feel bad about yourself and unhappy. ‘Grass is always greener on the other side. Until you get to the other side.’ So, stop comparing yourself with others. Be satisfied with what you have and how you are.
4. Self doubt
Your biggest enemy is you. You doubt yourself, feel inferior and have no feelings of self-worth whatsoever, then you are definitely not going to be happy. You should never ever doubt yourself. I am doing so many things that I never imagined myself doing. Believe in yourself.
“Renew, release, let go. Yesterday’s gone. There’s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can’t “should’ve” done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!” – Steve Maraboli
Need I say more??
6. Mistakes & Heartbreak
We all have made some mistakes and had some heartbreaks. But those are in the past. Holding onto the past, regretting the mistakes and feeling guilty will not make you happy. Rather you will just go deep into despair. FORGIVE yourself for those mistakes, FORGET the heartbreaks and move on. You will for sure find happiness.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” – Buddha
Let go of anger and you will feel awesome. You cannot be happy if you just hold on to anger. Let it out or let it go.
8. Worrying about future
Future is uncertain. No matter how much you worry about your future, you will never know what future has in store for you. Instead, you will be wasting your today and be nothing but sad. Least you can do is do something that will make your tomorrow better. Stop worrying and live your life today. Carpe Diem.
9. Fake/Toxic friends
We love to have friends, don’t we? But not all friends are good friends. I came across with some of ‘fake’ friends but no longer they are in my life. Life’s become so much better. Friends who remember you only when they need something are no good. You DON’T need such friends. Good friends are always there for you, motivate you and show you the brighter part of the life.
10. Chasing people
If you want to be happy, stop chasing people right now. You are not going to get them if they don’t want to be in your life. Running after them, you will only lose yourself. If they want to be a part of your life they will, even if you push them away.
11. Negative thoughts
Negative thoughts kill your brain and leave you unhappy. So kill such negative thoughts before they kill your happiness. The glass is half full and the glass is half empty. It’s how you like to see it. Try looking on the brighter side.
Your time is now. If you can do the things now, don’t keep them for tomorrow or the day after. The pending works will not make you feel comfortable. Stop making excuses and stop procrastinating.
If you want to be happy, you should not expect anything from anyone. We expect things to be in a certain way we want them to be. We expect someone to be the way we want him or her to be. But the truth is that there is very less chance that things will be the way we expect them to be. Letting go of expectations make your life simpler and happier.
Of course, it is always easier said than done but it’s worth a try.
In case you are wondering about things to do to be happy, you can try these.
The World needs more happiness. Everyone deserves to be happy. Be happy and teach others to be happy.
This post was originally published on writer’s personal blog.
Let’s face it. Life. Is. Hard. No matter what your age, life circumstances, or relationship status, everyone has their own unique challenges and hardships. Wherever you are in life, there is always a reason to live and turn to the things that make you truly happy, uplifted and fulfilled. If you’re going through a hard time, or just a tough day, read this list of happy quotes to help heal, and give you context to what it truly means to be happy and live your best life in the moment.
“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.” -J.R.R Tolkein
“The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are.” – Goldie Hawn
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” ― Dr. Seuss
“I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery—air, mountains, trees, people. I thought, “This is what it is to be happy.” ― Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar
“Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” – Helen Keller
“What’s fulfilling is being happy and being able to help other people. The simple things.” – James Arthur
“Happiness is only real when shared” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
“The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular cause for being happy except that they are so.” – William Ralph Inge
“We don’t laugh because we’re happy – we’re happy because we laugh.” – William James
“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.” ― Deepak Chopra
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” ― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
“Happy is entirely up to you and always has been.” ― Janette Rallison
“It’s been my experience that you can nearly always enjoy things if you make up your mind firmly that you will.” ― Lucy Maud Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables
Is happiness equated to wealth, money, possessions, or is it value you find in doing your job well, having a loving family, your health, and an inner peace?” – Catherine Pulsifer
“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” – Andrew Carnegie
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” ― Albert Einstein
Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don’t give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people. – Tena Desae
“I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery—air, mountains, trees, people. I thought, “This is what it is to be happy.” ― Sylvia Plath
“I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness.” ― Drew Barrymore
“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.” — Mother Theresa
“Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go.” ― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
“They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.” ― Tom Bodett
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” — Mahatma Gandhi
“Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.
“Happiness is a warm puppy.” ― Charles M. Schulz
“When you’re feeling happy, don’t waste time wondering how to use it, do the first thing that comes to your mind and enjoy it” ― Dean Mackin
“For those who are poor in happiness, each time is a first time; happiness never becomes a habit.” ― Marilyn Monroe, My Story
“It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.” – Lucille Ball
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” – Frederick Keonig
“The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”
We all have something stored in our memory banks of the past that we wish we could have done differently, or something we wish we didn’t do.
As we get older we learn and grow, but that doesn’t mean we have to regret what we did before we learned how to do things differently. If we didn’t go through those experiences, we might not have grown into the strong and knowledgeable people we are today.
What I’m proposing is that we get rid of the negative thoughts—the could haves, might haves, and should haves—and start living a life that won’t make us feel regretful. Not even at an older, wiser age.
Here is a list of things you can do to practice living life with no regrets:
1. Realize that it’s okay to make mistakes. Just make sure to learn from them, forgive yourself, and move on.
2. Make your health and wellness a top priority and always take care of yourself so you’re ready to take care of others.
3. Follow your own path, not one that others want you to follow.
4. Find the humor in life and laugh like there is no tomorrow.
5. Relax and move with the flow of life by being unafraid of change.
6. Be adventurous by trying new things and taking more risks.
7. Have more intellectual curiosity and embrace creativity.
8. Try to find happiness with as many different people as you can.
9. Think for yourself instead of letting other people’s opinions influence you too much.
10. Try not to judge people before you get to know them.
11. Be thankful for what you have now instead of thinking about what you don’t have.
12. Wish well upon everyone equally and try to admire without envy.
13. Share your happiness with others instead of hoarding it all for yourself.
14. Don’t try to change someone—love who they are now.
15. Enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
16. Know that happiness is bigger than any bank account.
17. Control negative thoughts so that they don’t contribute to the outcome of your life.
18. Use your energy wisely because spending energy complaining, worrying, or being impatient is just wasted energy.
19. Be bold. Find the courage to change things that should be changed and accept that there are some things that cannot be changed.
20. Love your work. If you don’t currently love what you do, figure out what you would love and take the first step toward that life.
21. Turn your discontent into a mystery and enjoy trying to solve it.
22. Face problems from different angles in order to find solutions.
23. Gain independence by realizing that on this earth we are all dependent upon each other.
24. Change your perspective by taking on a wider view of things.
25. Don’t waste time trying to bring disagreeable people around to liking you.
26. Become the person you would like to spend the rest of your life with.
27. Be honest with yourself and others by saying what you mean and meaning what you say.
28. Treat people with respect and compassion.
29. Live in the now by loving the present and being aware of your thoughts and actions. Think happy thoughts and speak powerful words.
30. Try not to put things off until later.
31. Never hold grudges.
32. Face your fears head on and try to do the things that you think you cannot do.
33. Spend time with people who make you happy while also not depending on other people for your own happiness.
34. Stand up for yourself and others and don’t let anyone or anything hold you back.
35. Be yourself and love who you are now.
36. Be a participant in life rather than an observer.
37. Do the things that you love to do as much as you can.
38. Write out a list of goals and achieve them by doing them step by step. Don’t give up when things get difficult.
39. Do something every day that makes you feel proud of yourself—commit random acts of kindness whenever you get the chance.
40. And always keep on moving forward.
I know it seems like a rather large list of things to take on, but you can accomplish a lot on this list by doing just one thing. For example, right now as I’m typing this I’m putting into practice at least eighteen things.
Put these things into practice and see where life takes you, without regrets. And please comment below. I’d love to read your thoughts on this.
Yesterday is defined as the day before today; the recent past. May these quotes inspire you to be wiser today than you were yesterday so that you may live your dreams.
1. “You can’t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time.” Charles Kettering
2. “Yesterday is not ours to recover but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.” Lyndon B. Johnson
3. “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.” H. G. Wells
4. “Today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness.” Kalidasa
5. “Why let go of yesterday? Because yesterday has let go of you.” Steve Maraboli
6. “Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday.” Anonymous
7. “I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” Groucho Marx
8. “Yesterday is but today’s memory, and tomorrow is today’s dream.” Khalil Gibran
9. “Yesterday was not your defining moment. The calendar moved forward, why not you?” Steve Maraboli
10. “The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.” Anonymous
11. “Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday.” Anonymous
12. “Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.” Anonymous
13. “Forget yesterday, live for today. Tomorrow will take care of itself.” Rick Ross
14. “Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” Albert Einstein
15. “I may not be there yet but I’m closer than I was yesterday.” Anonymous
16. “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” Rumi
17. “Be better than you were yesterday.” Anonymous
18. “Shake off all those negative thoughts of yesterday. Rise and shine, it’s a new day.” Anonymous
19. “Don’t regret yesterday. It is the perfect compass guiding your journey today.” Anonymous
20. “I do not think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday.” Abraham Lincoln
21. “Today is victory over yourself of yourself; tomorrow is your victory over lesser men.” Miyamoto Musashi
22. “Let go of yesterday. Let today be a new beginning and be the best that you can, and you’ll get to where God wants you to be.” Joel Osteen
23. “Work smarter and harder than you think you did yesterday.” ATGW
24. “Live today. Not yesterday. Not tomorrow. Just today. Inhabit your moments. Don’t rent them out to tomorrow.” Jerry Spinelli
25. “Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a blessing.” Anonymous
26. “If today you are a little better than you were yesterday, then that’s enough.” David A. Bednar
27. “Push harder than yesterday if you want a different tomorrow.” Anonymous
28. “Do one small thing to make today better than yesterday.” Anonymous
29. “Make today better than yesterday, have more good days than bad days.” Anonymous
30. “Be strong. Stronger than yesterday.” Anonymous
31. “You can’t rewrite yesterday’s pages, but tomorrow’s are blank and you have the pen, so write something good.” Anonymous
32. “Making today better than yesterday is a simple formula for a gorgeous life.” Robin Sharma
33. “Yesterday you said tomorrow. Just do it.” Nike
34. “I am who I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Ultimate pleasure and satisfaction in life is when you feel good about yourself, because that is what makes us happy, and not something that happens on the outside. Happiness is within us, in our minds. It is important to have a positive attitude towards ourselves, others, and life in general, especially when it seems that luck is not on our side.
Our thoughts can reach a height or cause it to sink into the depths of despair. When we think positive thoughts we will attract positive situations and people. When we focus on the negative aspects of our lives, we attract more negativity. Our thoughts are often full of positive or negative emotions and are rarely neutral.
If you want good things in your life, think positive and be thankful. Feel the joy, peace, and happiness. Keep your mind free from worry and fear. Do not waste mental energy on negative thinking. To make tomorrow beautiful, think of it today. Decide now to be happy and learn skills of rejoicing life and the world around you.
Everything is more beautiful when you experience them with a smile!
Here are some happy thoughts and strategies that will help you to restrict your life to only positivism:
1. Forget the past
One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory. You cannot be happy if you think about the unpleasant things of the past. Have you made a mistake? You’ve had a terrible experience? Could you go the other way? Whatever it is, let it go away from you and focus energy and thoughts on the present.
2. Take responsibility
The secret of happiness is freedom, and the secret of freedom is courage – Thucydides (Thucydides)
To be lucky you must have freedom and fundamental freedom is freedom of choice. No matter how bad the situation was, you can always choose how you’re going to react to it. People can hurt you, disappoint you, but the issue is how you react emotionally to it.
But as said above, freedom requires courage. Choosing freedom means taking responsibility for your life. We should not be discouraged when things are going bad. Take responsibility and the power to choose a new direction.
Further Reading: How to Be Happy Alone
3. Build connections with people
The true joy of life is in the friendships that create the life path. Friendships and relationships are where we get true happiness in life. The reason is simple: only through relationships and partnerships we can love and be loved. Make Friends as a priority and you’ll be on the way your true happiness.
4. Build character
Build character, as it is essential for happiness. When you are honest with yourself and others, you will be at peace. The way that you build a character is to give promises and fulfill them. For example, you could promise yourself that you will not smoke. When you keep the promises you build your character.
5. Value your blessings and gifts
Happiness will never come to those who do not appreciate what they already have. Being happy is easy if you are grateful. Sometimes we need to experience a loss to appreciate what we have. So do not take things seriously. Look what you’ve got and you’ll soon realize that you have a bunch of reasons to be happy.
6. My life purpose is my driving force
The important thing during the search for prosperity is finding the purpose of our lives. This is certainly easier said than done, but it is important that a person finds a way and to do what feels like a blessing. Life will become beautiful the moment we starting what we love and what gives meaning to our existence.
7. Change yourself and enjoy the change
Being happy requires constant progression. Have you ever felt the excitement when you were praised for something? Have you ever felt the excitement of a new level of achievement in life? Change for the better, and progress is what makes us happy.
8. Happiness is in small things
Sure, buying a Ferrari or owning a million-dollar home can make anyone happy, but real happiness lies in the small stuff. Your friend throwing an amazing party for you, your loved one saying “I love you” every morning and such. These are the small things we often ignore, but trust me, all this stuff will matter later.
9. In life, you get as much as you give
You only get what you give. Although most people are usually focused on what they can receive and hope to get more than it gives, it rarely happens. The sooner we realize that we get in life just as much as we give, we will be happier.
10. Make others happy
Happiness is a perfume you cannot burst the other without getting a few drops falling on you – Ralph Waldo Emers
The way to be happy is to first do others happy. The more you help other people to be happy, the more you’re going to be happy. Happiness does not come through selfishness but through selflessness. You reap what you sow.
10 Simple, Sure-fire Ways to Make Today Your Best Day Ever
I shut my eyes so I can see. – artist Paul Gauguin
By Leo Babauta.
This morning as I took my kids to school, I was feeling rushed and harried. Stress levels high, my face wore a permanent frown, my mind was in a million different places, and my two youngest kids (3 year old, and 20 months) were quiet in their car seats.
Then I realized: while my mind is elsewhere, I’m missing some prime moments with my kids. And not really enjoying my day.
And so I changed the moment, and in doing so changed my day: we began singing some of our favorite children’s songs. Itsy-bitsy spider, twinkle twinkle, wheels on the bus, ABCDs, I’ve been working on the railroad, the ants go marching two by two … all of the oldies.
Instead of thinking about all the things I had to do today, I brought myself into the present moment. And when we got to school, I took a few minutes to spend time with them. Be present with them. It was truly lovely.
This little incident not only brought warmth and joy into my heart … it brought a realization into my mind: I can either have a stressed, difficult day … or I can have an amazing, wonderful day.
I chose the amazing day.
The rest of the day, I did things to ensure that my day was the best ever. And it was. I had the greatest day … all from simple little things that don’t seem like much, but make all the difference in the world.
Do you have to follow these things step-by-step? Not at all. Find your own methods, or pick and choose a few of these. Main thing, though: take steps to make today your best day ever.
1. Be present. Instead of having your mind elsewhere, bring yourself back to now, in this moment, focused on where you are and what you’re doing and who you’re with. We cannot change things that have already happened, and obsessing over them does nothing to help us now. We cannot predict the future, so worrying about it does nothing to help you either. Instead, focus on now … if something is worrying you, take action … but even better, just be in the moment, and live as if now is all there is. Because it is.
2. Do less. Have a full schedule today? Cut it in half. You don’t need to do everything on that list. I took a few items on my list and moved them to next week. Do less (but focus on the important — not urgent — stuff) and you’ll be less stressed out. If you cut your list down and do only half the things you want to do for today, you’ll have a much better day. You’ll thank me.
3. Get one important thing done. As I said in the previous point, do less but do more important things. When I say important, I mean things that will have a huge impact on your life (personally or career wise) over the long run. Not things that need to be done today or else. Here’s why: If you get something important done, something that will help you in the long run (even if it’s only a step towards a major accomplishment, it’s important), you will feel great! You’ll feel a sense of accomplishment. That makes any day a great day.
4. Plan your perfect life. What would your life be like if you had no restrictions? I’m not talking about living in a McMansion or flying around in jet planes, but what would make you happy. A good step: pick the 4-5 most important things in your life, and build your perfect life around those things, eliminating most of the rest if possible. Plan that perfect life, and then plan the first few steps you need to take to get there. Now schedule those first steps over the next week, including one today. It feels amazing to start taking action on making your life the way you want it to be.
5. Declutter. Even if it’s just a little space — say a drawer or a shelf — decluttering an area of your life can have a wonderful effect on your mood and happiness level. I know it gives my day a boost. When things start to get cluttered (and let’s face it, even the best declutterers among us face clutter creep), I take a few minutes to clear it out. Clearing your desk (at least the surface of it) can be a great way to start.
6. Go for a walk. I was going to write “exercise” but I’m afraid that many readers will just skip over this one. So instead, just go for a walk. That movement, and the fresh outdoor air, will have a great effect on your day. And even better: take a few minutes to enjoy the nature around you as you go for your walk. Clear your head. Calm yourself during a busy time of your day. Think to yourself: “How lucky I am to be alive! How wonderful a world I’m in! What opportunities and possibilities lie before me!”
7. Focus on 3 projects. I wrote about this recently, but you’ll probably hear me repeat it a few times just because of the terrific effect it can have on your productivity and your life: choose only your three most important projects, and focus on them exclusively. Focus on getting them to completion, to the exclusion of all other projects. Do that today. You’ll be amazed at how much you’ll accomplish. I only started doing it recently, but I’m getting so much done that I feel like I was sitting on my hands before this. It feels wonder-tastic!
8. Listen to great music. When I was in the car, after I dropped the kids, an oldie came on the radio: Tommy James and the Shondells singing Hanky Panky. “I saw her walking on down the line (yeah) … you know I saw her for the very first time …” Well, I love songs like that (call me old if you like) and I started dancing in my seat. You might be turned on by hipper songs (or is “hipper” not a trendy word anymore?) but whatever music gets you going, jam it on your iPod or car radio. Or while you work. It’s a great time! “Hey, pretty baby, can I take you home!”
9. Watch a sunrise or sunset. Trite? Yes, definitely. But does it work? Yes, definitely. I took the time to enjoy the sunset on my way home today. Mmmmm. It was lovely. It just fills me with warmth. Sunrises are even more beautifuller!
10. Spend time with a loved one. Another obvious one, perhaps, but there’s nothing better, really. When I spent even just a few minutes with my two babies this morning, it filled me with a joy unequaled anywhere else in life. Then I spent some time with my wife, after work, and let me just say that’s about as good as it gets too. Even if you don’t have a spouse or kids, there’s someone in your life that you value … make time out of your day today to spend time with them … and not just to watch TV, but to actually be with them, talk with them, bond with them. It works.