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How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

What rates highest in a long-term relationship? Passion is important, certainly, but intimacy rates highest. That’s what psychologist Robert J. Sternberg found in a survey of marital satisfaction among 101 adults who’d been together for as little as a year and as long as 42 years.

Intimacy is the sense of another person fully knowing you, and loving you because of who you are—as well as in spite of it. This requires taking a leap into rare honesty and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. The deeper the intimacy, the more you’ll have the experience of total absorption with your partner, in and out of bed. For some, intimacy is that sense of being “home” in the presence of your mate. Or it may be an increased sense of relaxed pleasure when you see your loved one’s face after an absence.

“If I’m out and coming back home and my guy is here,” said one woman I interviewed for Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way. “It’s as though this is my haven. When I see him in a crowd or walking through the front door, I want to go up and hug him. One of the best parts of the day is getting in bed at night and hugging. Just being in each other’s arms is reassuring, lovely, comforting.”

1. Disclose more to feel closer.

“Intimacy is a process of discovery with another,” writes Joel B. Bennett in Time and Intimacy: A New Science of Personal Relationships. Over time, though, without continued attentiveness, it is easy to lose that urge to keep discovering all there is to know about one another. Individuals that psychologists have dubbed openers have intimate conversations with others because something about them encourages disclosure. Those who don’t open up or make it easy for others to do so, known as high self-monitors, have a more difficult time with close relationships.

2. Make time for deeply emotional conversations.

These are among the times people feel closest. “When we share our thoughts at the end of the day,” one woman said, “when we’re lucky enough to be able to do that, it feels very intimate.”

3. Do something new or big together.

One woman shared instances where she and her partner feel closest, including when they have a productive talk about something upon which they disagree. But also important, she told me, “is when we produce something together. ‘Raising’ of the cats, doing something really nice for friends or family. Like when we’re in sync about ‘let’s do such-and-such for so-and-so.’”

4. Relish the routine.

When we’re new to one another, whatever we learn is unexpected, resulting in intense emotion. Gradually over time, we become more predictable to one another. But there’s a positive side to this predictability, Sternberg found: It leads to intimacy, in which “the partners are so connected with each other that the one doesn’t recognize the other is there, just as the air we breathe can be taken for granted, despite its necessity to life.”

5. Shake up the routine.

According to Sternberg, our interactions in close relationships tend to go along in well-worn grooves, called scripts. Most emotion is the result of some interruption of the script. Keep doing the same old thing, and you experience no emotion. But stop what you’ve always done, and, suddenly, someone feels. Sternberg says you can find out if a relationship is “live” by generating something unexpected, such as one of you going away on their own, or going on a vacation to a new place together. But sometimes it takes extreme action to realize how much intimacy there is, or was. Why not plan for occasional minor interruptions—so you don’t need a major one to wake you up?

6. Make it harder to walk away.

When the marriage of Susan Tyler Hitchcock and her husband was stagnating, they made a family project of a year-long sailing trip in the Caribbean. As soon as they made the commitment and began planning the extensive journey, they felt “pulled together,” Susan said. Their pattern of her expressing anger or disappointment, and him withdrawing, was broken. Also, her habit had been to become terrified of a confrontation, figure she’d been pushing too hard, and drop the conversation altogether. In the confines of a sailboat, neither of them could just walk away, and they learned to talk at a deeper and more honest level.

7. Ensure that it’s safe to be open.

What if you are part of a mismatched couple, where you crave a deeper level of communicative openness than your partner ever will? Comfort levels with verbal sharing typically do increase with practice in an emotionally safe context, so continue to work at becoming a non-judgmental listener.

8. Consider whether you’re a better match than you think.

People vary as to how much intimacy they require to avoid loneliness, and how much they can tolerate before feeling saturated. Those with stronger needs will work harder to ensure intimate contact with their partners, by listening more closely and encouraging their partners to be more expressive. If the need is weaker, then there will be a weaker correlation between intimacy and relationship satisfaction. In other words, if you don’t crave the level of total closeness I’m talking about here, you probably won’t mind if your partner isn’t that keen on sharing his or her own inner life, either.

9. Give credit where it’s due.

The free-and-easy talker can learn to recognize and give credit to a partner’s preferred modes of expression. Some individuals equate communication with intimacy—in one study, more than two-thirds of divorced couples said they didn’t get the level of conversation that they’d expected in their marriages. The women, especially, complained they wanted to talk about negatives as well as positives, and they especially wanted to talk about work. But the “give and take,” the emotional exchange they sought, was missing.

10. Intimacy is more than words or sex.

Only a third of the divorced men in the sample above said that they didn’t find the emotional intimacy they wanted. What some of them missed, though, was their wives being there for them “in much fuller ways.” They wanted concrete demonstrations of intimacy, such as being kissed or asked how they are at the end of the day, and being greeted with open arms at the door. As long as the less articulate demonstrate their love in their own ways, they deserve credit for their thoughtful behavior, as well as extra patience and understanding on the part of the talk-deprived.

This post has been adapted from Loving in Flow.

How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

When we discuss intimacy in a romantic partnership, what usually comes to mind are physical acts, such as holding hands, cuddling, kissing and even sex. While physical intimacy is integral in any romantic partnership — it’s one of the primary factors that sets it apart from any other type of relationship — fostering emotional intimacy is just as, if not more, important.

What is emotional intimacy and why does it matter?

“Emotional intimacy could be defined as allowing yourself to connect more deeply with your partner through actions that express feelings, vulnerabilities and trust,” says Sanam Hafeez, a neuropsychologist in New York City and faculty member in Columbia University’s clinical psychology Ph.D. program. “Part of a relationship is sharing your secrets, talking about your relationship, and telling your partner important news. A couple is generally happier when both parties can share and understand each other’s feelings.”

Ultimately, emotional intimacy creates a deep sense of security within your relationship and an ability to be wholly yourself — warts and all — without feeling as if you risk the relationship itself. Without this intimacy, a relationship struggles in many ways. For example, you might feel bitter or resentful, experience hypersensitivity, have fears regarding your partner’s loyalty to you, or experience feelings of isolation or loneliness.

It’s not sustainable long-term to have a romantic relationship without emotional intimacy.

“If emotional intimacy is lacking, [one or both of you] may feel a lack of safety, love, support, overall connection, and it also will most likely affect the physical intimacy in a romantic relationship. It’s not sustainable long-term to have a romantic relationship without emotional intimacy,” says Rachel Wright, a marriage counselor and licensed psychotherapist. “If you think about emotional intimacy as the foundation of any relationship, it really becomes a no-brainer to invest your resources (time, money and energy) into building it and continuing to nurture it.”

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4 immediate ways to improve emotional intimacy

Fostering emotional intimacy is an ongoing practice and, like many things, may take some time to master. However, there are a few things you can do — starting tonight — to improve the emotional connection you have with your partner.

Be strategically vulnerable to earn their trust

Even if we’ve spent an enormous amount of time with someone, it’s sometimes difficult to break down our personal walls. Though you cannot force another to become vulnerable, you can go out of your way to be vulnerable yourself.

“The practice of strategic vulnerability is critically important. Instead of trying to be vulnerable in every area of your life, pick one place to start,” says Paul Hokemeyer, a psychotherapist and author of “Fragile Power: Why Having Everything Is Never Enough”. This might translate to sharing something that happened at work you might not have otherwise discussed, expressing a feeling you’ve had in the past that’s been hard to share, or revealing a fact about yourself that you’ve been holding onto.

Give your partner daily affirmations and compliments

Whether you’re six months into a relationship or 60 years deep, it’s easy to take our partner’s positive attributes for granted and sometimes difficult to express how much we cherish them.

“Making a habit of giving specific compliments and affirmations to your partner can help you keep perspective as to why this person is special to you, and it can help them know you see them. You never want your partner to feel invisible because you forgot to share your appreciation,” says Hafeez.

These verbal affirmations can be as simple as saying, “I want you to know how deeply I love you” or “I really appreciate the time you’ve taken to do x, y or z.”

How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

Intimacy is at the core of every committed partnership. Well. it should be. But over time and after the inevitable process of settling into the complacent routines of a long-term relationship, intimacy seems to feel further away than it perhaps once was. Sure, you still have those days where you look over at your partner and think “dang! What did I do to end up with a hunk like that!”, but that flame of passion and those burning feelings of desire seem to waver with the different seasons of your life.

Not to fear. this is supposed to happen. I am pretty sure no one came up to me and warned me of this on my wedding day. If they did, I can guarantee you I didn’t hear them. I was in la la love land. But today, I am willing to embrace the fact that my relationship will change over time, and that intimacy is not going to come so easy forever.

Intimacy is something that feels natural at first, and that’s because it is! It manifests as a strong chemical reaction, an emotional connection between two yearning souls that can’t seem to get enough of each other. It is beautiful and so thrilling. But what does intimacy in a long-term partnership look like? What does it feel like?

Well, it looks like a lot more work and feels more like trust, respect, honesty, and intentionality. It is so far beyond the sensual fireworks and surface-level connection we fool ourselves into believing is true love.

It is that, and more. And it is something that must be cultivated or else it will be lost.

Here are five ways to start cultivating intentional intimacy:

1. Go to bed together.

People get set into their routines. Routines get comfortable and end up feeling concrete. If you and your partner seem to have opposite schedules or different routines for winding down at night, making a change in this area will be sure to increase the feelings of intimacy. Create a routine together and let your end-of-day winding down become a space for you to reconnect. Do this intentionally for one week and see what you notice.

2. Reminisce.

Sure, the sparks may not be flying as frequently as they were when you first got together, but those moments should not be lost forever just because they are in the past. Honor your relationship history. At least once or twice a year I will pull out our wedding memorabilia and read through the notes, our vows, look at the pictures, hold one of the last sparklers from the sendoff. I can feel a surge of love for my spouse, and it reminds me to be intentional toward him. It takes me back to the moment our marital journey all began. There are so many great ways to reminisce on your own, or with you partner. Pull out the old picture books, watch your engagement video, talk about your favorite dates. Keep those special and defining moments of your relationship alive.

3. Speak your partner’s love language.

A part of intimacy is in understanding, prioritizing, and honoring the way your partner receives love. We all have different ways of feeling and receiving love. Take the famous Love Languages quiz and find out what yours is. Then have your partner take it and share theirs. Have you been speaking your partner’s love language? We often treat our spouse in the way that WE want to be treated, but really, loving in a way that our partner values will deepen the intentional intimacy you create.

4. Give your partner a gift.

Gifts come in many forms. What does your partner want? What does your partner need? A foot massage without having to give you one back, an evening out while you watch the kids, her favorite flowers, his favorite dinner. from the free all the way to the lavish, give a gift and let your partner know they are loved.

5. Love yourself.

Intimacy begins with you. You cannot be intimate with another if you are not first taking care of your own emotional tank. Your partner needs you at your best, not at your worst or on your last stretch of energy. If you are taking care of you, you are in a better place to put out the efforts of intentional intimacy. Date yourself so you can date your spouse!

Begin to implement these suggestions into your routine this week. See what you notice and explore how you feel. With the implementation of intimate actions on your part, you will experience a deeper connection with your partner.

How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

When we discuss intimacy in a romantic partnership, what usually comes to mind are physical acts, such as holding hands, cuddling, kissing and even sex. While physical intimacy is integral in any romantic partnership — it’s one of the primary factors that sets it apart from any other type of relationship — fostering emotional intimacy is just as, if not more, important.

What is emotional intimacy and why does it matter?

“Emotional intimacy could be defined as allowing yourself to connect more deeply with your partner through actions that express feelings, vulnerabilities and trust,” says Sanam Hafeez, a neuropsychologist in New York City and faculty member in Columbia University’s clinical psychology Ph.D. program. “Part of a relationship is sharing your secrets, talking about your relationship, and telling your partner important news. A couple is generally happier when both parties can share and understand each other’s feelings.”

Ultimately, emotional intimacy creates a deep sense of security within your relationship and an ability to be wholly yourself — warts and all — without feeling as if you risk the relationship itself. Without this intimacy, a relationship struggles in many ways. For example, you might feel bitter or resentful, experience hypersensitivity, have fears regarding your partner’s loyalty to you, or experience feelings of isolation or loneliness.

It’s not sustainable long-term to have a romantic relationship without emotional intimacy.

“If emotional intimacy is lacking, [one or both of you] may feel a lack of safety, love, support, overall connection, and it also will most likely affect the physical intimacy in a romantic relationship. It’s not sustainable long-term to have a romantic relationship without emotional intimacy,” says Rachel Wright, a marriage counselor and licensed psychotherapist. “If you think about emotional intimacy as the foundation of any relationship, it really becomes a no-brainer to invest your resources (time, money and energy) into building it and continuing to nurture it.”

Related

Deep connections Love maps: A daily exercise to improve your relationship

4 immediate ways to improve emotional intimacy

Fostering emotional intimacy is an ongoing practice and, like many things, may take some time to master. However, there are a few things you can do — starting tonight — to improve the emotional connection you have with your partner.

Be strategically vulnerable to earn their trust

Even if we’ve spent an enormous amount of time with someone, it’s sometimes difficult to break down our personal walls. Though you cannot force another to become vulnerable, you can go out of your way to be vulnerable yourself.

“The practice of strategic vulnerability is critically important. Instead of trying to be vulnerable in every area of your life, pick one place to start,” says Paul Hokemeyer, a psychotherapist and author of “Fragile Power: Why Having Everything Is Never Enough”. This might translate to sharing something that happened at work you might not have otherwise discussed, expressing a feeling you’ve had in the past that’s been hard to share, or revealing a fact about yourself that you’ve been holding onto.

Give your partner daily affirmations and compliments

Whether you’re six months into a relationship or 60 years deep, it’s easy to take our partner’s positive attributes for granted and sometimes difficult to express how much we cherish them.

“Making a habit of giving specific compliments and affirmations to your partner can help you keep perspective as to why this person is special to you, and it can help them know you see them. You never want your partner to feel invisible because you forgot to share your appreciation,” says Hafeez.

These verbal affirmations can be as simple as saying, “I want you to know how deeply I love you” or “I really appreciate the time you’ve taken to do x, y or z.”

How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

Intimacy is at the core of every committed partnership. Well. it should be. But over time and after the inevitable process of settling into the complacent routines of a long-term relationship, intimacy seems to feel further away than it perhaps once was. Sure, you still have those days where you look over at your partner and think “dang! What did I do to end up with a hunk like that!”, but that flame of passion and those burning feelings of desire seem to waver with the different seasons of your life.

Not to fear. this is supposed to happen. I am pretty sure no one came up to me and warned me of this on my wedding day. If they did, I can guarantee you I didn’t hear them. I was in la la love land. But today, I am willing to embrace the fact that my relationship will change over time, and that intimacy is not going to come so easy forever.

Intimacy is something that feels natural at first, and that’s because it is! It manifests as a strong chemical reaction, an emotional connection between two yearning souls that can’t seem to get enough of each other. It is beautiful and so thrilling. But what does intimacy in a long-term partnership look like? What does it feel like?

Well, it looks like a lot more work and feels more like trust, respect, honesty, and intentionality. It is so far beyond the sensual fireworks and surface-level connection we fool ourselves into believing is true love.

It is that, and more. And it is something that must be cultivated or else it will be lost.

Here are five ways to start cultivating intentional intimacy:

1. Go to bed together.

People get set into their routines. Routines get comfortable and end up feeling concrete. If you and your partner seem to have opposite schedules or different routines for winding down at night, making a change in this area will be sure to increase the feelings of intimacy. Create a routine together and let your end-of-day winding down become a space for you to reconnect. Do this intentionally for one week and see what you notice.

2. Reminisce.

Sure, the sparks may not be flying as frequently as they were when you first got together, but those moments should not be lost forever just because they are in the past. Honor your relationship history. At least once or twice a year I will pull out our wedding memorabilia and read through the notes, our vows, look at the pictures, hold one of the last sparklers from the sendoff. I can feel a surge of love for my spouse, and it reminds me to be intentional toward him. It takes me back to the moment our marital journey all began. There are so many great ways to reminisce on your own, or with you partner. Pull out the old picture books, watch your engagement video, talk about your favorite dates. Keep those special and defining moments of your relationship alive.

3. Speak your partner’s love language.

A part of intimacy is in understanding, prioritizing, and honoring the way your partner receives love. We all have different ways of feeling and receiving love. Take the famous Love Languages quiz and find out what yours is. Then have your partner take it and share theirs. Have you been speaking your partner’s love language? We often treat our spouse in the way that WE want to be treated, but really, loving in a way that our partner values will deepen the intentional intimacy you create.

4. Give your partner a gift.

Gifts come in many forms. What does your partner want? What does your partner need? A foot massage without having to give you one back, an evening out while you watch the kids, her favorite flowers, his favorite dinner. from the free all the way to the lavish, give a gift and let your partner know they are loved.

5. Love yourself.

Intimacy begins with you. You cannot be intimate with another if you are not first taking care of your own emotional tank. Your partner needs you at your best, not at your worst or on your last stretch of energy. If you are taking care of you, you are in a better place to put out the efforts of intentional intimacy. Date yourself so you can date your spouse!

Begin to implement these suggestions into your routine this week. See what you notice and explore how you feel. With the implementation of intimate actions on your part, you will experience a deeper connection with your partner.

How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

So Connected: How to Increase Intimacy in a Relationship

Emotional and physical intimacy is the foundation of any close and long-term relationship. If you are struggling with relationship problems caused by a lack of intimacy, there are a few things you should do to enhance the connection you have with your significant other. Here are ways you can increase intimacy without beating around the bush any longer.

Create a Culture of Touch

If you want to increase sexual intimacy, stop thinking about it like the movies. Two characters effortlessly hop into bed in films, but this is not the case in long-term relationships. Maintaining a physical connection takes a lot of time and effort. Most people do not experience waves of happiness and lust within seconds like on TV. A good sexual experience involves energy, desire, and communication. If something is not working between you and your partner, change your habits. Take your time to get to know each other and boldly experiment in the bedroom. Be honest about your thoughts, and do not fake it for anyone to spare their feelings.

Engage in some pure romance with the right tools to encourage finishing touches for each other without letting insecurities get in the way. Your pleasure and theirs matters if you are looking for ways to increase intimacy in a relationship. Sexual intimacy is the best way to increase attachment if you satisfy each other’s needs to feel wanted and nurtured. It can help create security while deepening emotional and physiological connections if you try to ignite passion, even if you need the help of a few toys.

Create a Culture of Communication How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

Having an honest chat with your partner is one of the best ways to increase intimacy in a marriage. Open conversations can clarify a lot of misunderstandings that could be holding your relationship back. For instance, if one person feels left out during the sexual experience, they will check out of the relationship because their physical needs are not met. Through truthful conversations, both parties can be honest about their desires and expectations.

Talk about things together to make sure that you are on the same page. Stay open to addressing many factors in your relationship that could impact intimacy. Do not get defensive or argumentative when your partner is trying to communicate from the heart.

This will prevent you both from feeling resentful and unappreciated, which will bring you closer as a team. Then your bodies will start singing the same tune, and those kisses in the mornings will become longer than a peck.

Increase Intimacy Before It Is Too Late

Couples who do not work together to increase intimacy and keep the spark alive are headed for a dead end. Even though stress and mental health challenges can several impact libidos, communication can often reignite the fire. Be honest with your partner and tell them about your feelings and wants.

Listen to them when they tell you about their own thoughts too. Work together as a team to provide pleasure and never take each other for granted again; if you enjoyed reading these ways to increase intimacy in a relationship, check out some of our other posts for more tips.

By Christina Pay, USU Extension Assistant ProfessorHow to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

Empty nest relationships are sometimes viewed as a time when couples grow apart with intimacy waning. Research tells a different story. Intimacy can be defined as the sharing of trust, emotional closeness, and open and honest communication (Timmerman, 1991).В Intimacy in marriage has a significant effect on the quality of the marriage for both husbands and wives (Harper, et al., 2000). Research tells us that committed relationships improve in middle age with partners experiencing more enjoyment together once their children leave home. Most would think the additional time spent together would be the reason for higher marital satisfaction. But, in fact, marital satisfaction increases due to greater [SC3] В quality in the relationship, not the quantity of time spent together (Gorchoff, et al., 2008). This suggests that efforts to improve intimacy significantly benefit the relationship. [SC4] Empty nest couples looking to enhance intimacy and strengthen the quality of their relationship can try the 5 “R”’s of improving intimacy listed below.В

  1. Reinvest in your relationship by taking the time and focus previously centered on your children and career and turning it towards focusing on each other. If you find each other dull, try adding some thrills into your life and your relationship by switching things up. Get a new hobby, volunteer, do the things on your bucket list.В Making things exciting outside of the bedroom will also make things exciting inside of it.
  2. Reconnect. Go on a date and pretend you don’t know each other; meet at a restaurant, arriving separately, then make a game out of getting reacquainted. Don’t forget to laugh together! Whether it’s over shared jokes, new adventures or private memories, laughing together is a flirty and bonding experience.
  3. Rediscover each other. Take a visit down memory lane and explore those things that originally attracted you to one another. Share the things that drew you together; was it his smile? her sense of adventure? the way you felt when you were together? Recalling shared history makes life together more enjoyable and rekindles those romantic feelings you once had for one another.В
  4. Rekindle the romance by increasing intimate conversations and doing simple things like holding hands, keeping eye contact, holding each other in a lingering hug or kissing a bit longer and deeper. As you do, acts like this will become more spontaneous and increase loving intimacy.В В В В
  5. Recharge your love life. Sex is different than it was when you started out together. Studies show that it can be thriving and rewarding. Empty nesting can initiate a second honeymoon phase of life which can ramp up your sex life. Change your sexual mindset to think of what you can do instead of what you can’t. Many things get better with age, including familiarity with each other’s bodies, decreased inhibitions and bedtime moves and techniques that have been perfected over time. So, celebrate those differences.

By improving intimacy in the empty nest relationship, couples can insure more quality and enjoyment in their marriage for years to come.

How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

If you need to improve communication skills in a relationship, that can feel like a big, overwhelming task. But it’s one that has to happen, because it makes every part of your relationship better. “Without a doubt, communication is the most important skill to have in any relationship,” Dr. Michele Kerulis, relationships and dating expert and professor at [email protected] tells Bustle. “Communication allows us to voice our basic needs to others and also provides opportunities to approach topics like sex and romance, stress management, and conflict resolution.”

It’s crucial to a relationship — but it’s also a really easy thing to tweak. So don’t be stressed if you feel like you’re not communicating properly. Because the thing about communication that you need to remember is that it’s the little things that make a huge difference. Yes, it’s really important to be able to disagree and fight well. In fact, being able to fight in a compassionate way can save a relationship. But if your daily communication skills are on point, then actually those big conversations aren’t so scary. Because you know you have the skills to reach each otherВ and you do it before any issue gets out of control.

So focus on the day-to-day things. Here are little ways you can make your communication skills a lot better:

Ask How They Are Daily

Check in every day. Asking “How are you? How was your day?” will not only keep you in touch and in sync, it’ll help keep you in the habit of communicating with each other.

Never Assume

It’s easy to get worked up in your own head about something, but never actually reach out to the other person. “Assumptions and mind reading usually lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings,” Sameera Sullivan, psychologist and founder of Lasting Connections, tells Bustle. Never assume you know what they’re thinking— reach out instead.

Listen, Listen, Listen

Communication isn’t just about talking, it’s about being an active listener. Who is an active listener? “[They] listen to what their partner says, rather than get defensive without understanding the partner’s point of view or where they’re coming from,” Janet Zinn, a New York City–based couples therapist, tells Bustle. So make sure you’re really in the moment.

Don’t Nitpick

Little digs can build up. If you have a problem, say it. Don’t make little commends — they’re immature and they will slowly corrode your relationship.

Have Regular Relationship Check-Ins

Just like you should ask how they are every day, you need to check in about the big stuff too. Make sure that you ask, “How do you feel about us?” and if there are any big changes — moving in, getting engaged, going on holiday— make sure you talk about them regularly. It gives you both an important platform to air concerns.

How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

So Connected: How to Increase Intimacy in a Relationship

Emotional and physical intimacy is the foundation of any close and long-term relationship. If you are struggling with relationship problems caused by a lack of intimacy, there are a few things you should do to enhance the connection you have with your significant other. Here are ways you can increase intimacy without beating around the bush any longer.

Create a Culture of Touch

If you want to increase sexual intimacy, stop thinking about it like the movies. Two characters effortlessly hop into bed in films, but this is not the case in long-term relationships. Maintaining a physical connection takes a lot of time and effort. Most people do not experience waves of happiness and lust within seconds like on TV. A good sexual experience involves energy, desire, and communication. If something is not working between you and your partner, change your habits. Take your time to get to know each other and boldly experiment in the bedroom. Be honest about your thoughts, and do not fake it for anyone to spare their feelings.

Engage in some pure romance with the right tools to encourage finishing touches for each other without letting insecurities get in the way. Your pleasure and theirs matters if you are looking for ways to increase intimacy in a relationship. Sexual intimacy is the best way to increase attachment if you satisfy each other’s needs to feel wanted and nurtured. It can help create security while deepening emotional and physiological connections if you try to ignite passion, even if you need the help of a few toys.

Create a Culture of Communication How to improve communication in relationships and increase intimacy

Having an honest chat with your partner is one of the best ways to increase intimacy in a marriage. Open conversations can clarify a lot of misunderstandings that could be holding your relationship back. For instance, if one person feels left out during the sexual experience, they will check out of the relationship because their physical needs are not met. Through truthful conversations, both parties can be honest about their desires and expectations.

Talk about things together to make sure that you are on the same page. Stay open to addressing many factors in your relationship that could impact intimacy. Do not get defensive or argumentative when your partner is trying to communicate from the heart.

This will prevent you both from feeling resentful and unappreciated, which will bring you closer as a team. Then your bodies will start singing the same tune, and those kisses in the mornings will become longer than a peck.

Increase Intimacy Before It Is Too Late

Couples who do not work together to increase intimacy and keep the spark alive are headed for a dead end. Even though stress and mental health challenges can several impact libidos, communication can often reignite the fire. Be honest with your partner and tell them about your feelings and wants.

Listen to them when they tell you about their own thoughts too. Work together as a team to provide pleasure and never take each other for granted again; if you enjoyed reading these ways to increase intimacy in a relationship, check out some of our other posts for more tips.