How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

As children, we experience the world without a filter. We’re free to approach things without prejudices or opinions as we encounter everything for the first time.

But as we grow older, we all begin to develop beliefs that form structure within our lives.

Some of these beliefs are useful – they stop you from saying something inappropriate during a meeting or from crossing the road without looking either way.

However, many of the beliefs we develop over the years are self-imposed restrictions that can have a negative impact on the quality of our lives.

We call these limiting beliefs.

What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are any beliefs that keep you from being able to renew yourself or grow.

We all have ideals, and we all fall short of our ideals, but a limiting belief tells us that we will never achieve our ideals or our potential. We must have faith that we can achieve what we want to achieve, however big, harry, or audacious that achievement seems to be.

On the other hand, we can also be ruined by fantasizing that facts are not what they are. So, to believe that a fact is not a fact is also a limiting belief because it prevents us from dealing with the actual situation that we need to deal with in order to achieve what we want.

Therefore, we are always in the paradox of having to have faith in our ideals while at the same time facing the brutal facts that stand between where we currently are and where we ideally want to be.

So, a limiting belief is a belief that keeps us from confronting the brutal facts that we need to confront if we want to grow.

Also, a limiting belief is any belief that causes us to lose faith in achieving our ideal. If you cannot hold this paradox as you grow you will likely not succeed and fall into false, limiting beliefs.

This is something like the central form of despair Kierkegaard describes in his work The Sickness Unto Death .

Examples Of Limiting Beliefs

A good example of a limiting belief is the either/or dichotomy which is a false dichotomy that creates many limiting beliefs.

One common manifestation of this limiting belief is that “I must do one thing or another,” when, in fact, it may be possible to do “one thing and another.”

For example, you may have a passion for teaching wellness, but there is always more to know about wellness since the world of healing and wellness is an infinite body of knowledge that would take many lifetimes to master and exhaust.

One response to this might be to think that you don’t know enough to start, therefore you’re an imposter.

The limiting belief here is that you must know everything about wellness to start to teach it otherwise you’ll be an imposter . This thought is a kind of perfectionism that will cause you never to start because you can never know everything about wellness.

But another way to think about this is that you can teach wellness AND not know everything about it AND NOT be an imposter.

And in order to do this one must hold the paradox mentioned above (also referred to as the Stockdale paradox) that, for example, “I am the best teacher about wellness in America” AND the brutal fact that “There is an immeasurable amount of knowledge to master in the universe of wellness and I’ll never know it all.”

By embracing the fact that wellness is an infinite body of knowledge that no one can master in a lifetime you can start without first having to have perfect knowledge of wellness.

Perfection is, oddly, more often than not, a limiting belief. And yet—you must know something to start. You have to face the brutal facts and do the work, enough, at least, to start. And how much is enough is what’s determined by society and what society says is enough.

Perhaps you need to take some classes, become an expert, get a license, work as an intern, apprentice, or study something.

So, in such a case you’d take your cues from society as well as your own standards—what’s enough for you to be able to start, though not necessarily perfectly.

So, you can see that to start, you have to be willing to be imperfect and not imperfect at the same time!

How To Identify Limiting Beliefs

One of the best ways to identify your limiting beliefs is to read widely and ask yourself how your life stands up to the people who you admire in your readings and then to hold yourself accountable for having a life that is better than theirs.

In general, you can figure out a good way to live by thinking about three things:

  1. What you’re passionate about;
  2. What you can be the best in the world at;
  3. How can you make money in a way that supports what you’re passionate about and what you’re the best in the world at, or vice-versa: how can you use what you’re passionate about and the best in the world at to make money.

This sounds easy, but it’s not always so simple.

One of the best ways that I’ve found to do this is by working with a good teacher or coach—someone who holds you accountable to your own high standards, who doesn’t let you ignore the facts while at the same time helping you to cultivate and nourish your vision for success.

How To Remove Limiting Beliefs

With enough sincerity, passion, honesty, and internal motivation, you can completely irradicate your limiting beliefs and become the person you are destined to be.

This is what great people throughout the ages have done—not just great spiritual leaders such as Buddha, but thousands of personalities throughout the ages including Julia, Child, Dolly Parton, Shakespeare, Goethe, Cervantes, Dr. King, and thousands of others about whom we’ve never head because their passion was to live a deep, sincere, modest life, unconcerned with the public eye, realizing their true self by tending to their community, friends, or family.

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

The best way to destroy a limiting belief is through action.

By beginning to ask yourself difficult questions, focussing on creating alternative beliefs, and truly putting your beliefs to the test you can begin to overcome the beliefs you’ve imposed on yourself.

Limiting beliefs develop and thrive with inaction—if you don’t act, you’re only proving that you’re paralyzed by some hidden, limiting beliefs.

With simple steps, it’s possible to destroy any limiting beliefs in a moment with nothing to lose and everything to gain. Believe in yourself—face the brutal facts—take action, and your belief will be realized.

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

If you want to know how to identify your limiting beliefs easily then you’ve come to the right place.

In this post I aim to show you exactly what limiting beliefs are, examples of limiting beliefs and how they sabotage your success, how to identify them and then finally how to change them.

What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are just ideas or statements that we believe to be true. They limit our ability to obtain our desired outcomes.

This is because we act and behave in accordance with what we believe to be true.

I would go as far to say that beliefs have power over everything. Your entire reality now is because of the beliefs you have.

Human beings always act and feel and perform in accordance with what they imagine to be true about themselves and their environment. – Maxwell Maltz, Psycho-cybernetics

How Self Limiting Beliefs Sabotage Your Success

One of the most common reasons people fail to achieve their goals is simply because they don’t believe they can achieve it.

They’re lacking self-belief. Well that’s a limiting belief!

Usually what happens when you don’t believe you can achieve something is that you don’t fully commit and you don’t take enough action.

Because of that you end up failing and that in turn reinforces your belief that you can’t achieve what you want.

Another common area where limiting beliefs come up is around money.

You may want to make more money but if you believe that “money is the root of all evil” or that “people will judge you for being rich”, or that “it takes a lot of hard work to make money”

Well those are all beliefs that could sabotage your success. You may want a lot of money but you’ll either never really try in the fear of being judged or becoming evil, or you may just make a lot of money and lose it all by making poor choices.

Subconsciously you may think along the lines of “I better get rid of this this money before people start judging me for it…”

Something like that, I hope you get the point.

Limiting beliefs operate at a subconscious (unconscious) level and because of that they are hard to uncover and identify.

They’re operating silently in the background, dictating our thoughts and actions without us even being aware of them.

Examples Of Limiting Beliefs

In this post I hope to provide you with some excellent questions that will help you to uncover limiting beliefs.

Once you gain that awareness you may find that they go away all by their own. If they don’t, then there are many tools to help change them into empowering beliefs.

But before I do that though I just want to make sure you know what you’re looking out for.

So a limiting belief is any belief that could stop you from achieving what you want.

Typically limiting beliefs limit action, limit your thinking, limit your creativity and lower your motivation. They also trigger fear – so anything that could do that is what you want to look out for.

Typical limiting beliefs take the form of:

  • I can’t do that because…
  • I don’t deserve it because…
  • If I do this then something bad will happen…
  • If this happens it means something negative…

This might look like:

  • I don’t believe I can make $10,000 a month because I’ve never done it before.
  • I don’t deserve to be successful unless I’ve worked really hard for it.
  • If I make a lot of money people will and take advantage of me.
  • If I fail it means I’m not good enough.
  • If I get rejected it means there is something wrong with me.

Questions To Identify Your Limiting Beliefs

As you’re reading this now I’m assuming that you may have figured out that you may have some limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck – you just need to figure out what they exactly are.

The best way to do that is to ask some probing questions.

So pick a goal that you haven’t achieved yet or an area of life that you would like to improve.

Get clear on the outcome you want and then ask yourself the following questions. What’s important is that you just write down the first things that come to mind. Self-honesty is key here.

  1. Why do you think you have not manifested this goal already?
  2. What beliefs do you think you hold that stand in the way of this goal?
  3. What do you think your main blocks to achieving this goal are?
  4. When you think of this goal what thoughts surface (positive and/or negative)?
  5. When you think of this goal what emotions do you feel (positive and/or negative)?
  6. When you think of this goal, do you feel any resistance to creating it? If so, what comes to mind?
  7. A) On a scale of 1 – 10, how deserving of this goal do you feel?
    B) If the answer to the above question was less than a 10, why do you think that is?
  8. A) On a scale of 1 – 10, how much do you truly desire this goal?
    B) If the answer to the above questions was less than 10, why is that?
  9. A) On a scale of 1 – 10, how committed are you to this goal?
    B) If your commitment is less than 10, why is that?
  10. What are your main fears about achieving this goal?
  11. How/in what way would you and your life be different if you achieved this goal?
  12. Are you comfortable with all the above changes or do any of those changes feel uncomfortable to you? If so, which ones and why?

Once you’ve asked yourself these questions, go through and examine your answers. You should be able to identify some limiting beliefs that you were not aware of before.

How To Change Limiting Beliefs

Once you have identified the limiting beliefs you want to change then you have quite a few options.

Sometimes you may find that just becoming aware of your limiting beliefs is enough for them to lose their control over you.

Your options include NLP, EFT, Sedona method, Lefkoe method, Hypnosis, visualisation, and affirmations to name a few.

Another simple way is to doubt your limiting beliefs. You can do this by questioning them.

A few questions to ask would be:

  1. Is that really true?
  2. What is the reason(s) I believe that?
  3. Where did I get that belief from?
  4. What are the examples of this belief being untrue?

If you question any belief enough you’ll create doubt and you’ll be able to let go of that limiting belief.

Lastly, how will you know when your limiting belief has changed?

Simple! Just observe your behaviour for a few weeks. If you have successfully changed your limiting belief then your behaviour would have changed too.

Well I hope that you have found this helpful. If you have any helpful ideas around limiting beliefs then leave a comment below and if you need any more help, guidance or clarification then I’d love to hear from you also.

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

As children, we experience the world without a filter. We’re free to approach things without prejudices or opinions as we encounter everything for the first time.

But as we grow older, we all begin to develop beliefs that form structure within our lives.

Some of these beliefs are useful – they stop you from saying something inappropriate during a meeting or from crossing the road without looking either way.

However, many of the beliefs we develop over the years are self-imposed restrictions that can have a negative impact on the quality of our lives.

We call these limiting beliefs.

What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are any beliefs that keep you from being able to renew yourself or grow.

We all have ideals, and we all fall short of our ideals, but a limiting belief tells us that we will never achieve our ideals or our potential. We must have faith that we can achieve what we want to achieve, however big, harry, or audacious that achievement seems to be.

On the other hand, we can also be ruined by fantasizing that facts are not what they are. So, to believe that a fact is not a fact is also a limiting belief because it prevents us from dealing with the actual situation that we need to deal with in order to achieve what we want.

Therefore, we are always in the paradox of having to have faith in our ideals while at the same time facing the brutal facts that stand between where we currently are and where we ideally want to be.

So, a limiting belief is a belief that keeps us from confronting the brutal facts that we need to confront if we want to grow.

Also, a limiting belief is any belief that causes us to lose faith in achieving our ideal. If you cannot hold this paradox as you grow you will likely not succeed and fall into false, limiting beliefs.

This is something like the central form of despair Kierkegaard describes in his work The Sickness Unto Death .

Examples Of Limiting Beliefs

A good example of a limiting belief is the either/or dichotomy which is a false dichotomy that creates many limiting beliefs.

One common manifestation of this limiting belief is that “I must do one thing or another,” when, in fact, it may be possible to do “one thing and another.”

For example, you may have a passion for teaching wellness, but there is always more to know about wellness since the world of healing and wellness is an infinite body of knowledge that would take many lifetimes to master and exhaust.

One response to this might be to think that you don’t know enough to start, therefore you’re an imposter.

The limiting belief here is that you must know everything about wellness to start to teach it otherwise you’ll be an imposter . This thought is a kind of perfectionism that will cause you never to start because you can never know everything about wellness.

But another way to think about this is that you can teach wellness AND not know everything about it AND NOT be an imposter.

And in order to do this one must hold the paradox mentioned above (also referred to as the Stockdale paradox) that, for example, “I am the best teacher about wellness in America” AND the brutal fact that “There is an immeasurable amount of knowledge to master in the universe of wellness and I’ll never know it all.”

By embracing the fact that wellness is an infinite body of knowledge that no one can master in a lifetime you can start without first having to have perfect knowledge of wellness.

Perfection is, oddly, more often than not, a limiting belief. And yet—you must know something to start. You have to face the brutal facts and do the work, enough, at least, to start. And how much is enough is what’s determined by society and what society says is enough.

Perhaps you need to take some classes, become an expert, get a license, work as an intern, apprentice, or study something.

So, in such a case you’d take your cues from society as well as your own standards—what’s enough for you to be able to start, though not necessarily perfectly.

So, you can see that to start, you have to be willing to be imperfect and not imperfect at the same time!

How To Identify Limiting Beliefs

One of the best ways to identify your limiting beliefs is to read widely and ask yourself how your life stands up to the people who you admire in your readings and then to hold yourself accountable for having a life that is better than theirs.

In general, you can figure out a good way to live by thinking about three things:

  1. What you’re passionate about;
  2. What you can be the best in the world at;
  3. How can you make money in a way that supports what you’re passionate about and what you’re the best in the world at, or vice-versa: how can you use what you’re passionate about and the best in the world at to make money.

This sounds easy, but it’s not always so simple.

One of the best ways that I’ve found to do this is by working with a good teacher or coach—someone who holds you accountable to your own high standards, who doesn’t let you ignore the facts while at the same time helping you to cultivate and nourish your vision for success.

How To Remove Limiting Beliefs

With enough sincerity, passion, honesty, and internal motivation, you can completely irradicate your limiting beliefs and become the person you are destined to be.

This is what great people throughout the ages have done—not just great spiritual leaders such as Buddha, but thousands of personalities throughout the ages including Julia, Child, Dolly Parton, Shakespeare, Goethe, Cervantes, Dr. King, and thousands of others about whom we’ve never head because their passion was to live a deep, sincere, modest life, unconcerned with the public eye, realizing their true self by tending to their community, friends, or family.

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

The best way to destroy a limiting belief is through action.

By beginning to ask yourself difficult questions, focussing on creating alternative beliefs, and truly putting your beliefs to the test you can begin to overcome the beliefs you’ve imposed on yourself.

Limiting beliefs develop and thrive with inaction—if you don’t act, you’re only proving that you’re paralyzed by some hidden, limiting beliefs.

With simple steps, it’s possible to destroy any limiting beliefs in a moment with nothing to lose and everything to gain. Believe in yourself—face the brutal facts—take action, and your belief will be realized.

Adam Sweeney, Songwriter/Emotional Intelligence Spec.

Adam Sweeney, Songwriter/Emotional Intelligence Spec.

1. Course Introduction

2. Intro 1: Life Energy, Emotions, & Filters

3. Intro 2: Resistance & Emotions

4. Intro 3: Releasing Emotions / Stored Energy

5. Beliefs And Their Functions

6. Example: Relative Beliefs

7. Negative Beliefs & How They Serve You

8. Your Process of Self Discovery & Tools

9. The “Order” Of Things

10. An Overview of The Process

11. 1. Clearly Identifying How You Are Feeling

12. 2. Identifying Past Experiences Of Beliefs

13. 3. Naming The Specific Belief

14. 4. Becoming The Belief You Prefer

15. A Real Life Example

16. Belief-Benefit-Behavior-Experience 1

17. Belief-Benefit-Behavior-Experience 2

18. Changing Definitions

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About This Class

Welcome to “How To Identify & Change Your Core Beliefs”.

Hi, my name is Adam. I created this course as I was in my own process of identifying and transforming my negative beliefs.

In this course, you will learn the process of how to identify and change your beliefs to ones that you prefer no matter how “deep” they may seem or how long you have had them. as well as:

What belief systems are, their purpose and why we have them

What kinds of beliefs we have (positive & negative)

How emotions are connected to and stem from our beliefs

How our beliefs and definitions determine how we experience ourselves and our circumstances

How beliefs perpetuate themselves, making them often a challenge to change

How to identify old definitions and replace them with new ones

It is my passion to share this topic with you. I am a very specific and technical person with this topic, no fluff, but you do need to be open-minded. I use personal examples of what has worked for myself. The material in this course comes from years of my own experience of self-exploration in transforming my own beliefs that I picked up from my past and I hope it serves you well.

Feel free to message me anytime if you need help or would like to ask questions.

I am excited that you too are on this journey of transformation with me!

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How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

Adam Sweeney

Songwriter/Emotional Intelligence Spec.

Hello! I have been writing lyrics for 19 years and teaching music and songwriting for 15 years. I have been helping songwriters all over the world write lyrics more effectively and helping them create a daily practice of connecting with their inner creativity and inspiration while writing tons of clever lyrics from within.

If you are interested to see the lyric and songwriting work I have done please see my BandCamp page: https://adamsweeney1.bandcamp.com/album/the-all-i-ever-wanted-ep.

I am also an emotional intelligence specialist and have courses on how to transcend limiting beliefs and how to transform fear of rejection and self expression. They are both results of my personal exploration into my own fears and beliefs and the perspectives I used to transform them. See full profile

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Have you ever experienced that some of your thoughts are limiting you from doing something? Like you continuously try to change some of your habits but can’t do it.

Just try to recall if you also have any habit that you are trying to change. You adamantly plan every essential bit to reach your goal of quitting or changing that habit. But in the end, you explain yourself so well giving some or other excuse. And even after realizing that the excuse was unworthy to accept, you convince yourself.

If yes, you must identify your limiting belief and overcome it as early as possible!

What are limiting beliefs?

Every individual has his own experiences both good and bad in his life. Depending upon various factors like upbringing and self-learning from experiences, beliefs vary. As every person assigns emotions to situations, persons and past experiences differently everyone’s beliefs are different.

I will try to give an easy example:

For a person who is insect phobic, insects will always lead to feeling stressed and fearful. Subconsciously, they might realize that it won’t come close but the uncertainty will dominate the fact. On the other hand, if a person is an entomologist (one who studies insects), insects will not scare him. The behavior varies because of personal experiences. An entomologist spends time studying insects. As a result, his impulses toward insects are different from anyone else.

Examples of limiting beliefs?

You are planning and motivated to adopt a healthy routine or diet. In fact then and there you decide to start it as early s possible. Like avoiding junk food, or regularly exercising. But somehow you couldn’t do it. Consequently, you end up quitting it with pessimism that you just can’t do it.

One of the most common troubles for youngsters nowadays is to wake up early in the morning. This is doesn’t mean that the young generation is lazy or doesn’t believe in the good habits of leaving bed early. Unfortunately, they are just unable to do so.

With these two examples try to understand that there is something that is holding or pulling back from finishing the task. You have to figure this out first.

Steps to Overcome limiting beliefs

Here are 3 simple steps to overcome the limiting beliefs that have been pulling you back till now. So simple, yet so true!

1. Believe in the positivity inside you

You are the best person in this world who can initiate and bring a change in you. Start believing in yourself first of all. What so ever is the situation only you can change it for yourself. The strength to twist a negative thought into a positive condition is all within you.

The matter is that you believe in yourself or not. Your positive attitude will push you towards working firmly to achieve what seemed impossible.

2. Think about the consequences of your limiting thoughts

I adore this one the most. Imagine if you are unable to continue with your daily exercise regime. As a result, you will become unfit & look unhealthy.

Would you still sit and give yourself the same excuse that I can’t get up early and exercise. Oh no! I am sure you will get boosted up with motivation and start practicing yoga or exercise from the very next day.

3. Change your thoughts about yourself

In order to feel positive about yourself start noticing yourself. You will find out things that you never observed. If you can think positive about yourself, ultimately you will perform better in every area of your life.

Don’t let anything stop you from being as good as you are, not even your own negative thoughts.

How to overcome limiting beliefs?

  • If you have understood what are your limiting beliefs; start working to remove them from the list. Try to feel positive and rejuvenated. Don’t let the negative thoughts or beliefs dominate the positive frame of mind.
  • Don’t overthink or panic with what your limiting beliefs are making you believe in. No negative belief is as powerful as your will power to eliminate it. So simply follow the steps in this article and eliminate the limiting thoughts.
  • Some moments could be frustrating, keep a stronghold over yourself. You can be successful & perform in all the areas of your life with a positive approach.

As you recognize your limiting beliefs and get set to face them, you can see the changes in your behavior. Possibly, you will feel highly motivated and energetic with improving the life that you are going to experience.

Last Updated on August 10, 2020 by Ade Aprilia

Every “yes” must be defended by a thousand “no’s,” I’ve heard it said. Amen.

You’ve probably heard about how important it is to let go of limiting beliefs and they who did that have gotten great results and improve their lives…

READY TO LET GO OF YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS?

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

So today, I’m gonna show you how to release your self limiting-beliefs.

Ready? Here we gooooo!

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

“I am not worthy of being happy.”

“Why am I so bad at this?”

“I am not _________ enough.” (insert good, smart, pretty, rich, healthy, tall — basically anything!)

“I don’t deserve it.” (because I’m not a nice person, I had a traumatic past, I am not capable enough, I came from a broken home family, blah blah blah)

“I don’t trust myself.”

Does that sound familiar?

You’re not alone. I’ve totally been there too.

That’s what we call limiting belief.

These beliefs may hold us back from making different choices in life. They keep you from seeing different opportunities to you each day and keep you stuck focusing on the negative aspects of any circumstances.

We all have tons of limiting beliefs, but the truth is that many of them are irrelevant.

Limiting beliefs are what they sound like: beliefs that limit what is possible for ourselves or what we allow in our life.

It is something we believe to be true that limits us in some way.

When you have self-limiting beliefs, most of the time, you won’t let amazing things to show up in your life.

This is one of the main ways that we ourselves create disappointments, unhappiness, and misjudgments by holding on to limiting thoughts and feelings.

The good news is, you can eliminate limiting beliefs to have the life you adore. I’m going to show you how.

How Do Limiting Beliefs Work?

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

Maybe you struggled in school, so you decided that you didn’t worthy of success.

Maybe you see your dream job and think, “I don’t have enough experience for it,” so you don’t even apply.

Maybe you have been told that you’re not good with numbers, so you don’t even try to manage your money.

Maybe you have been hurt in a relationship, so rather than be open to a new healthy relationship, you say to yourself, “It’s not worth it.

Maybe you have a sweet tooth, so you’re telling yourself, “I will never be able to stop eating chocolate so I will never lose weight.

Can you see why it would be difficult to make any changes if you believe these things?

How many times in your life that limiting beliefs has prevented you from seeing your own gifts and accepting gifts offered to you (time, support, experience, love, money — you name it!)?

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

If you notice, these beliefs are not much more than a bunch of sentences and statements that we carry around with us wherever we go.

It’s a total broken record that creates a made-up strong filter foundation through which we view our world and base our decisions. They are our greatest source of suffering.

The funny thing is, having these limiting thoughts and feelings can become a bad habit even though it’s no longer serves you.

Why? Because you don’t even realize these repeated old sounds in your head. This is evidenced by the research done by Dr. Fred Luskin of Stanford University that 90% of all thoughts are repetitive—you’ll have virtually the same thoughts today that you had yesterday!

When you’re holding on to these limiting beliefs, even trying to prove it right, that keeps you from seeing what is possible for yourself. It can keep you from taking action to be your most powerful self. And it also keeps you from living your happiest, most fulfilling life.

When you catch yourself playing a limitation game and try to prove it right from old data in the past, ask yourself:

“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be free and create the life I love?”

I think the answer is obvious.

Where do limiting beliefs come from?

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

A lot of limiting beliefs develop in childhood when you aren’t always able to process what happens to you.

When we’re really young, we’re not very discerning. We kind of pick up everything like a sponge. We take on the beliefs of our parents, family members, teachers, neighbors, media, culture, and society.

Maybe you have always been expected to care for your siblings.

Maybe your parents always reminded you that all strangers are bad.

Maybe your friends always showed it’s not safe to stand out.

This powerfully shapes what we believe about life and how we interact with the world.

We start to craft our own from the different things that happen in our life.

When something traumatic happens, the feelings from that moment can remain stuck in your psyche. It then becomes like a broken record, telling you the same story from something that is not happening in this moment.

These stories are stopping you in the same place over and over from getting the big results you’re looking for. Mistakenly, we think these stories are keeping us safe, protecting us from rejection and humiliation.

The fact is: We remain imprisoned by our pasts.

How do we know it is a limiting belief?

Pay attention to statements that have the words “always” and “never” in them as well as statements that contain absolutes in them.

These types of statements are rigid and typically hold a lot of power in their ability to influence your behavior.

But guess what, my friend, if you’re willing to really check, you’ll notice that beliefs are not facts. They’re just stories we make up in our head by attaching made-up meanings to events. They keep you from reaching your biggest potential and they cost us dearly all our lives.

How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

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There are moments in life when something happens. We make up a story about the why and the what. We start to live as if our story were true. Because we believe they’re keeping us safe. The truth is, these stories are stopping you from getting the big results you’re looking for.

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Nila Holden is a baker extraordinaire who grew her business in five years from her kitchen table to being stocked in premium food halls such as Harrods, Fortnum & Mason and Selfridges. She now uses this experience to coach food and drink entrepreneurs. But growing up, Nila was “academic, not artistic”. Sitting at the back of the art class, she scored an E at GCSE. In her mind, art and creativity were one and the same. This held her back from even exploring a creative career.

22 years ago Nila started out in a corporate career. She enjoyed baking as a hobby, more chemistry than art to begin with, but it started to feed her creative expression. Redundancy opened up her chance to explore this untapped creativity. Work with clay crossed over into work with sugar paste. She was forever experimenting, questioning, learning new skills, and allowing herself time to reflect: “If I can do this, what else is possible?”. Many people don’t give themselves the time to explore their real passion and don’t find their real purpose in life. Nila was lucky to have had this reflective time and thankfully knocked the limiting belief that she wasn’t artistic, on the head.

On a roll of inspiration and passion, Nila developed an amazing belief in herself and her business. She continues to stretch herself by reading and listening to podcasts, always exploring the next step. She believes that everyone has creativity within them and her aim is “to keep improving and to make it big”.

Nila has overturned the narrative of her early life. Now she knows that she is both artistic and creative. She has reprogrammed her thoughts and there’s no holding her back!

Taking time to unpick our limiting beliefs can free us up to live fuller, more fulfilling lives, full of confidence and purpose. Once you find your real purpose and knock your limiting beliefs on the head you can achieve more than you ever believed possible, just like Nila.

Nina Cooke, Business Mindset Coach, explains:

“Many limiting beliefs are created in our childhood. Devastatingly, they become part of our identity. ‘I am Nila and I am not artistic.’ ‘I’m not good enough.’ ‘I’m unlovable.’ Mistakenly, we think these stories are keeping us safe, protecting us from rejection and humiliation. The reality is, they’re just stories we make up in our head by attaching made-up meanings to events. And they cost us dearly all our lives.

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Deep down we know we are here to shine and play big. But the stories we tell ourselves mean we hold back through fear. We play it safe. We end up living only half a life. This is where stress and internal conflict come in, as we feel ourselves pulled back from the edge of our calling.

“There is a new voice in me. It’s quiet, but it tells me these things can be done. It tells me that the thoughts of failure are just thoughts, not realities.” Jen Hume, HellYeahTech.com

Five tips to shift your limiting beliefs:

    Pause, stop and reflect

If you feel fear or resistance about an activity, pause. Become aware that you’re in ‘low-mood thinking’.

    Understand your thoughts are not the truth

    Write down your thoughts. Try and identify the stories or ‘lies’ you’re telling yourself. Understand that you created these ‘lies’ by giving meanings to events, but that they are not the truth about you.

    Look for evidence

    Be aware that you have the power to turn your lies into truths by looking for evidence that is the opposite of your limiting beliefs.

    Take back your power

    Stop blaming the outside world for your results. You alone are in command of your thoughts and your life. Feeling anxious or stressed is, simply the result of ‘low-mood thinking’. A thought is just a thought. A feeling is just a feeling. They are not the truth about you and they will pass.

    Talk to someone about your limiting beliefs

    It may help to talk this through with someone else. If you want to change your old, limiting story and create new empowering beliefs about yourself, to live a life of flow and inspiration, seek out the help that you need to make this happen for you.

    So is it time for you to change and embrace a new narrative? If you can re-program your thoughts, you will definitely create a courageous and confident mind set. So why not rewrite your story around new life-enhancing beliefs? What have you got to lose?

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

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    Limiting beliefs are false beliefs that we hold about ourselves. They restrict and inhibit us and generally make us feel miserable.

    “I am not as qualified as the others, I cannot speak in the meeting.”; or

    “I am too overweight to wear that dress.”

    Limiting beliefs hold us back from doing things because we incorrectly believe that we can’t or shouldn’t do some of the things that we would like to do.

    They exist unquestioned in our minds. We simply accept them as rules that we must live by. Everyone has them and they have usually resided in our brains for years.

    Belief or Truth?

    In believing limiting beliefs to be true, accurate, and factually correct we stop interacting openly and freely with certain aspects of our lives. This can have very significant consequences without us even realizing it.

    People often confuse beliefs with truths, when in actual fact the two are completely different things.

    A belief is a personal acceptance that something exists or is true. Beliefs don’t require evidence or proof, and they often rely on trust, faith, and having confidence in something or somebody.

    Truths on the other hand conform with reality. Based on facts and evidence, they can be verified as real and certain. They cannot be argued with.

    Just because we believe something, doesn’t necessarily make it true.

    Of course, some of the beliefs that we hold are purposeful and protect us from harm (for example, if we touch the cooker we will get burned). These beliefs absolutely accord with the truth.

    However, this is not the case with limiting beliefs.

    The Truth about Limiting Beliefs

    Limiting beliefs are constructed from our past experiences. Often shaped and formed at an early age, they are naive, misinformed, shrouded in inaccuracy, and usually simply wrong.

    In short, limiting beliefs aren’t truths. They are not the factual entity that we perceive them to be.

    Despite this, we treat them as sacrosanct and sacred.

    We accept them without question and don’t interfere with them.

    Sadly, they have a devastating effect on the way we live our lives. They hold us back, they cause us to make inaccurate judgments and they curtail our enjoyment of life.

    Even worse, it’s an epidemic! We all have limiting beliefs; we hold them about ourselves, others, our relationships, and the world in general. These beliefs guide us, we follow their rules and we don’t question their validity. We hold beliefs about what we are able to accomplish, about the rights and permissions that we have, about what we are allowed to do.

    Some examples of limiting beliefs include feeling:

    • You’re not good enough.
    • You don’t deserve X, Y, or Z and feel that you’re not a nice person.
    • You’re not attractive/ intelligent/ funny enough.
    • You will fail.
    • You can’t make a fuss and need to keep quiet.
    • You’ll embarrass yourself if you…

    This works whether you’ve adopted limiting beliefs from childhood or adulthood.

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    How to identify your limiting beliefs and get over them

    “We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.” –Louise L. Hay

    Last month, I talked about limiting decisions, how they can be formed and how they negatively impact our lives. (If you missed that article, check it out).

    I asked you to start unearthing your own limiting decisions by asking yourself a few questions:

    • What are the results you’ve produced in the various areas of your life?
    • Where are your results not in alignment with what you really want to be, do or have?
    • What area of your life have you really tried to improve but, no matter what, things just didn’t get better?

    Your limiting decisions are hiding out in the areas where you’re producing results that you don’t want.

    Your limiting decisions have shaped everything you do. They have prevented you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discouraged you from trying at all. Time to bring them out of hiding. Once you do that, you have choice.

    So how to identify those pesky devils? First, what do you say to yourself about that area? For example, if you’re having trouble finding a relationship, maybe you explain it with something like, “Women only want men who have a lot of money” or, “Guys are only interested in younger women.” Anything you say to yourself to justify why it isn’t working out for you is a limiting belief.

    Will that belief sound true to you? Of course! It will sound perfectly reasonable and valid and you probably can come up with lots of evidence supporting it! But it’s still a belief that is getting in the way of what you want. So unless you’re willing to totally give up on your goals and desires, it’s a limiting decision that you don’t want to keep around.

    Sometimes limiting decisions are not that conscious. Maybe you’ve learned to squelch your negative thoughts before they get revved up, and you’ve have gotten good at positive self-talk. So you don’t hear any limiting beliefs in your head. But you’ll know you’ve still got a limiting decision lurking if your emotions are negative about that area.

    For example, if you’re bogged down with financial pressures, how do you feel about it? Anxious? Angry? Hopeless? If you stay with that emotion and acknowledge it for a moment, you’ll find the limiting belief right beneath it. For example, anxiety might be saying, “What will people think of me?” Anger might reflect, “Life isn’t fair to people like me.” Underneath hopelessness might be, “I’m just not strong enough or smart enough to figure this out.”

    Now that you’ve dragged some of those limiting beliefs out of the closet, what do you do with them? In the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) I teach, we have several specific processes to unearth and eliminate limiting beliefs. I can’t teach them fully in this article, but here are some steps to get you started:

    Step 1: Write the limiting belief down. Play detective and follow your thoughts and emotions to discover the limiting beliefs that hold you back. Put them on paper and stare them in the face! You might note how strong each belief is and what emotions they elicit in you.

    Step 2: Acknowledge that these are beliefs, not truths! This is often the hardest step. “But, but, my limitations are real!” Here’s the place where choice comes in. Which are you more interested in: defending your limitations to the death or achieving your goals and desires? As author Evelyn Waugh wrote, “When we argue for our limitations, we get to keep them.” You choose.

    Step 3: Try on a different belief. Use your imagination and try on a belief that is aligned with what you want. It might be something like, “My financial difficulties in the past have taught me so much that I’m fully prepared to handle them now!” Or, “Now that I’ve been in an unhealthy relationship I’ve learned what to look for in a happy, loving partner!”

    The trick is to go beyond just saying it. You want to really step into this new belief and feel how it feels. Done thoroughly, Steps 2 and 3 will go a long way to dismantling your old limiting decision.

    Step 4: Take different action. This might feel scary, but act as if your new belief is true. In other words, if you really are the kind of man women adore, how would you act at parties? Who might you ask out? If you really are capable and have learned a tremendous amount from past financial difficulties, what steps would you take? If you really are the kind of person who eats healthy food, what will you put in your grocery cart?

    If you avoid taking any steps based on your new belief, you will just feed your old limiting belief. Taking action, even the smallest step, will help solidify your new un-limiting decision. Your first steps don’t have to be perfect, just headed in the right direction. And be sure to acknowledge yourself when you’ve taken that step.