How to dramatically change your life in just one week

Related Stories:

How can I dramatically improve my life in 2 years?

This is a great question.

Most people ask how they can change their lives in a week, month, or year.

But unfortunately, real change takes time.

Most experts agree that the sweet spot for transforming your life requires 18–24 months of conscious effort.

In my own life, I went from single, depressed, and broke to an abundant dating life, happier than I’d ever been, and running a 6 figure business in almost exactly 2 years.

Here’s how I did it and how you can too …

1. Focus on your health first

Your health will determine your ability to succeed in every other area of life.

Without a healthy and energetic body, you will never be able to succeed at the highest levels.

As such, over the next 2 years, you are going to gradually work to:

    Exercise 4–5 times a week preferably doing something you enjoy.

Note that all of the above are relatively low cost if not free. If you do nothing but these few things on a weekly basis, I promise your life will change.

2. Lay one brick a day

Pick a big career or financial goal, like building a 6-figure business, quitting your job, or launching a new career.

Then for the next 24 months, commit to laying only one brick a day.

Take only ONE action each day that moves you closer to your goal.

If it’s too hard to do just one thing per day then you don’t want it bad enough.

It doesn’t have to be big, but it does have to be something.

Over time, this will compound and lead to huge results.

3. Journal and meditate to gain clarity

If you aren’t regularly taking time to empty your mind and clear your head, you will never be able to transform your life the way that you want.

In this modern world there is too much distraction at our fingertips.

As such, I recommend that you take one day a week to focus on yourself, your goals, your dreams, and what you’re grateful for in life.

Journal about your thoughts and feelings.

Sit in meditation and listen to what comes up.

Spend time emptying your mind so that you can have the clarity and presence you need to succeed during the other 6 days instead of working “hard” in a million different directions.

4. Spend 30 minutes a day learning a marketable skill

Success doesn’t go to the smartest or strongest, but to the most skilled.

When you have something valuable to offer the marketplace, people will pay you for it.

When you have interpersonal skills such as empathy and communication, romantic partners will flock to you.

Devote 30 minutes a day to learning new skills for fun and profit.

Whether it’s coding, marketing, Facebook ads, a new language, sales or negotiation, don’t let a day go by where you don’t improve your skill set and abilities.

5. Don’t try so hard

It’s also guaranteed to end. On a long enough time line the survival rate of all of us is 0% – that includes the richest people in the world.

So take a breath and relax. Release the pressure.

Life doesn’t have to be so serious and you don’t need to try so hard as if the entire world is watching you. I hate to break it to you but, no one cares about your success or lack of success.

Learn to enjoy the ride, have fun, and appreciate the gift that is the present moment. Right here, right now because “this is it.”

If you get anything from this – you need less than you think to be happy.

… And isn’t that the goal anyways?

As long as you have good health, good friends, and enough money to cover the necessities, you’re successful and you have more than enough to be happy and live an incredible life.

Stay Grounded,
Andrew

This post first appeared on Quora.

How to dramatically change your life in just one week

This is an article that has been a long time in the making. Why? Because it’s the very basis of what I founded my business on. Fearless Pursuits, at its core, has always been about how to dramatically change your life.

In part, because I was seeking change in my own life. My decision to work from home was, on its own, a huge one. I was finally taking the reins and guiding my life in a direction that was authentic to me.

Besides that, I knew that so many other people out there had big leaps that they were afraid to take. They wanted to change. They NEEDED to change. Yet, they remained exactly as they were, day after day. Why? That question both frustrated and fascinated me.

Long before I started this business, my journey to find that answer already started. I had to know. I had to find out so I would never stop myself from reaching higher. Someone needed to find out so that they could help these people, too.

I’m no spring chicken, and my life has been one long stretch of dramatic changes…

Being raised in abuse, and running away from it at 13 years old without a good plan or a penny to my name.

Making a new life for myself as a teen with the help of generous school friends and their families.

Finally finding a home of my own, and settling into a marriage with who seemed to be Mr. Right… at least by society’s terms.

Building and tearing down small business after small business, trying everything once, and becoming a jack (jane?) of all trades in the process.

Getting a divorce when I finally accepted my worth and realized I deserved more love and warmth in my life.

Dropping all of the meat and dairy from my conventional bodybuilding diet to go totally vegan.

Making not one, but TWO interstate moves as a newly single woman with kids in tow. My gut says that yet another one is already coming someday. Maybe I’ll have help this time. 😉

Needless to say, I could see that I knew a thing or two about how to dramatically change your life.

All I needed to put all of this wisdom to good use was to further my education about the mind, and to create a platform to speak it. I learned all about how people tick. I learned what made me so unique from the people I met who would sooner stay stagnant for YEARS at a time before making a change.

I’ve talked about so many different aspects of winning at life. There’s your Mindset, and learning how to use the power of your subconscious. I’ve talked about health and fitness. I’ve even talked about how to use the law of attraction.

Not too long ago, I found myself standing in front of my U-haul truck that read, “Where will U go next?” It’s a cute motto, but a really good question.

You have to decide that your desire for growth and change is bigger than your fear of it. It’s up to you, and you alone to decide that you’re ready to endure the fear and pain of moving forward.

Why? Because you know that to be stagnant another day… is a day WASTED!

How to dramatically change your life: It all begins with a decision.

You’re going to run out of, “I’ll do it tomorrow.” Soon, you’ll run out of “maybe someday” and “not yet”. It doesn’t matter where you are right now. Anything that you want badly enough, you can make happen. All it takes is a decision. A decision that someday’s bliss and satisfaction is so much bigger than being complacent and comfortable today.

You will never discover what beauty lies beyond your unknown shores until you step outside of your comfort boat.

“But what if I get there… and it’s not beautiful? What if I fail?”

How To Be Bold – Eliminate Limiting Beliefs.

Then keep sailing. Sail until you experience all that there is to experience. See every ocean and find out what the lands are all like. Sail until someday, you get to tell that other guy who wants to find that beauty, “It wasn’t worth it for me there, but you can go here instead. I liked it better.”

You will have saved him the treacherous journey, and given him a better idea. To have improved the world by at least this one person. That’s worth any so-called “failure”, now, isn’t it?

Then, there’s also your legacy. What you go to your grave with. What you can say about the life you led, as you lay there in your deathbed. Will you get to say that you at least tried? Or will you have to face that you were always just too scared?

Will your only legacy be to tell your children, “Don’t wait as long as I did”?

Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life!

In splitting up my marriage, there were children to consider. I was financially invested in every state I’d ever lived in. Emotionally invested in the roots I’d started to build in each one, too. I always feared what I didn’t know about where I could go next. You will, too, but it’s worth it. Go there. See what you will see.

How to dramatically change your life in just one weekTrust me, this isn’t as romantic as it looks when it’s most of the year. At least not for me.

Getting fed up enough is the first step to real change. In Arizona, I decided that I was done with drab brown land and extreme heat nearly every day of the year. In Oregon, I decided I was DONE with impossibly slow traffic and gray skies. Now I’m in Colorado, bathing in the light of the sunshine, and so glad I took the leap. You won’t know if you will be, too, until you decide enough is ENOUGH!

Now, I’ll ask you: Are you finally done being here yet?

Focusing on one new habit at a time is the key to lasting change.

How to dramatically change your life in just one week

Are you motivated to make a significant change in your life, right now? That’s a powerful feeling. Let’s leverage that motivation and potential you’ve got right now, and make it really happen for you.

First of all, though you may have several areas of your life that you’d like to see change, you need to pick just one to start. I’ll tell you why in a moment.

Let’s get right to it:

1. Pick your “thing.”

Choose something that:

  • You really want to change.
  • You know that you’d really benefit from it if you changed it.
  • You can realistically change, starting now.

For example, I’ve decided to focus on exercising more. To really get serious about it. I’m a relatively active person (walk the dog every day, get to the gym 2-3 times a week), but the amount I’ve been exercising isn’t enough to be as fit and full of energy and strength as I want to be.

I know, from reading study after study, that working out 4-5 times a week (and pushing myself more with both cardio and weights) will dramatically improve my mood, appearance, health, and overall resilience.

I really want these results, so I’m motivated. I know that making this change would be life-changing. I can make the time in my schedule, and I already go to a nearby gym.

So, what “thing” are you going to do?

2. Decide how, when, and where you’re going to do it.

Research shows that if you are intentional about how, when, and where you are going to do a new behavior, you are more than twice as likely to actually do it.

I’m going to go to the gym on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday mornings, because those are the best days for me. I’m going to do a combination of cardio, weights, core work, and stretching each time. This is a realistic commitment.

How, when, and where are you going to implement your new habit? Be realistic.

Sometimes it’s a good idea to start small and build up over time. That may give you the best chance at making something stick, versus starting out overly ambitious and then flaming out.

I’m going to start with doing 30 minutes of cardio but will plan to build it up to 45 minutes over time.

3. Imagine your life in 10 years, with and without the habit.

If you implement this new habit or change, and it sticks, what will be the result 10 years from now?

If you don’t take your commitment seriously enough and give up after a few weeks, what will that mean for your life 10 years from now?

As an example, if I exercise this often and this intensely, I will likely look and feel great in 10 years. I’ll age much more slowly and have much more energy to do all the different things I want to keep doing as I get older. If I give in to laziness and don’t make the effort… well, let’s just say that it won’t be pretty (I have personally written out a much more detailed, depressing description).

I encourage you, too, to write out a description of both of these options: Describe in great detail how it will impact your life in 10 years if you do this thing, and what your life would be like if you don’t.

Writing the two scenarios out will go a long way toward keeping you on track when you’re inevitably tempted to quit.

4. Keep your goal in your mind every day.

When you pick just one thing to change, you can laser-focus on it. It will stay top of mind. You won’t get distracted by trying to do a bunch of things at once. Your excuses will be forced to disappear because you said you’d do this. This one simple thing.

When you get up in the morning, think of your “thing.” When are you going to do it today? How? Where? Do this every day. Keep it on the top of your mind.

Try to get it done early in the day if you can. I used to plan to work out at the end of my workday, but fitness would constantly get shoved aside by things that came up. I’d end up running out of time. That won’t happen if I do it first thing in the morning. Doing it first means that when I say that exercising a top priority, it really is.

5. Once it’s locked in, move on to the next thing.

You might resist picking just one thing because you feel like you need to change multiple things in your life. Won’t it take too long for your life and results to change, if you just do one thing?

Not at all. Studies show that implementing one new habit at a time is the smarter way to go. It takes a couple of months for most people to lock in a habit to the point that it becomes automatic.

Once your “thing” has become woven into the fabric of your life, to the point that you don’t need to make yourself do it (or remind yourself to do it) anymore, pick a new thing.

One new habit at a time, you will live your way into lasting, powerful, positive change.

Can you feel how good this feels?

You make a promise to yourself and keep it. Since it’s just one promise, it’s so much simpler.

This dramatically increases the odds that you’ll succeed.

FOLLOW US:

resources

ABOUT

categories

Shop W&D

subscribe

designing a life well-lived

Lifestyle

Springtime is the prototypical unveiling of transformation. You can’t step outside without each of your senses seeking out the changes that took hold during winter. Daffodils bloom so dramatically their stems bend with weight, apple trees explode with kaleidoscopic arrangements of pinks and purples, the sun bursts to set all of this growth in motion.

And people transform too. This year especially. People are leaving their homes and establishments are populating again, and everybody has a chance at revealing their transformations. As I considered my own evolution, I found myself feeling a little stagnant. What’s my big reveal going to be? Which evolutions did I undergo all winter in order to step outside with my best—possibly pedicured—foot forward? I felt stumped for a moment. And then I realized that my own blossoming happened months ago.

I remember it vividly. It was winter, too cold to spend any significant time outside with my children—a toddler and an infant. I was sitting on the miniature stool at my daughter’s miniature table. I looked out the sliding glass door next to me: leafless branches shuddered in the frosty wind. It was only morning and we had already done so many different activities. Museums and play places were shut down. Recreation activities were frozen like the skating rinks outside. I tried to come up with an idea for what to do next, and then I thought about the next day, and the next week, and the remaining months until spring—and I began to panic.

What would we do? How would we endure?

“You torment yourself,” my husband told me when I expressed my worries about how I’d keep the kids occupied all winter. So hard had I pushed against my instincts and my natural urge to surrender, so badly did I want to provide my children with enriching experiences that they would have received at daycare had I not been laid off, that I ran myself into the ground trying to be all things to them.

My husband was right: not only was my self-tormenting unnecessary, but it made things much worse. What did I really need to feel guilty about when the entire planet was just doing what they could to get by? Why would I have been an exception?

This pressure point is where I let go; it’s when I blossomed.

It started small. At first I simply noticed when I was making things harder for myself than I needed to. Once I became aware, I began to cut myself some slack.

Beyond meeting my children’s basic needs like food and shelter, I gave them the one thing they really needed, and the thing they most wanted: me. I was with them when they woke up and I was with them when they went to sleep—and for every moment in between. This was enough for them, and my transformation happened the moment I realized that.

It’s incredible what happens when you decide you are enough. You give yourself permission to act without scrutinizing your every move, which makes taking action so much easier. And when actions are easier, and when your analysis of said actions are tempered, you begin to move from one action to the next without much thought.

I gave myself grace—and my god did that feel good.

It started small. At first I simply noticed when I was making things harder for myself than I needed to. Once I became aware, I began to cut myself some slack. I allowed myself to throw on the television to preoccupy my older child while I nursed the baby and, eventually, I did it guilt-free. If I became stressed and yelled, I didn’t get down on myself for losing my cool. I just told my toddler that I felt overwhelmed and hadn’t done a good job of managing my emotions. Talking through it, even with a tiny person, was a way of telling myself it was okay.

Because I was—I am—enough for them. This realization led me to another important transformation: my ability to mute the noise all around me about parenting. When people asked me if my baby was sleeping through the night yet or if I had any sort of educational schedule for my toddler during the day, I began to just say “no” and continue on without defending myself, knowing there was nobody better equipped to make the decisions I was making for my children. The onus had always been on me to make the decisions for them, but only when I decided I was enough for them did I stop second-guessing every decision I made.

Yes, I still have my insecurities. I recently unfollowed a lot of mother-centric Instagram accounts because old comparison habits started to creep up, which I noticed when I started to question some decisions I’d made. Like the magnolia tree in my front yard that grows a little bit each year, my transformation is incremental, not one-and-done.

We’ve all grown this past year, in some ways better than others, but the growth happened regardless, and it’s important that we all take the time to recognize just how far we’ve come.

Now that the buds are peeking out of the trees, now that libraries and gathering places are slowly opening back up, I have a couple of choices: I can go back to being the parent I was before this transformation occurred; the parent I fought so hard to remain at first. Or I can lean into the one I’ve become—the one who gives herself grace and recognizes when she’s setting herself up with impossible standards that can’t be met.

We’ve all grown this past year, in some ways better than others, but the growth happened regardless, and it’s important that we all take the time to recognize just how far we’ve come. And as life creeps back to a semi-normal state, we all have the opportunity to decide if we want to return to the way we were, or if we want to remain the more agile, more forgiving people we’ve become.

I know which choice I’m making.

How to dramatically change your life in just one week

Kolina Cicero is enamored with stories – reading them, writing them, getting lost within them. Other things she loves include yoga, traveling, and taking cooking, Italian, and writing classes. Her first children’s book, Rosie and the Hobby Farm, was published in July 2020.

I: Start your day with an 8 oz glass of water

This seems like it wouldn’t have any effect on your day at all, but trust me, it does. Starting your day by hydrating and taking a few breathes really has the ability to change the trajectory of your overall day in terms of mood and productivity.

For me, it’s a good start because I almost always reach for coffee with whatever I decide to have for breakfast, so the way that I see it I’m just priming my tummy for what’s to come by starting with water! It also helps me drink my 64oz a day.

II: Exercise/Walk 30 minutes a day

Although this has become quite the task for me since I moved, I can still appreciate the gains that walking or exercising for 30 minutes a day can bring!

Whether you’re on a fitness journey or not, the benefits of daily exercise are ones that you really should not miss out on. Exercising can include meditating, stretching, relaxation training, walking, running, dancing, etc. And the results include: a faster metabolism, greater flexibility, a boost in energy, better sleep (when it’s time), a good release, increase in heart rate, and so on. Why would you not want to get your body going to help keep your day going?

III: Make one day a week a “no meat” day

Believe it or not, meat really weighs you down! It sits with you for an uncomfortably long period of time regardless of whether or not you think that your body has processed it.

Trust me! When I went vegan, I completely felt the difference in how my body feels without the meat and how it felt when I ate meat, so I have been working to get members of my family to just make one day a week a “no meat” day to see the small gains and benefits that not having meat will bring them because the differences are truly interesting.

IV: Set a bedtime and stick to it

Although our schedules have probably all been thrown off as of late, we should still work to find a new schedule to keep us productive and to protect our circadian rhythms. If we aren’t conscious of our sleep schedules, we risk sleeping through the days and staying up all night. For those with normal 9-5 jobs, that schedule just won’t work.

So, set a bedtime and practice getting in bed on time whether you like it or not.

It only takes 21 days to form a habit, so within 21 days, you’ll be in a regular sleep pattern that will truly benefit your body and your day’s productivity levels.

V: Have at least one “dying day” a week

Sounds funny, I know!

When I was in law school, it was all work, all the time. By my last year of law school, I was tired and over absolutely everything knowing that the biggest amount of work was yet to come. But, I had nothing left to give because I didn’t give myself time to rest, relax, or just have fun!

So, nowadays, I make it a point to have at least one “dying day” a week.

A dying day is what you give your pet who was given a day to live. It’s where you give him all of his favorite toys, hug and kiss him, let him know that you love him, take him to his favorite park, etc. I believe that having one of these days a week for yourself serves as an ongoing reset.

My dying days are basically promises that all of the hard work will pay off even if it’s in the form of a day of doing absolutely nothing (or everything that I love)!

VI: Get a planner and use it

How to dramatically change your life in just one week

How odd is it that a piece of paper with boxes and calendar days on it literally makes you productive? How does it keep you on track when you can’t even keep yourself on track?

Ah, who cares, the point is that it just works!

Planners have a way of organizing your thoughts, your to-do lists, and your tasks. It gives you space to lay out your days in ways that make you want to check those tasks off.

So, get yourself a planner and use that badboy!

VII: Take a “Good Day” selfie

I never appreciated a good selfie until the days where I was stuck in the house with no need to wear anything but sweatpants and t-shirts for months!

Looking through my phone’s camera roll while in sweatpants day after day did nothing but make me realize that (1) I have a ton of clothes and (2) I’ve taken some adorable selfies!

Months in sweatpants and workout clothes will really make you question your cuteness, so those selfies really raise your spirits when you come across them. That’s why I suggest that, whenever you’re feeling adorable, grab that phone (which is probably in your hand anyway) and take a selfie!

VIII: Pat yourself on the back, but only when you deserve it

The positivist will say to pat yourself on the back no matter what, but this realist says only do it when you deserve it.

The world is filled with undeserving pats on the back and it does nothing but foster entitlement, so when you consider this “habit” do so without the rose colored glasses!

But, the point is that, sometimes you deserve a pat on the back and others won’t be around to administer it! So, do it yourself and move onto the next accomplishment.

IX: Read

I am definitely not a stranger to getting lost in a good author’s story. With all that’s going on in the world today, who wouldn’t want to get lost in the life of another? And, no, I don’t mean by scrolling through someone’s Instagram story!

I mean, picking up a book and getting into a character’s development as the story progresses!

Simply put, I’m telling you all to read more! If you are lost on what books to read, then start with some of the books that I’ve mentioned before:

Related Stories:

How can I dramatically improve my life in 2 years?

This is a great question.

Most people ask how they can change their lives in a week, month, or year.

But unfortunately, real change takes time.

Most experts agree that the sweet spot for transforming your life requires 18–24 months of conscious effort.

In my own life, I went from single, depressed, and broke to an abundant dating life, happier than I’d ever been, and running a 6 figure business in almost exactly 2 years.

Here’s how I did it and how you can too …

1. Focus on your health first

Your health will determine your ability to succeed in every other area of life.

Without a healthy and energetic body, you will never be able to succeed at the highest levels.

As such, over the next 2 years, you are going to gradually work to:

    Exercise 4–5 times a week preferably doing something you enjoy.

Note that all of the above are relatively low cost if not free. If you do nothing but these few things on a weekly basis, I promise your life will change.

2. Lay one brick a day

Pick a big career or financial goal, like building a 6-figure business, quitting your job, or launching a new career.

Then for the next 24 months, commit to laying only one brick a day.

Take only ONE action each day that moves you closer to your goal.

If it’s too hard to do just one thing per day then you don’t want it bad enough.

It doesn’t have to be big, but it does have to be something.

Over time, this will compound and lead to huge results.

3. Journal and meditate to gain clarity

If you aren’t regularly taking time to empty your mind and clear your head, you will never be able to transform your life the way that you want.

In this modern world there is too much distraction at our fingertips.

As such, I recommend that you take one day a week to focus on yourself, your goals, your dreams, and what you’re grateful for in life.

Journal about your thoughts and feelings.

Sit in meditation and listen to what comes up.

Spend time emptying your mind so that you can have the clarity and presence you need to succeed during the other 6 days instead of working “hard” in a million different directions.

4. Spend 30 minutes a day learning a marketable skill

Success doesn’t go to the smartest or strongest, but to the most skilled.

When you have something valuable to offer the marketplace, people will pay you for it.

When you have interpersonal skills such as empathy and communication, romantic partners will flock to you.

Devote 30 minutes a day to learning new skills for fun and profit.

Whether it’s coding, marketing, Facebook ads, a new language, sales or negotiation, don’t let a day go by where you don’t improve your skill set and abilities.

5. Don’t try so hard

It’s also guaranteed to end. On a long enough time line the survival rate of all of us is 0% – that includes the richest people in the world.

So take a breath and relax. Release the pressure.

Life doesn’t have to be so serious and you don’t need to try so hard as if the entire world is watching you. I hate to break it to you but, no one cares about your success or lack of success.

Learn to enjoy the ride, have fun, and appreciate the gift that is the present moment. Right here, right now because “this is it.”

If you get anything from this – you need less than you think to be happy.

… And isn’t that the goal anyways?

As long as you have good health, good friends, and enough money to cover the necessities, you’re successful and you have more than enough to be happy and live an incredible life.

Stay Grounded,
Andrew

This post first appeared on Quora.

FOLLOW US:

resources

ABOUT

categories

Shop W&D

subscribe

designing a life well-lived

Lifestyle

Springtime is the prototypical unveiling of transformation. You can’t step outside without each of your senses seeking out the changes that took hold during winter. Daffodils bloom so dramatically their stems bend with weight, apple trees explode with kaleidoscopic arrangements of pinks and purples, the sun bursts to set all of this growth in motion.

And people transform too. This year especially. People are leaving their homes and establishments are populating again, and everybody has a chance at revealing their transformations. As I considered my own evolution, I found myself feeling a little stagnant. What’s my big reveal going to be? Which evolutions did I undergo all winter in order to step outside with my best—possibly pedicured—foot forward? I felt stumped for a moment. And then I realized that my own blossoming happened months ago.

I remember it vividly. It was winter, too cold to spend any significant time outside with my children—a toddler and an infant. I was sitting on the miniature stool at my daughter’s miniature table. I looked out the sliding glass door next to me: leafless branches shuddered in the frosty wind. It was only morning and we had already done so many different activities. Museums and play places were shut down. Recreation activities were frozen like the skating rinks outside. I tried to come up with an idea for what to do next, and then I thought about the next day, and the next week, and the remaining months until spring—and I began to panic.

What would we do? How would we endure?

“You torment yourself,” my husband told me when I expressed my worries about how I’d keep the kids occupied all winter. So hard had I pushed against my instincts and my natural urge to surrender, so badly did I want to provide my children with enriching experiences that they would have received at daycare had I not been laid off, that I ran myself into the ground trying to be all things to them.

My husband was right: not only was my self-tormenting unnecessary, but it made things much worse. What did I really need to feel guilty about when the entire planet was just doing what they could to get by? Why would I have been an exception?

This pressure point is where I let go; it’s when I blossomed.

It started small. At first I simply noticed when I was making things harder for myself than I needed to. Once I became aware, I began to cut myself some slack.

Beyond meeting my children’s basic needs like food and shelter, I gave them the one thing they really needed, and the thing they most wanted: me. I was with them when they woke up and I was with them when they went to sleep—and for every moment in between. This was enough for them, and my transformation happened the moment I realized that.

It’s incredible what happens when you decide you are enough. You give yourself permission to act without scrutinizing your every move, which makes taking action so much easier. And when actions are easier, and when your analysis of said actions are tempered, you begin to move from one action to the next without much thought.

I gave myself grace—and my god did that feel good.

It started small. At first I simply noticed when I was making things harder for myself than I needed to. Once I became aware, I began to cut myself some slack. I allowed myself to throw on the television to preoccupy my older child while I nursed the baby and, eventually, I did it guilt-free. If I became stressed and yelled, I didn’t get down on myself for losing my cool. I just told my toddler that I felt overwhelmed and hadn’t done a good job of managing my emotions. Talking through it, even with a tiny person, was a way of telling myself it was okay.

Because I was—I am—enough for them. This realization led me to another important transformation: my ability to mute the noise all around me about parenting. When people asked me if my baby was sleeping through the night yet or if I had any sort of educational schedule for my toddler during the day, I began to just say “no” and continue on without defending myself, knowing there was nobody better equipped to make the decisions I was making for my children. The onus had always been on me to make the decisions for them, but only when I decided I was enough for them did I stop second-guessing every decision I made.

Yes, I still have my insecurities. I recently unfollowed a lot of mother-centric Instagram accounts because old comparison habits started to creep up, which I noticed when I started to question some decisions I’d made. Like the magnolia tree in my front yard that grows a little bit each year, my transformation is incremental, not one-and-done.

We’ve all grown this past year, in some ways better than others, but the growth happened regardless, and it’s important that we all take the time to recognize just how far we’ve come.

Now that the buds are peeking out of the trees, now that libraries and gathering places are slowly opening back up, I have a couple of choices: I can go back to being the parent I was before this transformation occurred; the parent I fought so hard to remain at first. Or I can lean into the one I’ve become—the one who gives herself grace and recognizes when she’s setting herself up with impossible standards that can’t be met.

We’ve all grown this past year, in some ways better than others, but the growth happened regardless, and it’s important that we all take the time to recognize just how far we’ve come. And as life creeps back to a semi-normal state, we all have the opportunity to decide if we want to return to the way we were, or if we want to remain the more agile, more forgiving people we’ve become.

I know which choice I’m making.

How to dramatically change your life in just one week

Kolina Cicero is enamored with stories – reading them, writing them, getting lost within them. Other things she loves include yoga, traveling, and taking cooking, Italian, and writing classes. Her first children’s book, Rosie and the Hobby Farm, was published in July 2020.

How to dramatically change your life in just one week

This is an article that has been a long time in the making. Why? Because it’s the very basis of what I founded my business on. Fearless Pursuits, at its core, has always been about how to dramatically change your life.

In part, because I was seeking change in my own life. My decision to work from home was, on its own, a huge one. I was finally taking the reins and guiding my life in a direction that was authentic to me.

Besides that, I knew that so many other people out there had big leaps that they were afraid to take. They wanted to change. They NEEDED to change. Yet, they remained exactly as they were, day after day. Why? That question both frustrated and fascinated me.

Long before I started this business, my journey to find that answer already started. I had to know. I had to find out so I would never stop myself from reaching higher. Someone needed to find out so that they could help these people, too.

I’m no spring chicken, and my life has been one long stretch of dramatic changes…

Being raised in abuse, and running away from it at 13 years old without a good plan or a penny to my name.

Making a new life for myself as a teen with the help of generous school friends and their families.

Finally finding a home of my own, and settling into a marriage with who seemed to be Mr. Right… at least by society’s terms.

Building and tearing down small business after small business, trying everything once, and becoming a jack (jane?) of all trades in the process.

Getting a divorce when I finally accepted my worth and realized I deserved more love and warmth in my life.

Dropping all of the meat and dairy from my conventional bodybuilding diet to go totally vegan.

Making not one, but TWO interstate moves as a newly single woman with kids in tow. My gut says that yet another one is already coming someday. Maybe I’ll have help this time. 😉

Needless to say, I could see that I knew a thing or two about how to dramatically change your life.

All I needed to put all of this wisdom to good use was to further my education about the mind, and to create a platform to speak it. I learned all about how people tick. I learned what made me so unique from the people I met who would sooner stay stagnant for YEARS at a time before making a change.

I’ve talked about so many different aspects of winning at life. There’s your Mindset, and learning how to use the power of your subconscious. I’ve talked about health and fitness. I’ve even talked about how to use the law of attraction.

Not too long ago, I found myself standing in front of my U-haul truck that read, “Where will U go next?” It’s a cute motto, but a really good question.

You have to decide that your desire for growth and change is bigger than your fear of it. It’s up to you, and you alone to decide that you’re ready to endure the fear and pain of moving forward.

Why? Because you know that to be stagnant another day… is a day WASTED!

How to dramatically change your life: It all begins with a decision.

You’re going to run out of, “I’ll do it tomorrow.” Soon, you’ll run out of “maybe someday” and “not yet”. It doesn’t matter where you are right now. Anything that you want badly enough, you can make happen. All it takes is a decision. A decision that someday’s bliss and satisfaction is so much bigger than being complacent and comfortable today.

You will never discover what beauty lies beyond your unknown shores until you step outside of your comfort boat.

“But what if I get there… and it’s not beautiful? What if I fail?”

How To Be Bold – Eliminate Limiting Beliefs.

Then keep sailing. Sail until you experience all that there is to experience. See every ocean and find out what the lands are all like. Sail until someday, you get to tell that other guy who wants to find that beauty, “It wasn’t worth it for me there, but you can go here instead. I liked it better.”

You will have saved him the treacherous journey, and given him a better idea. To have improved the world by at least this one person. That’s worth any so-called “failure”, now, isn’t it?

Then, there’s also your legacy. What you go to your grave with. What you can say about the life you led, as you lay there in your deathbed. Will you get to say that you at least tried? Or will you have to face that you were always just too scared?

Will your only legacy be to tell your children, “Don’t wait as long as I did”?

Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life!

In splitting up my marriage, there were children to consider. I was financially invested in every state I’d ever lived in. Emotionally invested in the roots I’d started to build in each one, too. I always feared what I didn’t know about where I could go next. You will, too, but it’s worth it. Go there. See what you will see.

How to dramatically change your life in just one weekTrust me, this isn’t as romantic as it looks when it’s most of the year. At least not for me.

Getting fed up enough is the first step to real change. In Arizona, I decided that I was done with drab brown land and extreme heat nearly every day of the year. In Oregon, I decided I was DONE with impossibly slow traffic and gray skies. Now I’m in Colorado, bathing in the light of the sunshine, and so glad I took the leap. You won’t know if you will be, too, until you decide enough is ENOUGH!

Now, I’ll ask you: Are you finally done being here yet?

How to dramatically change your life in just one week

If you were to ask me to suggest just ONE thing for you to do to improve your life – just one – it would most likely be to begin a yoga practice. The reason is that yoga is so much more than just exercise. Yoga is holistic in that it is a mind, body, spirit practice that will encourage you to change all areas of your life. A very good friend of mine had an eating disorder, and rather than focusing on trying to fix it, I suggested that she start a yoga practice. Very slowly, after months of learning to be in her body, to increase her awareness, to develop compassion for herself, her eating habits began to change. Eventually, she realized that it had been weeks since she had binged on food. I asked her why she thought this had happened, and she thought it had a lot to do with a feeling of coming home (in a physical sense), rather than running away. She said that her practice helped her to get in touch with why she was overeating, and thus to let go of her low self-esteem and pushed-down anger.

I’m not saying that yoga is a cure for all our mental and emotional ills, but I have seen some astonishing transformations over the years that I have been teaching both privately and on a class level. As a yoga teacher, you have the honor of being able to watch people’s pain and tension melt away – even if it’s just for the duration of the class.

But, my lovely friends, the key is to find a good teacher, and this isn’t always easy. Check out my post on how to find the right teacher for you. A great yoga teacher is everything when it comes of a life-changing practice. If you’re not inspired or changed by your practice, you likely haven’t found the right teacher yet.

The great news is that if you can’t make it to a yoga school, Yoga Works (where I initially trained 16 years ago), is now offering an incredible online program called MyYogaWorks. I highly recommend this program, which you can do every single day. When you sign up, you usually get 2 weeks free, but if you use my code: you get a whopping 6 weeks free! So please take advantage of this offer, and see how a good yoga class can change your life.