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- THE JERSEY JETSETTER
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Just Something to Read While You Pee
I got the idea for this post from my friend Amanda Piccirilli and her blog, Take Your Pic. She was actually inspired by blogger Jessica Lawlor, who writes here about how to get gutsy. This is a story about how I learned to get gutsy.
Like so many people, I found myself caught in a plastic trap a few years ago. High vet bill? Visa. Car repairs? Visa. Plumbing emergency? Visa.
I relied on my Visa card when unexpected, expensive bills popped up. I wasn’t living beyond my means and buying dumb crap, and it didn’t reach stomach-sickening proportions. Still, it had crept up to about $2,000 over the course of several years, an amount that made me uncomfortable.
And, I barely made a dent in it because I was just paying the minimum payment most months. Sometimes I paid more, but not enough to really make a difference quickly. Even though I hated my debt, I hated the thought of paying more than $40 to $80 a month toward it even more.
Last summer Mike told me I was being ridiculous — because of the interest rate (around 20 percent) it would take me years to pay off the card if I only made the minimum payment, even if I stopped using it. At that point, the balance was about $1,700.
This isn’t a story about how I found ways to cut my expenses so I could scrimp and save and give up all that damn expensive craft beer so I could finally pay off my credit card. It’s a story about how I made a decision to be financially smart after being lulled for so long by the lies and scams of the credit card industry.
“Do you have seventeen hundred dollars in the bank?” he asked, knowing the answer.
“Then why don’t you pay it off? Just pay it off. Do it today.”
The thought freaked me out. I really had never considered just paying it off, even though I did have the funds to do so. Those small, bite-sized payments were manageable. I don’t spend money easily because I always feel I need to prepare for some huge catastrophe. And, yeah, paying more than small payments every month meant, to me, that I’d have less of a buffer against all of the evils of the world. Looming “bad stuff” could be zapped by having a healthier balance in the bank.
It all sounds crazy considering that I was actually paying more than I owed when I made the minimum payments. More of my precious pennies were flying out the door, deceptively so.
After I processed this, I decided that Mike gave me good advice and I needed to listen. So one morning in September, I got gutsy and paid off what I owed on the card. It was an amazing feeling to see the balance listed as $0.
I was going to wait until I did my 2014 taxes before paying off the $303.15 I now owe on my student loan to take advantage of the tax benefits, but I don’t think what I owe will amount to much of a tax credit. So, I’m going to pay off my student loan this month. I imagine that will feel even more significant since I’ve been carrying it for so many years.
I signed up for a better, different Visa, one with rewards points, and I’ve been using it since October. I had always used my debit card, but Mike pointed out it’s not a good idea to give retailers, or anyone, direct access to your money, and using credit protects you from that.
The difference is that I’m now paying off the balance every month. You gotta do that. You just have to. And you know what? Given what I’ve learned and how I’ve grown and in the past few months, it’s not painful at all.
Getting gutsy in a crowd! Just kidding. No reason for this photo, which was taken last summer at the East Passyunk Craft Beer Festival. I found it on my phone and just thought it looked cool.
Getting gutsy is all about stepping outside your comfort zone to reach your goals and live a life that makes you truly happy. This post is my entry for Jessica Lawlor’s Get Gutsy Essay Contest. To get involved and share your own gutsy story, check out this post for contest details and download a free copy of the inspiring Get Gutsy ebook.
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By Vernice “FlyGirl” Armour
When I returned home from my deployments as America’s first African American female combat pilot, people started asking me how I did it.
What I realized is that many people wanted to create a breakthrough in their lives; they just didn’t know how and were fearful of taking a risk.
My secret to success? The Gutsy Move. In your gut, you know it’s right. It takes guts to do it, but you MUST take action!
Consider a few gutsy moves that paid off. Bill Gates dropped out of college, and we now have personal computers in millions of households. Tyler Perry was so determined to be a successful playwright that he lived homeless in his car for two years. Warren Buffett’s investing principles rebelled against the normal practices, and millions of investors have profited. What’s YOUR Gutsy Move? What are you willing to do to make your dreams and goals a reality?
I am going to share the secret sauce to all my breakthroughs. Make it yours and make magic in your life!
1. Clarity – Create Your Flight Plan
The following questions are the foundation that directs the path for EVERYTHING: Where are you, and where do you really want to be? I’m giving you a direct order NOT to think about the how. As soon as you start thinking about the how, there’s a good chance you won’t let yourself go for what you really want, but what you feel you can attain.
2. Courage – Pre-Flight
The pre-flight is the practice of checking out the plane before going on a flight.
This is the step where you look at how to carry out your plan and analyze the risks, dangers and obstacles — including your inside doubts — and formulate a plan to get to “mission accomplished.” Are you willing to explore, expose the gaps and create a plan to get around them?
3. Power – Take Off!
This is one of the most critical phases of flight. As an attack helicopter pilot in combat, most of the time I was loaded to maximum weight capacity. A full load required 100% power to get the helicopter off the ground. Make a commitment to the commitment and do what it takes to pull yourself through the tough times.
This is where the first three steps come together. Once you have taken off, you are in execution mode actively navigating around challenges and obstacles that will inevitably arise. Remember, obstacles are opportunities in disguise!
5. Review, Recharge, Reattack
• Review your successes and failures; look at where you can improve.
• Recharge. How can you give 100% if you aren’t 100%?
• Reattack. There are only two ways to succeed — the first time or again.
When things got tough, I knew the most important action I could take was to keep moving forward. I decided any pains I felt were just growing pains, preparing me for my next mission in life.
Get Gutsy. Live Gutsy. STAY Gutsy. What’s YOUR Gutsy Move?
Let’s face it: your colon isn’t exactly a dinner party topic. It takes a lot of guts to bring up colorectal cancer—to your parents, your spouse, your doctor, your friends. Don’t be afraid to pipe up about the second-leading cancer killer of both men and women, because it’s proven that simple steps save lives.
Here’s how you can Be Gutsy for colorectal cancer prevention:
- Digest some information. CDC’s Screen for Life: National Colorectal Cancer Action Campaign gives you the lowdown on what colorectal cancer is and who can get it. (Hint: it’s anybody, but there are ways to lower your risk.) You can hear celebrities like Meryl Streep share how colorectal cancer has affected their lives, share graphics and facts, and even test your knowledge with a quiz.
- Get yourself a little screen time. Be famous for smart choices—there are lots of different screening tests for colorectal cancer. Most colorectal cancer cases happen in people 50 and older, so if you’re between 50 and 75 years old, experts say you should be screened. Remember, the best test is the one that gets done!
- Go history hunting. Some people are at higher-than-average risk for colorectal cancer. If you or a family member has had it before, you could be at risk. You’re also more likely to get it if you have an inflammatory bowel disease like Crohn’s or certain genetic illnesses. Talk to your doctor about whether you should be screened.
- Trust your gut. The point of recommended colorectal screening is finding growths called polyps that can turn into cancer if left alone. But if you’re having symptoms like stomach pains or weight loss for no reason, or if you see blood when you use the bathroom, talk to your doctor. Other problems than cancer can cause these symptoms, too.
- Scale it back. Here’s one a lot of Americans still don’t know: being overweight or obese is associated with at least 13 different types of cancer, including colorectal cancer. Healthy eating and physical activity help keep weight down and lower risk.
- If you drink, think. Drinking too much alcohol can cause your health to take a hit. That includes a higher risk of colorectal and other cancers, as well as other problems that might come up now or later in life.
- Quit for quality of life. Cigarette smoking can cause colorectal cancer and other cancers outside the lungs. If you smoke, you can cut your cancer risk by quitting now. You’ll do friends and family a favor, too, by keeping them away from damaging secondhand smoke.
You have the tools and know-how to lower your risk of colorectal cancer. Be Gutsy and spread the word!
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Please also recommend that people avoid eating processed meats, which the International Agency for Research on Cancer has classified as Group 1 Carcinogens, similar to alcohol consumption and tobacco smoking.
Great tips from this article. Thank you for sharing.
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We spent a lot of time putting together this massive list. And yes, there are actually 86 things on the list.
But not only did we spend a lot of time on the list, we also spent time turning it into a useable sheet for you to take action on.
You can download it right now and skip the rest of this post, if you want.
There are 6 sheets via one PDF download:
- The main sheet with all 86 ways to view/hang up/bind wherever you’ll be able to see it often.
- A sheet that’s more for viewing online, as it links to places for more context and information.
- 4 pages of the information from page 1, broken down so that you can use it for your OWN journey. You can print it then cross off the things you’ve done and/or make notes next to the ones you want to try and/or have further questions on. Process of elimination?!
If you have my physical journal, this is a great complimentary piece. You can print it and add to your physical journal via the back pockets!
And if you have the e-journal (PDF), then print these sheets off and add them to your journal binder. On the Master Gutsy Spreadsheet, there is a tab called “Journal Essentials.” I have listed some beautiful 3-ring binders to consider if you’ve chosen the PDF journal route (which is cheaper, BTW).
Ways to Heal the Gut
Anyways, here are the first 22 things on my list of 86:
- Journaled, the right way
- Intermittent Fasting
- Meal spacing
- SIBO test
- Dutch test
- Probiotic, the right one
- Intestinal movement
- Breath work
- Bone Broth
- Understood difference between gut health and gut healing
- Combined a Western meets alternative approach
- Got Rifaximin through an Australian pharmacy
- HCL (Hydrochloric Acid)
- Added more foods to increase butyrate production
- More fat, less fat-free
- Digestive enzymes
- Learned to meet people where THEY are at on their healing journey, not where I want them to be
- Implemented a 100% personalized diet
- Got out of the weeds of OVERWHELM
Because this resource is very put together and comprehensive, I couldn’t just place it here. However, you can get the full PDF download with all 86 Ways to Heal the Gut by clicking HERE.
You can now listen in to the detail for numbers 1 – 4 from above.
I truly hope you love this brand new (free) resource!
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When EarthBound was released, everyone thought that the ultra-rare Gutsy Bat weapon could only be obtained by defeating a Kraken enemy in the Sea of Eden. Given that there are like only three of them in there and they’re permanently gone after you defeat them, many kids were frustrated when trying to win the bat.
The thing is, though, that the Gutsy Bat ISN’T dropped by Krakens. They’re dropped by Bionic Krakens in the last dungeon of the game!
So how did this myth come about? Why, the player’s guide that came with the game, of course!
This has lead to a few questions I’ve never been able to answer:
- Some players SWEAR that they’ve gotten the bat from normal Krakens, even though it’s been proven not possible. So is this a case of faulty memory, lies turning into false memories, or is there really a rare version of the game out there that lets you get Gutsy Bats from Krakens that none of us know about?
- How did they get that screenshot for the guide? If the normal Kraken dropped the Gutsy Bat at some point, why did they change it to the Bionic Kraken at the last second? Especially when it’s the Bionic Kraken that drops the bat in the original Japanese version?
Very strange stuff. Anyone have any ideas? I think the Kraken & Gutsy Bat myth spread in other ways too back in the day, but I don’t recall where. Does anyone remember?
I’ve always had a tendency to play it safe. For many years, there were lots of things I liked the idea of doing, but the effort required go outside my comfort zone stopped me.
When I sat and thought about the risks involved and all the what-ifs associated, I always wimped out.
So this left me conforming to the norm, living a life others expected of me and generally putting my dreams on hold so that I could remain safe and comfortable. Except it wasn’t comfortable, I was unhappy and deeply unfulfilled and only when the cost of standing still exceed the cost of change did I finally get more comfortable with the idea of taking the risk and heading into the unknown.
I left a long-term relationship that I’d outgrown, I quit my soul-crushing corporate job a nd I traveled overseas on my own to see the world and learn about facing risks.
The risk of leaving a secure relationship and being on my own for the first time in many years filled me with doubt—what if this was as good as it got? What if I end up single forever? I’m getting older now, all my friends have settled down and started families, maybe I’ll get left on the shelf?
One of the most difficult things was the risk I took turning my back on an 11-year career, a well-paying job without any qualifications to do anything else. I ran the risk of running out of money, being unemployed and becoming homeless. It had been the security of my 9 to 5 pay check that kept me stuck in a job I didn’t enjoy for many years, scared of exactly these risks.
But I took the risk, I spent a year doing what I loved, I trained to be a yoga teacher, travelled, wrote a book and fueled my passions. I created a life I loved and whilst it wasn’t always rosy, I wouldn’t go back and change it.
As with all aspects of life, the rough comes with the smooth. Those risks I was fearful of, some came true: I ran out of money, I couldn’t find employment and I spent a few months pet sitting because I was homeless and couldn’t afford rent.
So now, a couple of years down the track, you’d think I’d be used to taking risks, having faced the music, navigated the tough times and still remained happy. Surely risk taking is now within my comfort zone? Not so much.
For the first time in many years I find myself falling in love again, and the risk monster has reared its head and with it all sorts of fears I was sure I’d overcome previously. It appears that the risk of being hurt outweighs the risk of losing a pay check or traveling the world!
This recent experience leaves me on the edge of something beautiful, yet gripped by fear and what-ifs and needing to make a call—do I take the risk? What if I get hurt? I was happy on my own, what if my life changes, what if it doesn’t work? I liken it to being in a cable car hurtling down a hill, but the rope has broken and there are no breaks—a risk we take each time we get in.
Sometimes things happen outside of our control, sometimes we don’t know the end result, often we don’t need to. Like a base jumper we can chose to take the leap of faith from the top and hopefully the universe, our higher power—whatever it is you believe in—will cushion our fall and guide us to where we need to land.
But we have to take the first step off the edge and that is the hardest part, because it involves facing our fears and taking the risk.
We spend a lot of time trying to avoid fear, to stay in our comfort zone where things feel familiar and safe, even if it makes us unhappy. So how did I eventually get to this point and make that step into the unknown?
>> What will happen if I don’t?
>> Can I live like this for another year, what am I missing out on?
And of course, the flip side to that:
>> What’s the worst that can happen and what would I do?
This gave me some solutions for my biggest fears. I considered:
>> Is it a rational reason (like spiders, for example)?
>> Is there an experience from my past that makes me scared of doing this, or perhaps a belief I’ve held for years that may not even be true?
This helped put my fears into perspective and see that some were not logical . I also discovered that one of the reasons I worried what people will think is because I want to please them. Incidentally, I did please them—even though they thought I was crazy at the time, many also respected the courage and now see the results.
To try and minimise the risks I had a plan and tried to prepare. For example, saving so I had some money to fall back on, doing an online course to upskill in my new career, researching the countries I wanted to visit.
I had to strike the balance between planning and knowing there was always going to be an element outside of my control and that even if it didn’t work out in the end, I’d navigate my way through.
I thought about my dreams non-stop, put pictures of them everywhere. I could see my dream everyday, and it made me more inclined to chase it, helping the fear seem more worthwhile to face.
Setting goals and making small steps toward them helped minimize the fear.
This week I’ll do this, next week I’ll do that. Each day we get closer, and the big thing becomes lots of little things.
Remember why we want to do this also helps—whether it’s to create a better life for your family or to land your dream job, we have to face the fear to get to the outcome
Fear is not a sign to put the breaks on and run back to safety, but rather a sign that we’re growing and taking steps forward to achieve our dreams.
Without risk there is no reward, so we can stay in the jobs we hate but we might miss out on living our passion; we can stay single and reduce the risk of being hurt but we might miss out on the love of our life.
A risk is only a risk until we’ve taken it, and fears rage at their worst before we face them.
Author: Jess Stuart
Apprentice Editor: Aga Wyrzykowska; Editor: Emily Bartran
This post was hard to write. I’ve been hesitating for days about whether or not to hit the publish button on this, but I finally summoned up the courage to do so. It’s hard for me, because some of the things you’re about to read are a little painful, and very personal, but I promised myself when I started this blog that I would always be honest with my readers.
So here it goes.
I have been emotionally stunted for the last year and a half.
Not in a robotic “what does it mean to be human?” kind of way, but rather in a way that made it hard for me to connect on a deep level with a woman.
On the surface, everything appeared to be normal. I was meeting girls, getting laid, having fun, and not really worrying about my relationships.
Inside my body though, I wasn’t right. I would meet new girls, and they’d be perfectly lovely, but I couldn’t connect with them. Even ones that were amazing in all the right ways for me, ones that I felt I should be able to have a relationship with, I just couldn’t get deeply into.
In fact, as awful as it is to admit, I couldn’t distinguish my emotions with most of the women I dated and slept with. Many were interchangeable, and I was able to walk away from them without skipping a beat.
It was odd, because I wasn’t empty inside. I wasn’t a bucket that needed water, because I didn’t feel like I was missing something. All my needs were being met.
I realized something was off when I began listening to my physical body, which was running interference. I noticed that whenever I got too close to a woman emotionally, I’d get sick, or a cold sore would pop up on my lips, and I’d be forced to keep my distance for a few days.
And every now and then, a surge of anger at my ex girlfriend would come up, and I just didn’t know why.
About two months ago, I made out with a great girl. It was just a kiss, on a couch, at my apartment. But it was electric. Perhaps it was because I’d known her for a while, and trusted her. Perhaps it was because she is just a great person overall. I don’t know the reason, but the kiss left my heart beating way too fast, and set my nerves on edge.
And something inside of me snapped. I felt again, for the first time in what seemed like an eternity. It was… something. Something good.
However, by opening the drawer that held the good emotion, I also unleashed all of the bad shit that was sitting on top of it, just waiting to escape. That uneasy feeling I’d been sleeping on for a while finally surfaced.
I sat uneasily on it for a few days, with my stomach in knots and a lump in my throat, until I finally managed to bring it up to the front of my mind.
It was caused by the way my last relationship ended.
As far as my ex was concerned, she and I were good. And why shouldn’t she? I never told her I had some leftover issues from our time together, never expressed anything to her but love. In fact, I’ll say it here and now, she is an amazing human being.
But I was fucked up. I was holding a grudge against her, which neither she nor I had been aware of, and it had been slowly eating at me for the last year and a half.
When I realized this, I cried. I cried at the coping mechanism I had created, where I had crawled into a shell to hide, just like I had done for the first 22 years of my life.
I cried for… I just cried.
And then something inside of me was released.
I took a deep breath, stepped back, and finally accepted that I had been hiding from myself for a long time. I examine my emotions on a regular basis, which made it hard to admit that I am still human, and still prone to error.
But I am. And that’s ok.
I called my ex girlfriend two weeks ago. I told her I needed help to resolve an issue I had about our relationship. I finally admitted that I was upset over certain things, and I couldn’t get over them until I expressed my feelings to her.
You know what she did? She heard how much trouble I was having, and how much it was distressing me. To solve my problem, she did the one thing I didn’t expect.
She told me she cared, and she helped me work through them.
God damn she is a groovy human being.
Sitting here, writing these words, I analyze my feelings, to discover the following:
No anger, no deep lockdown on emotions, no being dead inside.
I think I’m slowly being rebuilt, and hopefully, I’ll find the pieces of myself that I’ve lost over the years.
In fact, I’m off to a great start.
Wednesday night last week, at a lounge with my friend, I saw a tall, beautiful woman walk by me. She had large blue eyes, accentuated by her reddish brown hair, an aquiline nose, and full, sensual lips. Curvy, but with a tiny waist, wearing a simple skintight halter top, jeans, and long brown boots. And as she walked by me, for the first time in a long time, I froze.
I was enthralled, and couldn’t pull myself together fast enough to go say hello. I realized something amazing then.
Hey Fly Peeps, I want to help you shave years off your learning curve and get paid what you’re worth for your message!
With the right information and access to the right mentor, you CAN grow your speaking business and get paid well to do what you love!
Here’s what I know…
- There are way too many brilliant speakers out there—just like you—who have SO much to offer… but who often struggle because they don’t know where to start or how to go from free to full-fee.
- So many speakers I know with powerful messages to share are not speaking as often as they’d like or getting paid what they are really worth.
- As speakers, we fill so many roles in our businesses that it’s easy to become overworked and exhausted. Too often, speakers focus on their platform skills but struggle because they haven’t mastered the business skills needed to build a profitable speaking career.
It doesn’t have to be this way!
I’ve had challenges and I’ve succeeded, and now I’m prepared to share my best advice and tips so YOU can create a powerful speaking business faster and smarter while remaining true to your most important values!
I am a mom, wife, Marine (no longer active), former professional women’s football player, “recovering” combat pilot, bestselling author, and professional speaker ($25,000 per keynote). Brands such as Pepsi, Comcast, NASA, IBM and Delta Airlines as well as colleges, universities, and associations hire me to inspire, educate, and elevate their peeps.
Now, you might be thinking…WOW! I want to get paid top dollar to share my message.
The good news is, you can.
But, you have to be willing to work for it. This is where the Marine in me comes out. I’m going to give it to you straight, no B.S. and none of that fluffy stuff. But, that’s what people in my tribe want. You need the real info to get real results.
Within the first four months of starting my speaking business, I was a month behind in my house note. By month 12, I had broken 6-figures and broke 7-figures by year four. Why share. Because I didn’t start off as a 5-figure per keynote speaker, and my success obviously wasn’t overnight (thank God we didn’t lose the house!). But with my help, you don’t have to make the same mistakes I made, or learn the lessons I did, the hard way.
I want to help you learn how to build a money-making speaking business, become an amazing speaker and make the Gutsy Moves it is going to take to accomplish the mission.
That’s why I’m excited to invite you to Gutsy Speaker LIVE! It’s an experience you won’t forget and I believe it will be a defining moment in your speaking career as long as you show up ready to learn, and most importantly, ENGAGE.
The personal transformation you’ll experience will catapult your speaking to a new level.
Don’t just mark your calendar for December 7 – 9, 2017, click the link and register right now. In your gut you know it’s right and maybe it’s going to take a little guts to do it. Don’t get stuck in procrastination and deny your purpose on the planet…again. Join us in Atlanta for an epic, juicy, GUTSY event!
In order to be successful, you gotta Get Gutsy!