How to create and manage your “bucket list” before you kick

How to create and manage your "bucket list" before you kick

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It’s important to take time for things you enjoy in life—doing things you enjoy can make you feel energized and more relaxed at the same time, and help to keep burnout at bay. Traditional vacations bring important benefits for stress management and life satisfaction, but for those who can’t spare the time or expense for a week-long trip, “staycations” are a viable alternative.

Fitting more hobbies and fun into your lifestyle can bring a significant payoff as well. One fun and effective strategy for ensuring that you take the time you need for the “more fun things” in life (as well as some important goals you may have) is to create a “bucket list”—or several.

The idea behind a bucket list is, as they state in the movie with the same title, to create a list of things you hope to do before you “kick the bucket.” But you can also use the idea for any deadline—say, a list of things you wish to do before you enter your next decade of life, or before the summer ends. Creating a bucket list can benefit you in several ways.

Getting in Touch With Your Values

When you make a list of all the things you’d like to do, this activity may be a springboard to becoming more aware of what’s really important to you. When you start thinking about what you really want to do, you can find perspective on how you are currently spending your time, and on what you’d like to be doing.

The tie and energy for things that really matter to you aren’t eaten up by the time you put into the things that matter less. Making a bucket list can help you remember what you value the most.

Remembering Your Goals

When we feel we have lots of time ahead of us—a new summer, a new year, a whole lifetime—we may think about what we’d like to do with it. Then, “real life” takes over, and we may focus more on our day-to-day goals and less on our goals for fun, excitement, stress relief, or on our long-term goals.

Creating a bucket list can keep us in touch with these goals we have and can help us keep track of them as we plan them into our lives and check them off upon completion.

Getting Creative

Nothing gets creative juices flowing like a good brainstorming session. Creating a bucket list can help you tap into the creative part of you that dreams bigger, nurtures your inner child, and makes life more worthwhile. Once you’ve put your creative side into play by creating the bucket list, your everyday self can stay inspired to put those dreams and plans into action.

Enjoying Life

Simply creating the list can be fun. Sharing your list with others, revisiting your list over time, and checking off your experiences as you collect them, can all be ways to enjoy life more, and share the fun.

Keeping Track of Peak Experiences

Creating a bucket list can be inspirational. While you may not complete every item on your list, you will likely complete some, and get more out of your life than if you hadn’t created the list. These are the experiences you may remember the most in life, that may change who you are in a positive way.

However you use your bucket lists, they can be a positive experience that can be utilized to fit your needs. Creating a bucket list can also relieve stress and enhance your life.

Is there a difference between a goal and bucket list, or are they the same thing?

You’ll often see these two terms used interchangeably, but they are very different.

What is A Goal?

Several things need to be present to be considered a goal:

-Achievable
-Written down
-Goals need be very specific
-Has a deadline
-Action steps to achieve
-Celebrated once achieved

What is a Bucket List?

“Bucket list” is possibly derived from the English idiom – ‘to kick the bucket”. It’s a list of all the things you want to achieve, dreams you want to fulfill and life experiences you desire to experience before you die. It usually doesn’t have a timeline.

What makes a Bucket List?

-no deadline
-should be specific, but not necessary. Example, if you want to go to Greece, you would include information on where you plan to stay, who you will travel with, your budget, how long you’ll be there and places you want to visit while there. Many list vague items, but if you want a higher level of success….Be Specific.
-Celebrated once achieved

Consider Making a Separate Bucket List Board

A fun idea for your bucket list items is to create a separate, smaller dream board that focuses completely on your future dream. Include photos and as many details as possible. Place where you see it often.

What is a Stretch Goal?

An additional goal you set for yourself when you exceed your initial goal. This enables you to push your limits.should be achievable, but not have a guarantee of success.

I have a friend who’s a real estate agent and last year she set a pretty lofty stretch goal. It wasn’t something she was intentional about, but she knew if she achieved it was definitely something she would celebrate. At the end of the year, she was $4k shy of her stretch goal, definitely something to be excited about. When she went to set her goals for the upcoming year, last year’s stretch goal became her new regular goal!

As you’re working on your goals and dreams for the next 12 months, be sure to separate the goals from the bucket list items and document them accordingly. Now that you know the difference, it makes it easier to work through the details on your vision/dream board.

How to create and manage your "bucket list" before you kick

When you are in the wealth-creation phase of life, discipline is critical. You may secretly lust after an F-Type Jaguar, but prudence prevails and you select a Ford Fusion or Toyota Camry, knowing that the 70 grand or so you are saving can instead be plowed into an investment that might actually appreciate.

The same goes with dream vacations. Sure, you’d like to go on safari in Africa or ride with the gauchos on the Pampas of Argentina while you’re still young enough to actually enjoy it, but you fear the sticker price of the trip will delay your retirement date by a decade.

I am here to say it doesn’t have to — if you play your cards right. You can check off at least some of these bucket-list destinations well before you actually kick the bucket.

My wife and I enjoy travel, including trips to far-flung, exotic locations, from Bhutan and Easter Island, to Iceland and India. Over the years we have developed some strategies that have made these trips affordable, even as we were saving for our children’s university fees and our own retirement.

Our first suggestion — and we know this won’t be for everyone — is to make camping part of your trip. We have camped in places as diverse as France, Spain, Japan, New Zealand and Costa Rica. Our normal pattern is a week or ten days of camping, followed by a day or two at a Four Seasons, Fairmont, or Ritz Carlton. The former gets you close to flora and fauna, the locals and often spectacular scenery (for a few dollars a night); the latter gets you pampering (and a hot shower). We followed this pattern religiously when vacationing in Hawaii over the years and it worked well

But OK, let’s say that camping is not your thing.

Our second suggestion is Silent Auctions.

That’s right, Silent Auctions, where you go to a charity dinner or event and bid on various items offered up by sponsors, friends and event patrons.

Often among the items up for bid are trips and vacations, everything from ski holidays to the exclusive use of a private island in the Caribbean.

Our own favorite hunting ground is the Royal Canadian Geographical Society Annual Dinner. We have snagged a couple of trips at this event, most recently a 12-day expedition to Antarctica with OneOcean Expeditions, a BC-based Canadian company specializing in Arctic and Antarctic tours.

This is a trip we wanted to do while we still had a reasonable amount of physical capability, but also stay within a relatively reasonable budget (any way you cut it, Antarctica is expensive).

So how good a deal can you get using this strategy? The trip that we wanted was put up for bid with a suggested retail price for two of $19,700. When the bidding music stopped we got it for $9,300. (The $19,700 price quoted was accurate, not inflated — we had checked it previously on the web site.)

Now of course there is a cost in attending the dinner itself — in this case, $200 per person. Part of that you get back in the form of a tax receipt. And part of it in the form of a pretty good meal. Plus you are helping a worthy cause. But what you are really doing is buying a seat at the bidding table.

The Royal Canadian Geographical Society Annual Dinner is typically held in Ottawa, which might be somewhat inconvenient if you live in New York, Washington, D.C. or Vancouver . But fear not — there are literally dozens of these events happening across North America, if you know where to look.

Some of the best are held to raise money on behalf of universities or private secondary schools. And, no, you don’t have to have gone to the school, have children there or know the school song or colors to attend. It is a fundraiser — the operative colour is green.

We attended several of these events on a regular basis in Toronto. The beauty here is that school parents and alumni often offer up private ski chalets or Barbados cottages to those wishing to bid — opportunities that would otherwise be unavailable to we mere mortals.

A variety of other organizations, from hospitals to museums, hold similar events.

The trick, of course, is to not get carried away — as they say, know your limit and play within it. Be willing to let someone else “win” the item if the price gets out of your range.

But our experience is that we have been able to get some pretty great trips for half price or less. And we’ve been able to go to places we’ve always dreamed about while still young enough to enjoy it.

(Robert Waite is Managing Partner of Waite + Co. and a frequent writer on travel topics.)

Have you created your “Bucket List”? I haven’t watched this movie yet, but the previews got me to thinking of how fragile life is, and how seriously we can sometimes treat the mundane issues. So I thought about those dreams that I haven’t lived or fulfilled yet, and decided to come up with my own version. If I had two years to live, what would I do for my “Bucket List“?

1) Get on a Zip Line-I am terrified of heights, but what the heck.

2) Bake a world class cake, with world class icing, I still have no idea how to make the perfect, and I mean perfect buttercream icing, and I have read thru recipe after recipe.

3) Design the perfect “Oscar Dress”

4) Create a video book for my son to refer back to, like in the movie with Nicole Kidman and Micheal Keaton – My Life, only with me being filmed doing my Bucket List so he can see the light in my eyes as I conquer my dreams and what the hecks.

5) Get that perfect, kick a#@ meringue for a pie accomplished!

6) Gamble in Vegas-I am not a gambler, but what the heck.

7) Ski the highest area that I am physically able to, again, fear of heights, but the what the heck factor.

8) Visit Italy and learn to make homeade pizza the right way!

9) Learn to make a killer wine.

10) Drive fast on the Autobahn-I generally drive like a Grandma

11) Visit Iraq and see our troops in action, and how the war has changed a nation, first hand, instead of thru filtered media sources.

12) Take an African Safari

13) Spend a week with Christiane Amanpourr, on whatever story she is covering at the moment.

14) Meet Mariane Pearl, and just listen to her for a day, about life and this world.

What is your Bucket List? I might have to borrow some of your more exciting ideas for mine!

Heather in Indy

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Why things you must do before you die will leave you disappointed.

My guess is that you have not crossed anything off your bucket list in the last months. Unless, that is, you had giving a talk in your underwear on your bucket list. You may think it is a bad thing, but in fact, it is not. Bucket lists are bad for you.

A bucket list is the list of things you absolutely want to do before you die—before you kick the bucket. See the Taj Mahal, eat in a three Michelin star restaurant, shake hands with Barack Obama. This is a concept so deeply ingrained in our culture that there are multiple self-help books and websites dedicated to creating your own bucket list.

You may think that having a bucket list is good for your mental health—it keeps you motivated, helps you focus on what really matters, and so on. In fact, there are strong empirical reasons to mistrust the very idea of a bucket list.

Suppose that visiting the Taj Mahal is on your bucket list. There are two options. Either you get to go and see the Taj Mahal, or you don’t. If you don’t, you will always think of this as a failure—something you did not manage to achieve. That is no good. But what happens if you do get to go and see the Taj Mahal? In this case, the most likely scenario is that your experience does not live up to what you imagine it to be.

The reason for this is that when we want something, we imagine the goal state of our desire in an over-idyllic manner. In imagination, we abstract away from a lot of annoying thorny details that are there in real life. This has been studied empirically: When smokers think of their next cigarette, it often feels that it will be the best cigarette ever. But in real life, you need to go outside the pub, where it is raining, it’s cold, there are mosquitoes, and so on. When we want something, we imagine having it as a magic moment when everything comes together. But this happens extremely rarely.

The same goes for items on your bucket list. When you do get to stand in front of the Taj Mahal, this moment will never live up to the idealized image that is the goal state of your desire. There are wasps. Taxi drivers keep on bugging you to get them to be your tour guide. You have a headache. You need to pee. And so on. None of these minor annoyances were there in your mental image of what this moment would feel like. You end up just a tiny bit disappointed.

Of course, it is not a nice feeling to pay thousands of dollars and suffer through a transcontinental flight just so that you would have a mildly disappointing experience. Here, cognitive dissonance is likely to kick in: It can’t be that I am not on cloud nine—I always imagined I would be on cloud nine. I must be on could nine. This might work up to a point, but in the long run, self-deception has its limits.

Should we then just never want anything and live in a desireless Buddhist bliss? I don’t think so. But building up the items on your bucket list in a way that your life is not complete without ticking these off from your list is bound to leave you disappointed.

On my bulletin board in my room at home, I have National Geographic’s list of 100 Place of a Lifetime. It is my travel bucket list of all the places in the world I want to some day visit or live in. I have had it for about 5 years now and have crossed 16 destinations off the list. It is a reminder of what I’ve done and where I will (hopefully) soon go. I think making a bucket list of some kind, whether it is travel, adventure, or just a general list of things you have always wanted to do is so important in prioritizing your life. And I think you should start making yours now. Here are some reasons why you shouldn’t wait around to make your list:

1. When you write something down you are more likely to remember it, and therefore do it. Just think about all the homework assignments or meetings you have forgot throughout the years because you didn’t write them down. You don’t have to immediately check any of the items off your list, but you also don’t want to forget that they were important to you when you are older.

2. You will never be more adventurous. Right now you may want to put going skydiving, or running with the bulls in Spain on your list, but do you think your 40 year-old self will? They likely won’t, but maybe if you see what your 20 year-old self wanted to do, you might be more inclined to accomplish those dreams.

3. We have so many exciting opportunities now. Never again will we have a three-week Christmas break, and definitely not a summer break (unless you are Lynch, I guess) so this is the perfect time to take advantage of checking items off your bucket list.

4. Life is short. This is the general argument for making a bucket list no matter the age, but it is so accurate. We have no idea what lies ahead, so there is no reason not to put your wildest dreams down on some paper and begin checking off those adventures!

So yes, I do mean now. Sit down right now and start it. It doesn’t have to be profound, unique, or even that interesting to be honest. But write down what the top things you want to do before you kick the bucket are.

Why things you must do before you die will leave you disappointed.

My guess is that you have not crossed anything off your bucket list in the last months. Unless, that is, you had giving a talk in your underwear on your bucket list. You may think it is a bad thing, but in fact, it is not. Bucket lists are bad for you.

A bucket list is the list of things you absolutely want to do before you die—before you kick the bucket. See the Taj Mahal, eat in a three Michelin star restaurant, shake hands with Barack Obama. This is a concept so deeply ingrained in our culture that there are multiple self-help books and websites dedicated to creating your own bucket list.

You may think that having a bucket list is good for your mental health—it keeps you motivated, helps you focus on what really matters, and so on. In fact, there are strong empirical reasons to mistrust the very idea of a bucket list.

Suppose that visiting the Taj Mahal is on your bucket list. There are two options. Either you get to go and see the Taj Mahal, or you don’t. If you don’t, you will always think of this as a failure—something you did not manage to achieve. That is no good. But what happens if you do get to go and see the Taj Mahal? In this case, the most likely scenario is that your experience does not live up to what you imagine it to be.

The reason for this is that when we want something, we imagine the goal state of our desire in an over-idyllic manner. In imagination, we abstract away from a lot of annoying thorny details that are there in real life. This has been studied empirically: When smokers think of their next cigarette, it often feels that it will be the best cigarette ever. But in real life, you need to go outside the pub, where it is raining, it’s cold, there are mosquitoes, and so on. When we want something, we imagine having it as a magic moment when everything comes together. But this happens extremely rarely.

The same goes for items on your bucket list. When you do get to stand in front of the Taj Mahal, this moment will never live up to the idealized image that is the goal state of your desire. There are wasps. Taxi drivers keep on bugging you to get them to be your tour guide. You have a headache. You need to pee. And so on. None of these minor annoyances were there in your mental image of what this moment would feel like. You end up just a tiny bit disappointed.

Of course, it is not a nice feeling to pay thousands of dollars and suffer through a transcontinental flight just so that you would have a mildly disappointing experience. Here, cognitive dissonance is likely to kick in: It can’t be that I am not on cloud nine—I always imagined I would be on cloud nine. I must be on could nine. This might work up to a point, but in the long run, self-deception has its limits.

Should we then just never want anything and live in a desireless Buddhist bliss? I don’t think so. But building up the items on your bucket list in a way that your life is not complete without ticking these off from your list is bound to leave you disappointed.

“The Bucket List” arrives on Christmas Day to remind us to live life to its fullest and leave no cliché unturned. And while most of us would confess to not exactly seizing each day as if it is our last, another cloying reminder from Hollywood is probably not going to make any more of a difference than an afternoon spent on the couch with Dr. Phil and Oprah.

A travelogue of triteness that demands alliteration to describe it, the movie is clearly aimed at fading boomers with its story of two older men with terminal medical conditions. Its watchability almost entirely depends on your tolerance of Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson doing the things that made them stars and won them Oscars, only much more so.

We meet Freeman doing a voice of God narration against the backdrop of the snow-covered Himalayas — I know, you want to groan, but he really is good at this kind of thing — that introduces us to the inscrutable concept that when all is said and done, you measure yourself by the people who measure themselves by you.

An auto mechanic, incessant reader, trivia buff and annoyingly vocal player of “Jeopardy,” Freeman’s Carter Chambers is an outwardly contented man in his 60s, with a 45-year marriage and three children of whom to be proud.

Nicholson is Edward Cole, a healthcare mogul known for the fiscally lean management of his hospitals, which he declares are not health spas and decrees that there will be two beds to a room, no exceptions. He prides himself on drinking the world’s most expensive coffee and his inability to stay married.

Carter gets the phone call about his test results at the garage, with director Rob Reiner lingering for an almost comical amount of time on the ashes of his burning cigarette. Edward starts coughing up blood at a board meeting where he is trying to take over another hospital.

Before you can say “Odd Couple” — Walter Matthau and Jack Lemmon almost certainly would have been cast in this 10 or 15 years ago — these grumpy old men are sharing a room in one of Edward’s facilities. No exceptions, remember?

Carter is accepting of his fate, but he’s prodded by his wife, Virginia (Beverly Todd), a nurse, to take a more aggressive tack in fighting the illness. Edward is simply irritated, bullying his loyal assistant Matthew (Sean Hayes), whom he insists on calling Thomas, into helping him maintain his luxurious lifestyle while undergoing chemotherapy.

The superficial differences in economics and disposition give way to an uneasy bond as the two men share a limited life expectancy and a fondness for cards and reading. They fall into a kind of platonic man-love — for this is, essentially, a love story — a mite too quickly, and as the sentimentality mounts, you miss their initial bickering.

Edward catches Carter making the list of the title — things to do before you kick the bucket — and challenges him to make the philosophical exercise a reality. Against Virginia’s wishes and abetted by Matthew and Edward’s deep pockets, Carter and Edward embark on a globetrotting pursuit of thrills and experiences. They skydive, race cars and visit France, Cairo and Hong Kong via some laughably poor visual effects.

Rob Morrow costars as Edward’s doctor, but his appearances are so brief you have to wonder if his part was left on the cutting room floor. In fact, the film is so eager to get its two stars out of the hospital and on their journey, at the expense of narrative logic, that you have to wonder if they simply lopped off a huge chunk from the first half of the film.

Freeman and Nicholson make the most of Justin Zackham’s script, but there just isn’t enough substance behind their characters to prop up the carpe diem platitudes. The result is a semi-comedic, geriatric “Brokeback Mountain” minus the sex and with a Himalayan summit. If that isn’t enough, the filmmakers really rub it in with a John Mayer song over the end credits.

“The Bucket List.” MPAA rating: PG-13 for language, including a sexual reference. Running time: 1 hour, 37 minutes. In selected theaters.

“The Bucket List” arrives on Christmas Day to remind us to live life to its fullest and leave no cliché unturned. And while most of us would confess to not exactly seizing each day as if it is our last, another cloying reminder from Hollywood is probably not going to make any more of a difference than an afternoon spent on the couch with Dr. Phil and Oprah.

A travelogue of triteness that demands alliteration to describe it, the movie is clearly aimed at fading boomers with its story of two older men with terminal medical conditions. Its watchability almost entirely depends on your tolerance of Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson doing the things that made them stars and won them Oscars, only much more so.

We meet Freeman doing a voice of God narration against the backdrop of the snow-covered Himalayas — I know, you want to groan, but he really is good at this kind of thing — that introduces us to the inscrutable concept that when all is said and done, you measure yourself by the people who measure themselves by you.

An auto mechanic, incessant reader, trivia buff and annoyingly vocal player of “Jeopardy,” Freeman’s Carter Chambers is an outwardly contented man in his 60s, with a 45-year marriage and three children of whom to be proud.

Nicholson is Edward Cole, a healthcare mogul known for the fiscally lean management of his hospitals, which he declares are not health spas and decrees that there will be two beds to a room, no exceptions. He prides himself on drinking the world’s most expensive coffee and his inability to stay married.

Carter gets the phone call about his test results at the garage, with director Rob Reiner lingering for an almost comical amount of time on the ashes of his burning cigarette. Edward starts coughing up blood at a board meeting where he is trying to take over another hospital.

Before you can say “Odd Couple” — Walter Matthau and Jack Lemmon almost certainly would have been cast in this 10 or 15 years ago — these grumpy old men are sharing a room in one of Edward’s facilities. No exceptions, remember?

Carter is accepting of his fate, but he’s prodded by his wife, Virginia (Beverly Todd), a nurse, to take a more aggressive tack in fighting the illness. Edward is simply irritated, bullying his loyal assistant Matthew (Sean Hayes), whom he insists on calling Thomas, into helping him maintain his luxurious lifestyle while undergoing chemotherapy.

The superficial differences in economics and disposition give way to an uneasy bond as the two men share a limited life expectancy and a fondness for cards and reading. They fall into a kind of platonic man-love — for this is, essentially, a love story — a mite too quickly, and as the sentimentality mounts, you miss their initial bickering.

Edward catches Carter making the list of the title — things to do before you kick the bucket — and challenges him to make the philosophical exercise a reality. Against Virginia’s wishes and abetted by Matthew and Edward’s deep pockets, Carter and Edward embark on a globetrotting pursuit of thrills and experiences. They skydive, race cars and visit France, Cairo and Hong Kong via some laughably poor visual effects.

Rob Morrow costars as Edward’s doctor, but his appearances are so brief you have to wonder if his part was left on the cutting room floor. In fact, the film is so eager to get its two stars out of the hospital and on their journey, at the expense of narrative logic, that you have to wonder if they simply lopped off a huge chunk from the first half of the film.

Freeman and Nicholson make the most of Justin Zackham’s script, but there just isn’t enough substance behind their characters to prop up the carpe diem platitudes. The result is a semi-comedic, geriatric “Brokeback Mountain” minus the sex and with a Himalayan summit. If that isn’t enough, the filmmakers really rub it in with a John Mayer song over the end credits.

“The Bucket List.” MPAA rating: PG-13 for language, including a sexual reference. Running time: 1 hour, 37 minutes. In selected theaters.