How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

A life of regret is no life at all. Sure, we all have regrets for things we’ve done, mistakes made and opportunities lost. But if we make a conscious decision every day to minimize those regrets, we will lead a happier more fulfilling life. And hopefully those around us will as well.

These sixteen ways to live a happier more fulfilling life come from my past and present experiences from getting it right, as well as getting it wrong. They are delivered in no particular order.

Prioritize your time wisely.

As we all know, life moves at the speed of light. Time is our most precious asset. Wake up each day with a plan to accomplish something meaningful. Something you will feel good about when you turn out the light that night.

Build relationships over possessions.

You won’t be taking your possessions with you nor are they a meaningful source of lasting happiness. The relationships you build and the lives you impact will be your legacy.

Take what you can from life, but always give back.

There is nothing wrong with investing in yourself and your future. For pursuing success in all areas of your life. But one of the best ways to seek happiness is through service to others. Remember that giving time is more valuable than giving money.

Be accountable for your words and actions.

Accountability is the path to true accomplishment. Personal accountability is infectious and others in your life will follow suit. Always consider the consequences of your words and actions. Not doing so can be a fast track to regret.

Be disciplined in your personal and professional life.

Being accountable requires discipline. Discipline is the only way to discover your best personal self: the cross section between purpose, talent and effort. Discipline leads to accomplishing goals and avoiding bad decisions.

Expunge hate from your heart.

Life is too short. This too requires discipline. Hate will consume you, exhaust you and distract from the positive aspects of your life. Put your ego aside and replace it with humility.

Forgive yourself and others quickly.

We all make mistakes, hurt those we love and meander off the path of righteousness at times. The faster we forgive ourselves and others the more time and energy we have for love.

Put your family first.

Your family relies on you to be strong, to lead, mentor and provide for them. Making time for work and hobbies is important, but every now and then we need to remember that making more money or the extra round of golf can wait.

Find purpose in your life’s work.

Without purpose it’s hard to truly be passionate. And without passion it’s impossible to inspire and lead others. Living a purpose-driven life is the foundation of fulfillment and happiness. Find your purpose and pursue it relentlessly.

Chase your dreams and never quit.

As a former Navy SEAL, the never-quit attitude is ingrained in me forever. Just make sure you are pursuing the right “dreams” that will add value to your life and others. Dreams that are aligned with your purpose.

Pursue passions bigger than yourself.

If we don’t break outside our comfort zones and find pursuits that leave a positive impact on the world, we live a very small life.

Don’t hold on too tight.

I often find this very hard to do, but sometimes we just have to let go and have a little faith. There are things simply out of our control and we can drive ourselves crazy trying to contain them.

Lead by example on and off the battlefield.

We all have the opportunity to lead in our lives. At home, work, in our communities. But leadership requires consistency of character. Actions speak louder than words.

Protect those who can’t protect themselves.

This doesn’t mean we all have to grab a weapon and head down range. It can come in the form of a simple gesture. Don’t stand on the sidelines with your smart phone. Do something.

Strive to improve a little bit every day.

If we can attempt to improve ourselves even 1% each day, at the end of a year we will be 37x better than when we started. Improvement requires regular learning, feedback and reflection. But don’t forget to take action as well.

Leave no regrets on the battlefield of life.

As Tecumseh said in his poem “Death Song”:

“When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear death, so that they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”

Take a few minutes each day to reflect on how to practice these tips and see what happens!

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How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

When you’re stuck in a rut, it saps your energy and holds you back from achieving anything in your life. You feel overwhelmed, so confused you don’t know how to be happy. You know the feeling. Waking up to just another day with nothing motivating you. One day no different to the other. You just cannot find anything to excite you. You wonder what can you do to change your life. You have no idea in your mind what to do next or even now. You are lost.

You worry about your future, and this increases the stress you are under. The uncertainty in your life is hard for you to deal with, you feel like you have no control over anything and you are running out of options of what to do. So you do virtually nothing, you are stuck.

There was a period of my life where I became stuck. My world seemed to fall apart. Everything went wrong. But I wouldn’t accept failure, I wouldn’t take this being the way my life was going to work out, so I fought on and broke through. I came unstuck and moved forward in life and am now creating my dream life. It is always possible to break out of a rut, to become unstuck, but it’s down to you and only you nobody can do it for you.

To get yourself unstuck you need to get connected to what you really want, something that is truly going to motivate you, that will provide you with a powerful driving force that will help you break through to the life you want. Realise that your life needs something to inspire you to action, to bring motivation back to your life. Your vision of your future at the moment is of an unhappy life, seeing yourself as an under achiever, well imagine the inspiration and power if you saw yourself as a success. What one thing could you focus on that would not just get you unstuck right now, but would help you move your life towards a successful outcome?

No longer allow yourself to be one of those people who doesn’t actually believe they can have what they really want. Stop feeling sorry for yourself or wasting time thinking about what you can’t do. Use your time to create a fulfilling present in the here and now. Set your sights on a better future, by you achieving something that would inspire and motivate you. I promise you that you can. Look at me a 50 year old that over the last three years has built a successful and fast growing online business against all the odds.

Nobody should stop themselves from doing what they love. It is your passions that are the greatest weapon to help you get unstuck. I remember back to my youth. I must have been 7 maybe 8, and got caught in quicksand. I was going down fast. My sister Jan, not the strongest girl in the world, found the strength from somewhere, and kept going for 15 minutes to pull me out inch by inch, and saved my life. Her love for her baby brother helped him literally get unstuck, and saved his life. Her passion her love demonstrates the power we have within us to do and achieve anything. God rest your soul my sister, I do miss you.

Recognise the potential you have coursing through you, unleash what lies inside of you and make your life special, no longer allow yourself to feel as though your feet are glued to the ground. Maybe you’ve let too much time slip away, wasted far too many years, well no more. You have no clue of your potential until you start to use it. Your possibilities are endless, don’t let any more time slip away.

There is so much possible for you, but it’s up to you to drive yourself so that you can live an exhilarating life making the most of your potential. Be passionate about your life and from now on make every second, every minute count. The time to get unstuck is right now. Do as I do live by your passions every day. If you don’t know where your passions lie, start looking. Make it your adventure. Connect with me, I will help you. It would show me you’re reading my blog properly so I really will give you support, for NOTHING.

You were put here on this earth to live your best life. You were put here to do something special. So now is the time to get unstuck and start leaving your mark.

How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

Since venturing into speaking and writing about transforming leaders into servant leaders and corporations to become more human and socially-conscious, I’ve had to go through my own personal metamorphosis.

Every one of us, if we look deep within ourselves, can humbly acknowledge that we have blind spots — things that are no longer working and possibly holding us back from the life we want to live.

But how do you get “unstuck” from things, people, and places that no longer serve you and move forward with crystal clear direction?

To answer that question, the first step is gaining self-awareness; it’s defining your current reality and finding out why you keep hitting the same wall over and over. So let me ask you: what’s truly holding you back?

Once you understand that and start breaking free, I urge you to build up some mental and emotional armor around you as a way to safeguard your journey to the fulfilling life and work you imagine. Start with these seven life principles to propel you forward.

1. Be who you truly are.

How would you feel if, every day, you said what you meant, stayed true to yourself, and behaved in accordance with this? Imagine the happiness and self-respect you’d feel. Being true to yourself is far less stressful than being someone you are not. By being who you really are, you not only trust the judgments and decisions that you make, but others trust you as well. They’ll respect you for standing by your values and beliefs.

2. Do the right thing, always.

When you’re honest and live in integrity, you don’t hesitate to do the right thing. You never have to second-guess yourself. Who you are, what you do, and what you believe in–all of these align perfectly.

3. Don’t ignore your problems.

Don’t procrastinate, avoid conflict, or sweep things under the rug. Be open and honest with yourself enough to admit the things you need to take care of. Then take the first step with courage by dealing with your problems quickly and head-on instead of neglecting them! (that’s the hardest part, but it’ll get easier from there)

4. Be careful of what comes out of your mouth.

There’s an old saying from a wise leader that goes like this: “Words satisfy the mind as much as fruit does the stomach; good talk is as gratifying as a good harvest.” So much conflict, confusion and misunderstanding come from our words and what we communicate. So be wise and careful about what you speak: give sound advice, don’t talk out of both sides of your mouth, and always have the other person’s best interest in mind. When you do, you’ll get a lot more in return.

5. Absorb the knowledge of others.

Humbly accept and acknowledge that you don’t know everything. Along your journey to wholeness, you must view yourself as a small fish in the great big pond of life — seeking out connections and appointments from wise sages to learn to do great new things.

6. Be patient.

People who exercise patience have self-control and are slow to anger. So their conduct is steady, rational, and manageable. In the heat-of-the-moment, they seek to understand first before being understood. And they speak little — giving them a clear edge in communicating and diffusing someone else’s anger. That’s someone you can trust and depend on.

7. Have mindset of giving.

The late Jim Rohn said, “Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have.” In The Go-Giver, the main character learns that changing his focus from getting to giving–putting others’ interests first and consistently adding value to their lives–ultimately leads to unexpected returns. Science also says giving makes us feel happy, is good for our health, and evokes gratitude. Lastly, giving isn’t restricted to money. Give of your time, mentor others, volunteer at a shelter, support a cause, sponsor a child, fight injustice, and have a pay-it-forward mindset.

15 Ways To Get Unstuck & Empower Yourself

How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

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In this fast-paced world, I use the term Percolate as a metaphor for how you can move forward with growing awareness, live in the present moment, and experience greater joy and peace. It’s a way for you to let your heart and mind brew powerful ideas so that your spirit floats to the top like the foam on your latte. No matter how stuck you feel, moving forward is always possible. Grab a cup of your favorite joe, put your feet up, and let your heart’s desire surface as we talk about how to get unstuck and beginning the percolation process.

Are You Stuck in Hamster Mode?

Once you’ve made up your mind to start percolating, it’s time to meet a very special critter. My family is the proud owner of an adorable hamster named Emma. She’s possibly named after a pretty young actress, but my 16-year-old son won’t fess up. Anyway, she is really quite cute.

You’re probably wondering what hamsters could possibly have to do with percolating. Well, as a hamster owner, one thing I’ve become incredibly aware of is their behavior. Like human behavior, hamsters have their own way of doing things. Have you ever seen hamsters in their cages? They sleep all day and spend all night running endlessly on a wheel that takes them where? Nowhere! They run and run and, well, you get the picture—they run! They run in a wheel in never-ending circles over and over again . . . and they never get anywhere!

Let’s talk about being in hamster mode. Hamster mode equals being stuck. You might be stuck repeating the same behavior; or you might be stuck in a job, stuck at a certain weight, stuck in a bad marriage . . . just plain stuck! Whatever internal hamster zone you’re stuck on, it’s important to recognize and deal with it. My goal is to remove you from that place and get you moving in a more consistent, effective direction. My mission is to get you off that wheel to nowhere.

Step away from the wheel. Get off the wheel!

Imagine if the hamster got loose from its cage and off the wheel. What would happen? Getting out of hamster mode takes courage to step away from your comfy hamster zone. Let’s reflect on these important questions:

  • What gives you courage to ask, “Can it get better?”
  • What can you do to make your life easier?
  • What can you do to make your life better or more fulfilling?
  • What’s your first step?
  • Are you afraid or hesitant to take this first step?
  • What messages in your head may tell you to be afraid?
  • Can you substitute these negative messages with empowering ideas of what you can and will do?
  • What holds you back from fulfilling your needs?

One of the most powerful enemies you have that can lead to your downfall ishabit. Habitual patterns of negative thinking can hold you hostage from change. Instead of making your usual to-do list, write an “I Can’t Because” list. While this might sound like yet another tool for losing your happiness battle, it’s helpful to see all of your self-defeating messages materialize on paper. After you’ve had a chance to reflect on this list, substitute these words of defeat with empowering statements in the present tense. For example, if you wrote “I can’t surround myself with supportive and caring people,” change that defeatist message into something positive that is happening in the now. Your new statement might read: “I surround myself with supportive and caring people.” See how much more powerful that is than, “I will surround myself with supportive and caring people”? This exercise is about empowering yourself in the present, getting past your fears, and living in the now.

Below is a list to help you on your journey to empowerment. But hold on for a minute—before you attempt to run through this list, stop and consider what I’m asking you to do. Choose one—yes, only one item from the list, and do that one thing today.

15 Ways To Empower Yourself and Get Unstuck

  1. Love yourself, and accept your imperfections.
  2. Exercise 30 to 60 minutes per day.
  3. Forgive someone.
  4. Smile and laugh.
  5. Clear out clutter.
  6. Be proud.
  7. Eat healthy food.
  8. Evaluate and reevaluate priorities.
  9. Recognize stress in your life, and find ways to lessen it.
  10. Appreciate yourself, your life, and those around you.
  11. Give back.
  12. Splurge a little.
  13. Laugh at yourself.
  14. Take a break.
  15. Breathe deeply and say, “I am worth it.”

Have you chosen your one task? You’re probably wondering about everything else on this list. Well, I encourage you to pick one and only one thing per day or week. Don’t rush this list! After all, change takes time. And to be honest, the items on this list can’t be accomplished in five or ten minutes. Don’t rush them. It should take you at least several weeks to complete all of the activities on your list. Reflect and take the time you need.

Hamsters, humans—we all get stuck in a way of doing things. See my book,Percolate for tips on how to slow down the ever-spinning wheel and get off of it. Percolate. Be empowered.

Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino, She has a degree in communications and broadcasting; is a life coach, food-allergy expert, and anaphylaxis survivor; and is the host of The Best Ever You Show.

Are you finally ready to step into a bigger, brighter, more fulfilling life?

Why do I find it so hard to love myself?

Why do I push myself so hard to prove I’m worthy?

Why do I feel responsible for everyone else’s happiness?

Why do I feel so alone sometimes?

Never Feeling Enough

There was a period in my life when I was asking myself all those questions.

I was consumed by trying to find a relationship, make my current relationship work or get over one so I can move on to the next one.

I hated my body and never felt like I looked good enough.

I felt depressed, so I would overeat trying to feel better.

I was exhausted from working so hard to finally feel successful.

I was desperate to feel better about myself.

Ready For Change

Seeking answers to those questions above was the first step in my own personal transformation.

I was ready to be in love with who I was – not who I wished to be.

I wanted to finally be in charge of my own happiness and well-being.

How To Get Unstuck

In my Getting Unstuck program, you’ll shift:

From worrying about disappointing other people to making your own happiness a top priority.

From feeling unfulfilled to knowing what lights you up and how to go get it.

From unhealthy romantic relationships to feeling loved and supported.

From toxic friendships to a deep connection with people who really care and appreciate you.

From being afraid to make the wrong decision to trusting your own feelings and inner wisdom for guidance.

How To Get Unstuck Program

The program is a 3-month intensive designed to move you from worrying and feeling unfulfilled to feeling happy, guided and fully supported.

In the program you will:

1. Get the tools to start developing positive habits instead of trying to rely just on your willpower.

2. Find the root causes of why you are feeling stressed and eliminate them so you stop worrying all day and start living your life.

3. Learn and perfect one powerfully efficient strategy that always works to reprogram your mind to automatically see possibilities instead of roadblocks.

4. Destroy the blocks (like procrastination) that interfere with your inborn abilities to take action on your desires and ambitions in life.

5. Finally discover a proven step-by-step method to mastering all or your difficult emotions like sadness, anger, guilt, hurt, frustration, etc. (My clients say this is the most life-changing aspect of the program.)

6. Get rid of all the negative thinking that has been keeping you stuck like, “I can’t be happy unless…” “What does he/she/they think about me?” “I’m not good enough” “I don’t deserve…” “There’s no good men/women out there for me.” “I could lose everything and have to live on the streets.”

7. Overcome your fear of: failure, rejection, making mistakes, not being perfect, being alone, kids and family catastrophes.

8. Create an indestructible foundation of confidence and self esteem with a set of tools you can use for the rest of your life.

9. Master a total self awareness that allows you to be your own best therapist after we are all done working.

The Program Includes:

A Personal Exploration Survey – an invaluable tool that starts the process and gets you deeply thinking about your current situation. Your answers give me a clear picture of the problem areas, what is going on with you and gives us a foundation to launch from.

12 (90 minute) Coaching Sessions – in person or over the phone/skype, where we get right to work on your core issues. You’ll learn strategies to quickly shift the dynamics of your relationship and tools you can use after our work together is done.

12 Session Recordings – get an audio recording of each of your sessions. By relistening and reviewing, you may pick up something new and hear yourself shift and change.

Weekly Action Plan aka Homework – to help solidify what we discussed and to help you start incorporating the tools into your life.

Handouts/Worksheets – of the tools you will be learning in your session and for your future reference.

Numerous Resources – worksheets, articles, books and other resources that will enhance our work together.

Full Access Via Email or Text – because sometimes you just need a little redirection or perspective.

Full transparency, Authenticity and Openness – gain from my personal life and experiences, because I’ve been where you are. I know how to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

Get Your Action Plan To Live Your Ideal Life

If you are ready to get out of your own way and live the life you know you were meant for.

  • To feel more confident and purposeful.
  • To move your life faster and get to the next level.
  • To get rid of any fears that are holding you back.
  • To get the support, accountability, and guidance from a mentor who has been there and successfully overcome challenges.

Is This Right For Me?

Great question. Before you invest in anything, we’ll get to know each other and explore whether we’re a good fit. That starts when you complete this short exploratory questionnaire .

When I receive it, I’ll send you a link to schedule your 60 minute Complimentary Clarity Session . During that hour I’ll help you get clear on where you are at, where you want to be and your best next steps.

After your Clarity Session, we will know if we are a good fit and if you’re excited to move forward.

How To Get Started!

Click the image below to schedule a complimentary 60 minute clarity session. I’d love to get to know you and help you get some clarity.

How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

A life of regret is no life at all. Sure, we all have regrets for things we’ve done, mistakes made and opportunities lost. But if we make a conscious decision every day to minimize those regrets, we will lead a happier more fulfilling life. And hopefully those around us will as well.

These sixteen ways to live a happier more fulfilling life come from my past and present experiences from getting it right, as well as getting it wrong. They are delivered in no particular order.

Prioritize your time wisely.

As we all know, life moves at the speed of light. Time is our most precious asset. Wake up each day with a plan to accomplish something meaningful. Something you will feel good about when you turn out the light that night.

Build relationships over possessions.

You won’t be taking your possessions with you nor are they a meaningful source of lasting happiness. The relationships you build and the lives you impact will be your legacy.

Take what you can from life, but always give back.

There is nothing wrong with investing in yourself and your future. For pursuing success in all areas of your life. But one of the best ways to seek happiness is through service to others. Remember that giving time is more valuable than giving money.

Be accountable for your words and actions.

Accountability is the path to true accomplishment. Personal accountability is infectious and others in your life will follow suit. Always consider the consequences of your words and actions. Not doing so can be a fast track to regret.

Be disciplined in your personal and professional life.

Being accountable requires discipline. Discipline is the only way to discover your best personal self: the cross section between purpose, talent and effort. Discipline leads to accomplishing goals and avoiding bad decisions.

Expunge hate from your heart.

Life is too short. This too requires discipline. Hate will consume you, exhaust you and distract from the positive aspects of your life. Put your ego aside and replace it with humility.

Forgive yourself and others quickly.

We all make mistakes, hurt those we love and meander off the path of righteousness at times. The faster we forgive ourselves and others the more time and energy we have for love.

Put your family first.

Your family relies on you to be strong, to lead, mentor and provide for them. Making time for work and hobbies is important, but every now and then we need to remember that making more money or the extra round of golf can wait.

Find purpose in your life’s work.

Without purpose it’s hard to truly be passionate. And without passion it’s impossible to inspire and lead others. Living a purpose-driven life is the foundation of fulfillment and happiness. Find your purpose and pursue it relentlessly.

Chase your dreams and never quit.

As a former Navy SEAL, the never-quit attitude is ingrained in me forever. Just make sure you are pursuing the right “dreams” that will add value to your life and others. Dreams that are aligned with your purpose.

Pursue passions bigger than yourself.

If we don’t break outside our comfort zones and find pursuits that leave a positive impact on the world, we live a very small life.

Don’t hold on too tight.

I often find this very hard to do, but sometimes we just have to let go and have a little faith. There are things simply out of our control and we can drive ourselves crazy trying to contain them.

Lead by example on and off the battlefield.

We all have the opportunity to lead in our lives. At home, work, in our communities. But leadership requires consistency of character. Actions speak louder than words.

Protect those who can’t protect themselves.

This doesn’t mean we all have to grab a weapon and head down range. It can come in the form of a simple gesture. Don’t stand on the sidelines with your smart phone. Do something.

Strive to improve a little bit every day.

If we can attempt to improve ourselves even 1% each day, at the end of a year we will be 37x better than when we started. Improvement requires regular learning, feedback and reflection. But don’t forget to take action as well.

Leave no regrets on the battlefield of life.

As Tecumseh said in his poem “Death Song”:

“When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear death, so that they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”

Take a few minutes each day to reflect on how to practice these tips and see what happens!

A version of this article originally appeared on Forbes. Sign up for my newsletter to get my articles straight to your inbox.

Something strange happens when astronauts see Earth from space for the first time.

The view made Apollo 15’s Jim Irwin an evangelist and Al Worden a poet. Apollo 16’s Charlie Duke became a born-again Christian. And Apollo 14’s Edgar Mitchell left NASA to form the Institute of Noetic Sciences, an organization dedicated to the science of inner wisdom.

Psychologist Frank White called the lump sum of these life-altering experiences “the overview effect.” The term specifically refers to the sense of “wonder and awe, unity with nature, transcendence and universal brotherhood” that astronauts experience upon seeing a floating, far-away Earth.

But new research reveals that you don’t need to leave the planet to change your perspective in life or work.

The Science of Awe

Craig Anderson, a PhD candidate studying awe at the University of California, Berkeley, says awe is when “you don’t feel like you [can] wrap your mind around it completely.”

The result somewhat literally blows your mind. A recent University of Pennsylvania study explained:

When individuals encounter something that cannot be reduced to preexisting elements in a given schema, they must ‘accommodate,’ expanding that framework to take new information into account.

In short, awe expands our perspective. Or, as awe researcher Kathleen Vohs of the University of Minnesota told the Atlantic,

People mostly walk around with a sense of knowing what is going on in the world. They have hypotheses about the way people behave and what might happen; those are pretty air-tight . When you are in a state of awe, it puts you off balance and as a consequence, we think people might be ready to learn new things and have some of their assumptions questioned.

Awe’s self-transcendent side effect occurs for obvious reasons: “You see how diminutive your life and concerns are compared to other things in the universe,” explained astronaut Ed Gibson.

But its consequences are invaluable:

One study found that awe diminishes one’s self concerns and increases altruistic behavior. After staring at a large grove of eucalyptus trees, participants reported feeling less self-important and entitled. In consequence, they were later more likely to help out a stranger.

Awe slows our perception of time. A Stanford study found that participants in awe felt they had more time available and were more patient than participants not induced to feel awe.

Astronaut Boris Volynov’s experience seeing Earth echoes these reactions: “you become more full of life, softer. You begin to look at all living things with greater trepidation and you begin to be more kind and patient with the people around you.”

Awe also makes us more creative. One Berkeley study found that watching short BBC videos of expansive Earth images increased participants’ creativity and persistence at solving problems. In another, awe made participants more curious–even weeks after the initial boost.

Likewise, a Tel Aviv University study concluded that “expansive thinking” could boost creativity and help children consider perspectives outside their present situation.

In sum, awe helps people “be more adaptive, feel more connected, reframe troubles,” wrote the Penn psychologists.

For all these reasons, awe can jar our personal and professional ruts. The challenge is creating awesome experiences on average days.

How to Experience Awe

Unsurprisingly, travel, staring at the stars and anything in large quantities make us feel awe. But researchers note that there are subtler, commoner ways to feel awe, too.

Technologies that capture our attention, like IMAX films, storytelling platforms or even video games, can provoke selfless immersion. Likewise, yoga, meditation, walking, looking at something beautiful, silence, drawing and even sleep can help us lose ourselves and, later, return to our lives with renewed perspective. Even random acts of kindness can impart us with simple wonder and humility.

Abraham Maslow wrote, “The great lesson from the true mystics is that the sacred is in the ordinary, that it is to be found in one’s daily life, in one’s neighbors, friends, and family, in one’s backyard.”

If you want a tangible practice for perspective, try this Buddhist meditation: sit down, close your eyes and visualize watching yourself sit. See yourself inside the room, what you’re next to, the windows, the doors. Then zoom out: see the building you’re inside. Imagine it’s a dollhouse, so your head is still visible from the top. Then zoom further out, to your city. Think of what your city would like from a helicopter; your region from a plane; your country from a satellite.

And then, finally, see your Earth from space, where a select few bubble-headed humans have stood dumbfounded and changed forever.

Awe is a feeling. But it’s also a choice that can shift what you think and how you work.

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. — Albert Einstein

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How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” – Golda Meir

Do you feel stuck? Are you confused about what you’re meant to do with your life?

If so, it’s because you’re digging for an answer that doesn’t exist.

When we’re stuck we ask questions that are too hard to answer.

What am I supposed to do with my life? What’s my life purpose?

According to Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, professors at Stanford University, it’s hard to get unstuck or take action when we ask these prodigious questions.

We believe there is a best or most optimal choice for our life, but there isn’t.

Instead, there are numerous possibilities you can choose from. There are numerous paths you can take and many different versions of who you can become.

This idea is called design thinking and it can help you create the life you want.

When we don’t have to know exactly what to do or have a specific final destination, there is less pressure around making change.

We don’t have to wait for a grand epiphany to start living a fulfilling life.

All we need to do is take the next step based on the information we have.

As we move forward we can pivot and make adjustments based on our experience and what we learn along the way.

So, if you feel stuck and are unsure of what direction to take, use the idea of design thinking in combination with the four guidelines below.

This will help you narrow down some options and feel more confident about choosing what to do next.

Do what excites and thrills you. Instead of basing your decision on logic and what you believe is guaranteed to work, consider what you would really enjoy.

Don’t be reckless and bet all your chips on one hand, but at least realize that there are many joyful path you could take.

To start, make a list of what you enjoy doing.

Personal growth is one of my core values. If I’m not growing and being challenged I get bored and unfulfilled. That’s why I choose to think big and put myself in situations where I’m forced to learn and expand my comfort zone.

We’re meant to be challenged by our work, so don’t assume you’re on the wrong path if something is difficult or doesn’t come easily.

Since you get to choose your life path, decide to make it something that will help you evolve and become the best version of yourself.

You have a contribution to make. Helping others and making a difference is an important factor in choosing your life path.

A path of service is a win/win. It will be more meaningful to you and you get to improve other peoples’ lives.

If you want to feel a sense of purpose and significance focus on how you can serve and help others.

What are your strengths? What do you like best about yourself?

Make a list of all of these assets. Your talents and skills are a good signpost for what direction to take.

You don’t have to be the best. Just consider your skills and gifts – the things that come naturally to you that you can continue to improve and develop.

These four concepts are a good starting place to help you brainstorm your possible futures.

The next step is to use design thinking to actually create a clear description of what these possible future look like.

(If you want to learn more about design thinking in action, listen to this episode of the NPR podcast Hidden Brain.)

There are no rules here. Your potential life path doesn’t need to include all of the qualities above, but if you notice there’s overlap it is worth exploring further.

Write a description of at least three possible paths you could take.

Label them Path 1, Path 2, Path 3, or whatever works for you to have a visual of the possible paths you can choose from.

From here, your job is to choose one option and begin moving forward. Take the next step and try out a new lifestyle and learn more about this possibility.

Don’t stay stuck trying to figure out your entire life plan. Start living your life today and create it as you go!

How to get unstuck in life and live a more fulfilling life

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Do you currently feel stuck in life? Are you in a place where you don’t want to be anymore? Do you want to create something so much greater in your life?

Hey, it’s Alex Ford here and in this post I want to share how to get unstuck in life by believing in possibilities.

But before I get to that, let me share a story with you.

About 5 years ago, I was living a life that wasn’t fulfilling. I was working a job I didn’t enjoy, I was in so much debt and the only thing I looked forward to was going out and partying with my friends on weekends.

I got to a point where I wanted so much more in life, yet I couldn’t figure out how I could move on from that – I felt completely stuck.

After discovering Personal Development, I went on a journey of personal growth and I started learning how I could create the shift I wanted in my life. Back then, I didn’t believe anything else was possible because I was so “stuck”. I felt like that was it, like there was no more to life; and I certainly didn’t know of any tools or strategies to continue moving forward in my life. But once I got into my personal development journey, I quickly I started learning about the power of believing in possibilities.

When I started learning this, I realised that instead of focusing on my life as if “that’s just the way it is and there’s nothing I can do about it”, I can shift my focus to “what is possible? What can I create in my life?” Once I had this shift, I started dreaming in possibilities like becoming a millionaire, travelling the world and having a thriving business.

So my focus went from “this is the way things are” to “let me dream in possibilities and see what can happen”. When I changed my focus, my life started changing and I was seeing things I had never seen before like new opportunities, new people I could relate to and I also found a mentor. All of this happened because of my change to believing in possibilities.

An awesome analogy I learned from one of my mentors, Shane, says that a lot of people live in the “period or full stop”. You would know grammar; when you write a sentence you close it by using a period/full stop because that’s the end of the sentence and that’s just the way things are. And that’s where I was living in my life 5 years ago; I was working a crappy job and I was in so much debt (period).

When I heard Shane speak about living in possibilities, he said to take away the “period or full stop” from your life – from seeing things as “this is just the way they are” – and replace it with a “question”. For example, you might say “I’m broke (period). That’s my life and there’s nothing more to that (period). I’m broke and I have to settle for that (period).” However, that’s not going to allow you to think about possibilities, what else you could achieve and actually go and create that. But by taking away the period or full stop and putting a question mark at the end of “I’m broke (question mark)?”, that will automatically open up possibilities for you.


Let’s put this into practice…

Instead of saying “I’m broke (period)”, you can say:

“I’m broke (question)?”
“But do I have to be broke (question)?”
“Could I achieve a lot more out of life (question)?”

And then you can start looking outside of yourself and asking questions like:

“I might be broke, but is there other people in the world who were once broke but ended up creating financial success (question)?”

Have you noticed yet that, by changing the way you think, you’ve gone from living your life in the “period or full stop” to living in the “question” and in possibilities of “what is possible in my life?”?

When you get to the point where you’re living in possibilities, you’re going to start noticing so many things in your life, like new opportunities and new people who will support you in moving toward the life of your dreams.

The question I want you to take away and ask yourself is: “Am I living in the period or full stop of my life? And if I am, what can I do to start living in the question, or start dreaming in possibilities, so I can create the life I want?”

For me, making the shift to living in the “question”, allowed me to find everything I needed to start moving toward the life of my dreams. If you’re reading this post, it’s highly probable that you too asked a question like “I wonder if this article can teach me how to get unstuck in my life?” Am I right? If so, and you would like to continue down the path of creating the life of your dreams, you might want to watch this FREE training.

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