How to enjoy life as a single person on valentine’s day!

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Valentine’s Day is normally a fun and romantic occasion for you if you’re in a loving relationship, yet it can be an off-putting and frustrating day if you’re single. A day that celebrates couples often challenges singles. The good news is that you can not only endure Valentine’s Day, but actually enjoy it as a single person.

The trick is first to put your thinking straight about what being single or in a relationship truly means, and second to adopt a constructive behavior. This simple Valentine’s guide for singles will show you exactly how.

1. Know you’re not alone

On Valentine’s Day, it’s common for a single to feel like they’re the only single person out there and everybody else is with their significant other. However, that’s just an illusion, largely created by all the emphasis put on couples on Valentine’s Day through a variety of communication channels: articles, billboards, commercials, gossip, etc.

The reality is that there are a lot of single people out there. Being single does not make you an exception. It actually makes you a member of a large segment of the population, which is steadily getting larger. This is something important to bear in mind.

2. Don’t romanticize being in a relationship

Another tendency to be on a lookout for is the tendency to feel like you’re worse off than others simply because you’re single.

This is what happens when you assume that a relationship per se makes your life better. An idea that’s much closer to the truth is that whether a relationship makes your life better or not depends entirely on the person the relationship is with and on its dynamic. Believe me, there are plenty of people in relationships that make them feel miserable and take away more than they add to their life.

It’s in your grasp to have a happy and fulfilling life as a single. All you need to do is recognize the wide range of options you have to make yourself happy and to employ them. This leads me to my next point.

3. Do something for yourself

You may not have a significant other in your life, but you do have yourself. As a single person, Valentine’s Day is a good moment to remind yourself that you are important to you.

How? By doing things you enjoy.

The last thing you want to do is to stay at home and sulk for being single. Instead, reflect on the things you enjoy the most that don’t entail a relationship and how you can make some of them happen fast. Then, make them happen. Maybe you want to go to a spa, or get a massage, or buy yourself some nice clothes, or watch a movie. Anything that gives you pleasure goes.

As a rule of thumb, the more you take care of your needs, the less you feel the necessity for somebody else in your life. You may still seek that person, but without feeling a desperate requirement for them.

4. Mingle with other singles

Valentine’s Day is not an all couples day; or at least not anymore. Because there is a plethora of singles who don’t want to be ignored on this day, a growing wave of events and activities for singles on Valentine’s has emerged.

More often than not, I’m single on Valentine’s Day. And I can tell you from experience that there is no shortage of single people out on this day, dancing, partying, socializing, drinking and having fun.

There are even bars and clubs that have special singles’ nights or parties on Valentine’s Day, urr, Night. So, get in touch with some of your single friends, go out and enjoy yourselves. If you don’t have single friends, this is an excellent moment to make some. For instance, you can go to a singles’ event or something and meet other singles. On this day, they’ll be particularly excited to meet new people.

Conclusion

The way I see it, whether you’re single or in a couple, Valentine’s Day is a festive occasion and an excellent time to have fun.

At the end of they day, it’s not your relationship status that makes the real difference in your life or on this day. Rather, it’s your ability to capitalize on any type of situation and to live with passion.

So, whether you’re single or in a relationship, have a happy Valentine’s Day!

by How to enjoy life as a single person on valentine's day!Mercy Auma January 21, 2020, 2:03 PM

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How to enjoy life as a single person on valentine's day!

Valentine’s Day, which is celebrated on February 14, annually is often regarded as a lovers’ affair, with different acts of romance displayed to commemorate the day.

It is celebrated globally, and also referred to as Saint Valentine’s Day originating from the Western Christians in a bid to honor an earlier saint who was referred to as Valentinus.

To couples and people in relationships, this is always the time to appreciate one’s partner through gifts, vacations, trips, proposals and many more love languages that work.

Some people are lucky enough to celebrate their birthdays on Valentine’s day.

Categorically, most single people have been recorded to enjoy this day less, especially the public display of affection and romance that couples portray on social media.

There have been instances where people have gone all out on this day, ranging from some spending huge sums of money to show affection and appreciation to their partners while others have documented bad experiences.

It is approximately three weeks to Valentine’s day, and as a single person there are ways one can enjoy the day without it being stressful.

Being single does not mean the day should be boring and end without celebrating oneself. Here are a few ways one can use to make the day interesting:

1. Self Love.

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There are many ways to show love to oneself and this would really work charms in helping a single person get through the day.

Love is a universal language and is celebrated in diverse ways, therefore, showing love to yourself and celebrating personal achievements go a long way in marking this day a success.

Psychologists say that loving oneself is the first step in gaining self confidence and thus appreciating oneself more. On this particular day, one can opt to spend time alone and enjoy things they love doing.

For instance, you can create a date night idea for one, cook, watch programs or movies you enjoy or listen to good music. Ideally, you can take out yourself to a good restaurant, and enjoy a sumptuous meal with good ambiance. For people who are financially independent, treating oneself once in a while is not too much of a big deal. Book a short trip and enjoy the trip at a place you like.

You can also buy yourself a gift, you know, that handbag, flowers or cloth you like.

2. Spending Time With Loved Ones.

Jenga Block Game (Photo/Courtesy).

Valentine’s day is not just meant for couples and people in relationships. It is basically all about celebrating love in general and this can be done through spending quality time with family or friends. For instance, you can be able to celebrate your family members by initiating a cook out, buying gifts including flowers, clothes of jewellery. It does not have to be expensive, chilling at home with close friends or a best friend can make the day enjoyable and well spent. Therefore, the day can be programmed with watching a movie together indoors, playing games or just telling stories and enjoying each other’s company.

3. Pass Love Around.

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Valentine’s Day can be celebrated through acts of kindness, where the love is shared and passed around.

Everyone wants to be loved at one point in their life. Therefore, an act of kindness would go such a long way on this day. Street children or orphans can use the love through visits or gifts. A visit to an orphanage and sharing food or clothes with street children would change their lives and in turn the day is well spent and accounted for. In previous cultures, there are corporate organizations and individuals who buy flowers and gifts and randomly distribute to strangers. This is a good cause that would put a smile in the lives of others.

Volunteer opportunities would also be relevant as you can visit a hospital and take care of sick patients.

4. Go Out, Get Your Groove On.

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This day is often filled with love birds all over the place especially on social media. Do not sulk because you do not have a romantic partner. Rather, get your groove on by making plans and going out. You can go to an entertainment joint and enjoy the night away with good music and food.

This also involves wearing your favourite dress or jeans, lipstick and heels and going for a night out. Look good for yourself, enjoy every minute you spend time with yourself and be open to meeting new people. It does not necessary need to be a relationship or date, but rather a connection that would go a long way in making the day enjoyable.

5. Avoid Comparison.

Valentine Gifts (Photo/Courtesy).

Comparison is a vice that destroys every good thing. On valentine’s day, avoid comparing yourself with other couples and those in relationships.

The day is for everyone to enjoy, hence enjoying and celebrating your small/big milestones is essential in carrying through the day. Remember, this is one day celebration, and life moves on afterwards. Whether you get presents, flowers or not, it does not take away anything from your life. Do not stay miserable and start comparing your life to others as you will only be destroying yourself.

Avoid social media, rather spend quality time experimenting on things you love and those that make you happy.

There are many more ways to celebrate and enjoy this day, the secret is finding out what you love and what works for you.

Group events are also fun, where single people come together and spend the day together.

How to enjoy life as a single person on valentine's day!
Happy Valentine’s Day my lovelies.

I wish much love, romance, and sex today (and everyday) for all my ladies out there. Easy when you’re coupled up, but what about if you’re single? Should you sulk and wonder why you’re all alone on this day? No ma’am. You can enjoy Valentine’s Day if you’re single and I’ll show you how.

I have a friend who will literally hide on Valentine’s Day if she doesn’t have a boyfriend at the time. I mean, she will stay in the house and will avoid people at all cost. If she needs to run errands, she will do them the day before or the day after.

She’s deathly afraid of being seen alone on Valentine’s Day.

Crazy? Maybe, but how many of you single ladies sit home and sulk when Valentine’s Day roll around and there’s no man in sight? Yeah, probably quite a few of you. In fact, I used to do that myself. I would stay home and wonder why I was single on this national day of love.

So what, if I didn’t have a man on Valentine’s Day? I know what’s it’s like to have one on this day and let me tell you, it’s overrated.

I no longer sit at home feeling sorry for myself on Valentine’s Day. In fact, I feel sorry for the man who is not blessed to have me in his life. ‘Cause boy he’s sure missing out.

So what does a single gal do on this day of love?

When I’m single, I do me. I do whatever the hell I feel like doing. I don’t hide. I don’t sit up in the house (unless I want to), I just live life.

So, here are a few tips on what to do with yourself if you don’t have a man for Valentine’s Day and you’re single this year.

How to Enjoy Valentine’s Day When You’re Single

Stay Home

If you decide to stay at home, order your favorite, most delicious dish. You’re only buying for one, so go ahead and splurge. I love seafood, so this is the time I order something I don’t eat often (can anyone say baked crab cakes).

Get your favorite bottle of wine, because you don’t have to worry about someone else’s taste in alcohol. This is also the best time to watch chick flicks such as, [easyazon_link identifier=”B005KL3R6I” locale=”US” tag=”onesmartsista-20″]Bridesmaids[/easyazon_link], [easyazon_link identifier=”B002ZG99UE” locale=”US” tag=”onesmartsista-20″]Valentine’s Day[/easyazon_link], or [easyazon_link identifier=”B00164KYV4″ locale=”US” tag=”onesmartsista-20″]He’s Just Not That Into You[/easyazon_link].

Hang Out With Friends

I’m sure you’re not the only single person in your social circle (even if it seems like it), so grab a few of your girlfriends and hit the hottest club. Get that sexy dress and wear that slutty red lipstick you’re embarrassed to wear most days (but look oh so good in) and party your heart out. Not only will you have the time of your life, but you’ll probably catch the eye of that hottie who is single too.

Go Solo and Do Your Thang

If the party scene isn’t your thing, then get out and do something that you’ve always wanted to do, but couldn’t find anyone to do it with. I’m a history buff, but most of my friends aren’t. So, this is the time that I will go to a museum or hit a seminar no one but me wants to attend. Not only is this a great time to relish in your hobby, but it may be the place where you meet a like-minded someone.

Being single on Valentine’s Day is not a death sentence. You can still enjoy the day. Just think of Valentine’s Day as another commercialized holiday where jewelry and candy stores benefit financially. You are complete, you are whole, with or without a man.

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As a single woman it’s easy for me to feel all alone even in a crowded room. But I’m determined not to let it get the better of me.

There’s more to life than men, and by focusing on other things, I’m maximizing my life as a single woman. Here are my suggestions for living that life.

1. Know Who You Are

One of my favorite verses is Zephaniah 3:17: “He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” When we get a picture of just how precious we are to God, we can’t help but enjoy life. Life is worth living because he is worth living for.

When we get to the “I should be married by now stage,” it’s easy to compare ourselves to others. But God created each of us uniquely and he has given each person specific gifts in order to touch other people’s lives.

Don’t wait for God to bring a man into your life to “complete” you. You are already complete if you are a child of God.

You are single today because he wants you to be. There are some things in life that you can only accomplish in this particular season of life. When God called Moses to speak to Pharaoh about releasing the Israelites from slavery in Egypt, he asked Moses to use what was already in his hand: his staff. He didn’t ask Moses to use something he didn’t have. What’s in your hand? What are your strengths? What are the special gifts that God has given you that you could use today to bless somebody?

2. Have a Great Support Network

“No man (or woman) is an island.” I never realized how much I needed good, supportive friends until my recent breakup with my boyfriend. God has brought some wonderful people into my life, all of whom play different roles.

I have an accountability friend who keeps me on track by asking me the hard questions. I have a ministry friend who plays a role similar to mine in her church, and I have many friends with whom I can just have fun and be myself. I also have a couple of close guy friends. Our relationships are so secure that we know there will never be anything more to our friendship; they are “safe” guys. I have found it helpful to understand a male’s perspective on many things I may be dealing with in my life.

3. Have Fun

This year on Valentine’s Day, my roommates and I decided we would have a girls’ night at our place for all our single friends. We had a lot of fun making the invitations (so much fun that I’ve found a new hobby of making cards!) and planning the menu, decorating and so on.

Of course, everyone still has “down” days and you have to allow yourself to go through them. But don’t stay there. Watching sappy love movies or reading romance novels doesn’t help, so stay away from those.

Here are some things you could do instead:

  • Have a girls’ night
  • Enjoy a regular “pamper yourself” day
  • Find a hobby
  • Aim to meet one new person every week
  • Travel
  • Attend a conference
  • Get some exercise

Give your hand a go at different things if you’re unsure of your place in God’s kingdom. Look for opportunities to serve people and to serve God. In the meantime, if God happens to bring you a guy who seems to be running at the same pace and direction as you, that’s awesome! But if not, keep serving anyway. The Bible says that when we get to heaven we will have to give an account for what we did with our time, so let’s make the most of every day.

Culture tells you being single is a bad thing. We’re here to tell you otherwise.

Being single has a bad reputation, but in reality, it can be an absolute blast. You just have to open your eyes to the beauty of being on your own.

Many people dread singleness. Culture will tell you that single equals bad, that if you’re not cozying up with someone every night, there’s something wrong with you, that you’re unlovable, unstable, or weird.

And many people are just as hard on themselves as culture is. Whether you’ve been single for a while, or you’ve just gotten out of a relationship, being the only loner in your friend group can be frightening, with the assumed prospect of a lonely, boring life looming on the horizon.

But all of these assumptions are absolutely wrong. Instead of filling your single-time with moping, weeping, or desperately searching for a relationship, why not enjoy the many advantages of singleness for a while?

While single, you have an opportunity that few ever take advantage of—the chance to be totally, unabashedly you. While you’re on your own, both self-development and self-indulgence are at your fingertips 24 hours a day—you can do anything, go anywhere, and grow into the person you’re mean to be.

Don’t believe it? Check out these 8 reasons why being single is awesome, and you’ll be convinced.

You’re Only Responsible to Yourself

You’re Only Responsible to Yourself

When you’re in a relationship, you’re responsible to someone else. You’ve got to check in when you travel or stay out late, and you have to talk over major purchases and discuss big life decisions as a couple.

But when you’re single, you’re only responsible to yourself.

This is one of the hidden gems of singleness. No matter how close two people are in a relationship, they’re two different human beings with their own ways of seeing the world. Compromise will always be necessary—you might have to forego traveling the world with your friends, or pass up that exciting new job in a different city because these things simply don’t work out in your relationship.

All of that is fine if you’re ready for it, but why not use your time as a singleton to take your life in the direction you want it to go? While you’re single is the best time to figure things out for yourself, and to take bold risks that might just grant you the life you’ve always wanted.

So, before you try for another relationship, go ahead and live as you will for a while. It’s one of the best things about being single.

Spontaneous Trips

Spontaneous Trips

When you’re single, you don’t have to let anyone know where you’re going, who you’re with, or when you expect to get home. You just go.

That’s the best kind of freedom.

One of the best things about being single is the travel—if you get the sudden urge to head a few states over and spend a weekend in a beautiful state park, you can do it. If you want to go to Japan for a week and have the cash to spend, you can.

When you travel solo, you can just pack up your things and go without feeling an ounce of guilt—there’s no left waiting and lonely back at home.

Just as importantly, you won’t have to live by anyone else’s schedule—this is you-time. Hours, days, and weeks cease to exist, and you can just enjoy the moment-to-moment awesomeness that is exploration. You can sit by the water for hours, walk past the same place ten times, and visit all of the weird, quirky spots you’d like.

And best of all, traveling by yourself will challenge you. Forced to make it on your own, you’ll accomplish feats you didn’t think were possible, permanently pushing yourself beyond your boundaries.

Free Time For Whatever

Free Time For Whatever

Time is the one resource you can’t replenish. Fortunately for singles, time is plentiful, and you can spend it however you’d like.

Taking time for yourself is vital for a happy and satisfying life. It allows you the chance to delve into the hobbies you’re passionate about, to volunteer for causes you believe in, examine your own thoughts, and most importantly, to binge-watch Game of Thrones.

Just about everyone has an internal list of things they’ve always want to do. Want to learn a new language? Have you always wished you knew how to cook? Do you miss spending time working out and improving your physique? Now is the time.

Do all of this, or do none of it and just relax, but whatever you do, take advantage of all the extra time you have as a single person. It’s one of the best things about the loner life, so don’t waste it!

Culture tells you being single is a bad thing. We’re here to tell you otherwise.

Being single has a bad reputation, but in reality, it can be an absolute blast. You just have to open your eyes to the beauty of being on your own.

Many people dread singleness. Culture will tell you that single equals bad, that if you’re not cozying up with someone every night, there’s something wrong with you, that you’re unlovable, unstable, or weird.

And many people are just as hard on themselves as culture is. Whether you’ve been single for a while, or you’ve just gotten out of a relationship, being the only loner in your friend group can be frightening, with the assumed prospect of a lonely, boring life looming on the horizon.

But all of these assumptions are absolutely wrong. Instead of filling your single-time with moping, weeping, or desperately searching for a relationship, why not enjoy the many advantages of singleness for a while?

While single, you have an opportunity that few ever take advantage of—the chance to be totally, unabashedly you. While you’re on your own, both self-development and self-indulgence are at your fingertips 24 hours a day—you can do anything, go anywhere, and grow into the person you’re mean to be.

Don’t believe it? Check out these 8 reasons why being single is awesome, and you’ll be convinced.

You’re Only Responsible to Yourself

You’re Only Responsible to Yourself

When you’re in a relationship, you’re responsible to someone else. You’ve got to check in when you travel or stay out late, and you have to talk over major purchases and discuss big life decisions as a couple.

But when you’re single, you’re only responsible to yourself.

This is one of the hidden gems of singleness. No matter how close two people are in a relationship, they’re two different human beings with their own ways of seeing the world. Compromise will always be necessary—you might have to forego traveling the world with your friends, or pass up that exciting new job in a different city because these things simply don’t work out in your relationship.

All of that is fine if you’re ready for it, but why not use your time as a singleton to take your life in the direction you want it to go? While you’re single is the best time to figure things out for yourself, and to take bold risks that might just grant you the life you’ve always wanted.

So, before you try for another relationship, go ahead and live as you will for a while. It’s one of the best things about being single.

Spontaneous Trips

Spontaneous Trips

When you’re single, you don’t have to let anyone know where you’re going, who you’re with, or when you expect to get home. You just go.

That’s the best kind of freedom.

One of the best things about being single is the travel—if you get the sudden urge to head a few states over and spend a weekend in a beautiful state park, you can do it. If you want to go to Japan for a week and have the cash to spend, you can.

When you travel solo, you can just pack up your things and go without feeling an ounce of guilt—there’s no left waiting and lonely back at home.

Just as importantly, you won’t have to live by anyone else’s schedule—this is you-time. Hours, days, and weeks cease to exist, and you can just enjoy the moment-to-moment awesomeness that is exploration. You can sit by the water for hours, walk past the same place ten times, and visit all of the weird, quirky spots you’d like.

And best of all, traveling by yourself will challenge you. Forced to make it on your own, you’ll accomplish feats you didn’t think were possible, permanently pushing yourself beyond your boundaries.

Free Time For Whatever

Free Time For Whatever

Time is the one resource you can’t replenish. Fortunately for singles, time is plentiful, and you can spend it however you’d like.

Taking time for yourself is vital for a happy and satisfying life. It allows you the chance to delve into the hobbies you’re passionate about, to volunteer for causes you believe in, examine your own thoughts, and most importantly, to binge-watch Game of Thrones.

Just about everyone has an internal list of things they’ve always want to do. Want to learn a new language? Have you always wished you knew how to cook? Do you miss spending time working out and improving your physique? Now is the time.

Do all of this, or do none of it and just relax, but whatever you do, take advantage of all the extra time you have as a single person. It’s one of the best things about the loner life, so don’t waste it!

In old age, lifelong singles who chose single life have no regrets

Posted Jan 26, 2015

When people who have been single all their lives get to their later years, some are leading happy lives with no big regrets and others are much less contented with how their lives have unfolded. What predicts who will end up joyful about their lives lived single, even in old age, and who ends up regretful?

The two main approaches to answering such questions are (1) studies based on large numbers of participants, sometimes representative national samples, who answer brief survey questions; and (2) studies based on small numbers of people (not representative samples), who are usually interviewed in person and in depth.

A recently published study is based on the latter approach. Irish men and women who had been single for life were interviewed in 2012, when they were between 65 and 86 years old. The 26 participants included singles who were middle class and working class, urban and rural. None had ever cohabited.

For the cohort in question, to be a young and single in Ireland had been challenging. As authors Virpi Timonen and Martha Doyle noted, “As young adults in the late 1950s, 1960s and in the 1970s, all participants had been socialized in a patriarchal society in which divorce and contraception were prohibited, and non-marital co-habitation and sexual relations were taboo.”

In wide-ranging interviews, the many topics participants discussed included their backgrounds, work life, social life, family life, and their thoughts about living single from early adulthood up to the present. One factor was clearly the most significant in predicting whether they were, as 65+ year-olds, happy with their lifelong singlehood: whether they had chosen to be single.

Lifelong singles who did not choose to stay single (“single by constraint”)

Two main structural constraints stood in the way of marriage for singles who did not choose to stay single for life. First, some had cared extensively and intensively for other family members who needed a great deal of help. Sometimes they cared for one needy person after another, and never did have a chance to pursue their own social lives. The second constraint came from demanding employment, usually working-class jobs with long hours.

When those who were single-by-constraint did pursue romantic relationships, they did not find satisfactory partners. The authors noted that Irish husbands and wives were often expected to adhere to strict gender roles, and single women who were resistant to such roles may have had an especially difficult time finding an egalitarian mate.

Reflecting on their current lives as seniors, those who were single by constraint (14 of the 26 participants) were likely to express regrets about their single status. Some were currently seeking romantic relationships. For working-class men, the economic barriers were not as formidable as they had been in their early adult years. As seniors, they had a state pension and subsidized housing.

Working-class women felt differently. Their regrets were more about not having daughters to care for them. They were not looking to marry.

Lifelong single people who chose to live single (“single by choice”)

The single men and women who chose to be single said that they wanted to be single as young adults and they still wanted to be single now. The authors described them as “freedom-focused.” They wanted to make their own choices about how to live, what they would and would not spend money on, how often to socialize, and with whom. They valued autonomy and often viewed married life as constraining.

Single people in Ireland who chose to be single often had the same experiences as the constrained singles in providing extensive care to relatives who needed help. But they did not view that caring as constraining. They said they chose to reciprocate the love and attention they received themselves as children.

The people who were single by choice told the interviewers that they enjoyed their own company, and appreciated the opportunity to pursue interests such as writing.

As one of the single-by-choice women said:

“I’m very glad I never married, yes, because I think I’ve had a chance to do much more….[Her married sister has the companionship of her husband, but…] you can’t have too much bloody companionship, I’d like more peace on my own…my money I can fiddle around and nobody telling me I can’t buy new curtains…so the independence…is priceless, in fact I can’t see any advantage to being married.”

In the conclusion of their paper, the authors begin by underscoring a point that they seem to realize is not obvious to many of their fellow academic colleagues, even though it should be:

“It is important to highlight the fact that singlehood was a conscious choice for many older people in their youth, and continues to be their unequivocal preference in later life.”

Reference: Timonen, V., & Doyle, M. (2014). Life-long singlehood: intersections of the past and the present. Ageing & Society, 34, 1749-1770.

[Note. Sorry to have taken a bit longer between posts than usual. As you may have noticed, the PT site has been redesigned, and I have been holding out for that to be (nearly) finished. During the process, I have not been notified when comments were posted, and that is still continuing, but I can still access them – I just need to remember to go to look for them. Anyway, I’m sorry for any inconvenience to readers.]

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The holidays can be a particularly rough time to be single. (In other breaking news, the sky is blue and grass is green.) But you will survive. Here are some tips to help get you through.

Woman writing christmas cards

The two most important items of clothing you can own as a single person during the holidays is a killer party outfit (preferably something dark, vampy and dramatic) and the softest, most comfortable, and possibly unflattering pair of pajamas you can find. This way, you can spend the holidays either as the hottest person in the room at a party, or swathed in comfortable material watching movies in bed. Win/win.

Remember, the holidays don’t have to be (that) stressful. Instead of focusing on the holiday gauntlet, try and use the days off as an opportunity to catch up on sleep and reading time.

In the Victorian age, people used to tell ghost stories at Christmas. Carry on this tradition by asking your family to tell ghost stories, or by watching the Saw franchise in bed. Either works.

Might want to pack a travel pair of scissors in your bag, in case you need to snip down some mistletoe or holly in a blind rage.

Make friends with the kids table. You’ll be so busy giving piggy-back rides and sticking a spoon on your nose that older relatives will forget to ask you about your love life.

Taking the nieces and nephews ice skating? Stuck next to your deaf great-aunt at Christmas dinner? Catching Love Actually on TV for the fourth time that week? These little, pocket-sized bottles of alcohol are your friend — keep them on hand for any holiday activity that takes place more than 25 feet away from the nearest liquor cabinet.

Add a little pep to your hot chocolate in the form of whiskey and cayenne pepper. Hey, it’s the little things.

Enjoy spending time with your family without the pressure of having them judge your significant other. Because that is stressful, when you’re half furious at your family for being judgmental, and half furious at your significant other for saying/doing the thing that they’re being judgmental about. Who needs that at Christmas?! Not you!

Avoid malls at all cost. No one is happy at a mall at Christmastime, not even the blissfully in love. Do your shopping online, and spend your weekends at quiet, tranquil places: the park, the library, the countryside, the roof of your building: anywhere without a holiday soundtrack playing on repeat.

Bake cookies for everyone at work, or better yet, volunteer somewhere. Seriously, there are bigger issues in the world than your lack of relationship status. A little random act of kindness will get you whistling along to Christmas carols in no time.

Get a head start on your New Year’s Resolutions. Are you going to start working out five times a week? Start now. Do you want to read 50 books in 2012? Start picking them. Looking ahead will remind you that the holidays won’t last for ever. Even if it seems like they will.

Don’t hit the mini bottles of whiskey too hard. As much as we advocate the use of a little liquid pep, over-indulging can turn you into the sad, single, drunk person.

Have talking points ready. You know your entire extended family is going to ask you about your life, so instead of replying with a vague “Oh, things are good. “, be prepared with some actual, concrete things to say. Tell them about something in your life that you’ve been enjoying this year: a work accomplishment, a new apartment, or even an especially fun wedding or party or activity you attended.

Embrace the holiday gluttony. Another gingerbread cookie? Don’t mind if I do.

Start planning that badass thing you’re going to buy with all your Christmas money/returned gift credits. A fur coat? A Wii? Treat yo self.

Dive bars are the perfect antidote to a Christmas overdose. Got an office holiday party you’re dreading? Make plans to meet friends at a dive bar immediately afterwards, and wash away all that egg nog with cheap beer and wings. Survived Midnight Mass with your family? Get thee to a dive bar, and get the Christmas hymns out of your head by blasting “Sweet Home, Alabama,” or something equally loud and un-Christmasy.

Fake it til you make it. The best way to ensure you have a good time during the holidays is to just pretend you’re having a great time during the holidays. A convincing performance may go a long way in convincing yourself, too.

Remember: Just two weeks until it’s all over, and then you can relax! . Until Valentine’s day, that is.

Good luck, and Happy Holidays!

Single ladies, unite! Are any of you braving the holidays solo this year?

Updated on February 25, 2021 by John Vincent 1 Comment

Happiness is a choice. You can choose to enjoy life or choose to suffer from the pain it gives you.

Life can also be a game. You can be worried that you might lose or you can simply forget about losing and just enjoy the game.

Whoever breaks your heart and makes you sad, you have to power to control your emotion. You can react with sadness or you can just decide and act to continue going wearing a smile in your face.

Life is enjoyable. No matter what you are feeling right now, the following inspirational quotes can motivate you to enjoy life to the fullest.

1. “Happiness is a choice, a repetitive one.” ― Akilnathan Logeswaran

2. “Just play. Have fun. Enjoy the game.” ― Michael Jordan

3. “In all of living, have much fun and laughter. Life is to be enjoyed, not just endured.” ― Gordon B. Hinckley

4. “The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for a newer and richer experience.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

5. “The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time.” ―- James Taylor

6. “Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.” ― Eddie Cantor How to enjoy life as a single person on valentine's day!Photo by Silviarita

7. “Live every day as if it were going to be your last; for one day you’re sure to be right.” ― Harry Morant

8. “Simply enjoy life and the great pleasures that come with it.” ― Karolina Kurkova

9. “Follow your hopes and not your fears.” ― Jody Bower

10. “I enjoy life when things are happening. I don’t care if it’s good things or bad things. That means you’re alive.” ― Joan Rivers

11. “Enjoy life. There’s plenty of time to be dead.” ― Hans Christian Andersen

12. “Stop seeking out the storms and enjoy more fully the sunlight.” ― Gordon B. Hinckley

13. “Believe in “live and let live”. ― Satyendra Pandey

14. “The safest course is to do nothing against one’s conscience. With this secret, we can enjoy life and have no fear from death.” ― Voltaire

15. “Do what makes you happy, be with who makes you smile, laugh as much as you breathe, and love as long as you live.” ― Rachel Ann Nunes

16. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ― Harold Whitman

17. “Slow down and remember this: Most things make no difference.” ― Tim Ferriss

18. “We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ― Joseph Campbell

19. “Do anything, but let it produce joy.” ― Walt Whitman How to enjoy life as a single person on valentine's day!Photo by Fotorieth

20. “Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.” ― James Dean

21. “Live in the moment. Forget the past and don’t concern yourself with the future.” ― Tanner Christensen

22. “Participate in life instead of just watching it pass you by.” ― Lindsey Wonderson

23. “Keep your spirit free, be flexible, let go.” ― Leslie Brown

24. “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” ― Helen Keller, The Open Door

25. “Life is like a roller coaster, live it, be happy, enjoy life.” ― Avril Lavigne

26. “Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going to fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.” ― Eddie Cantor

27. “There is no way to happiness – happiness is the way.” ― Thich Nhat Hanh

28. “And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” ― Abraham Lincoln

Do you have other quotes or sayings about enjoying and optimizing happiness in your life that you want to add to this list? Feel free to share by making a comment below. Don’t forget to share these inspiring quotes with your friends.